How to overcome embarrassment??

Question

Hi guys, i just expressed my feelings to this guy who I had a strong connection with online, we never met in person.....

I met this guy a few yrs ago, we instantly connected and then lost touch for yrs but i have never been able to forget about him, so i sent him an email expressing how I felt, and now that its all done and over with, I feel like an idiot and totally embarrased, what should I do???

I actually feel sick to my stomach, how do I overcome this, hes gonna think im a complete freak... (im not that young, i knew what i was doing, it was a rational decision at the time but why do i feel sick) please helppppppppp

Answer 1

don't be embarassed, you've never met him in real life...just chill and relax...have fun with it

Answer 2

i know you feel "sick" but maybe the course of action you took was only for the best of your interests. although you may not think what you did was alright, i believe that sending him an email containing how you felt towards him was a good step to decide whether or not this online relationship you have between him and you should continue/develop.

it is understood that you already sent the email and you certainly cannot get it back. hence, we can only hope for the best in that he either
1) reciprocates your feelings and will respond with something positive
or
2) he will "think you are a complete freak" (according to what you think will happen)

let's say that option 2 happens. well, the only thing i can say about that is that this guy is an awful person who doesnt know how to deal with people. if he doesnt understand that he is making you feel connected to him adn that he has a personality that reflects your own-well thenhe really doesnt know how to take compliments easily.

if he calls you a "freak" or the next time you have an online conversatino where things feel "awkward" or if he is acting differently towards you...well, then maybe he isnt really worth your time.
yes, i know you may truly like this guy, but sometimes we need to learn to let go of people that certainly dont do us any good for ourselves.
best of luck to you! do not over think this situation you are in. it will only give you results that can help you determine what to do with this relationship you have created with him. and whether or not it is truly worth continuing.
besides, if you never met in person...what is he going to say about you to anyone else?

Answer 3

I think everyone's talked to people online whom they've never met. Except, when you give them kinda' personal info like email or stuff about you, you should be careful. (Sorry to seem paranoid but with all the caution reccomended against Internet Predators, it's hard not to be).

But assuming that he's not some fat pervert who lives in his mom's basement (which he probably isn't) I'd say that there's nothing wrong with emailing him to say "long time no see". Actually, if it was someone you kind of connected with, it makes sense.

Don't feel sick. The guy you emailed has probably done something along the same lines and if he thinks you're a freak, it might not be your fault.

Don't feel nauseous or sick; you haven't done anything wrong or weird. Everyone likes to keep in touch and there's nothing wrong with being the one to make the effort and be outgoing.

Answer 4

Don't worry about it. Guys generally don't think about things as in depth as we women do...i find myself reviewing every word i've said in a conversation but my brother will talk for awhile with his girlfriend and when asked the content of their conversation, barely remembers any topics. Why? Men and women are just wired differently. What can you do about your situation?
1. Don't worry about it. if he thinks less of you, he misses out. If he thinks more of you, then you win. Just don't sweat it. the ball is in his court.
2. Laugh it off. If he does reply or you feel the need to explain, tell him you were just in a weird mood but that you'd rather just be friends. Don't lose a good relationship because you think you've lost face...you may not have.
3. Focus on other relationships. If you really have blown it, don't worry, you'll meet other nice guys. Love and dating have lots of lessons to be learned and you'll be wiser the next time around.

Answer 5

I loved a fictitious Russian woman that I thought I was having a cyber relationship with. I am totally humiliated. The heart is a vulnerable hunter.

Not that this guy is fictitious. He may be thrilled to hear from you. Nothing wrong with seeing what happens. Stay cool. Best wishes.

Answer 6

Take solace in the fact that in 10 years, you wont remember it, or if you do it won't matter to you at all. Just let it go; life is too short to worry about BS that's already happened. It's done, can't be undone, so stop worrying and life will go on. You are what you think about, so if you will your head with "round and round and round" thoughts of some mania, that is all you'll be. Find something more worth while to concentrate on, something skillful, and let it go. ^_^

Answer 7

Research unrequited love.

Answer 8

breath through your nose and get a hold of yourself..he's doesn't know you ....just change your screen name...try not to think what he's thinking and your look back on this later and laugh about it...

Answer 9

dont worry about it. you tried which is good. it didnt work out. you'll find someone else.

Answer 10

ignore it pretend you ohave no idea what they are talking about, and soon it will pass by.