today when i was working in a chip shop A girl came with a costmer ,i noticed her jeans ZIP was open and some people were looking at her ,i felt very bad i couldnt decide to tell her or leave it ,but finaly i took a long breath and i told her secretly,and she done it but i felt that i think she didnt like what i told her or she was a embarased i could tell from her face and this guilt is killing me .Can you tell me did i do wrong or right .. many thanks
2007-06-11 14:47:55 · 13 answers · asked by mmyy sseellff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did the right thing. I am sure that she was embarrassed in the moment, but she is most thankful that you told her in order for her to avoid further embarrassment.
Just put yourself in the place where you were walking around in public not buttoned up or zipped up properly, wouldn't you want someone to be gracious enough to tell you? Of course you would.
Have a great night, you have a good and caring heart.
2007-06-11 15:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's get right to the real point: how would you feel if you were sitting in a public restaurant with your fly wide open while you were eating your noodles and meatballs and didn't know your fly was open, but when you got back to the car you suddenly DID notice? You would turn the shade of that phone booth over there - or that double-decker bus! In other words, bright red.
2007-06-11 14:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing, at least the embarrassment that you caused her is a lot less than what it would have been if she would have realized that all the people in the chip shop saw that her zipper was down. I give you props, it's hard to to someone that you don't know that their zipper is down!
2007-06-11 15:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did absolutely the right thing mate!
the reason she acted like that is because she was trying to hide her own embarrassment by taking it out on you. its called projection, she was projecting her discomfort onto you. its a very childish thing to do, and something that is becoming all too familiar these days. it just gets more and more difficult to be a good guy!
of course, if you ever see her again and her fly is undone again, just leave her alone, she could do with the lesson in humiliation.
2007-06-14 22:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by ktulu_has_awoken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right. I would have done the same. It's good you told her in secrecy and prevented any further embarrassment to her. Her reaction would depend on how you told her which could have made you seen like a pervert or sincere.
2007-06-11 15:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'd want someone to tell me rather than spending the day tottering around my underwear showing. I'd be more embarrassed of finding out when I got home than I would if someone said 'Here mate, your fly's undone.'. You did the right thing.
2007-06-11 15:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing.. for sure.. well it would be weird if u didn't tell her because then everyone would still be looking at her.. n then she might get a weird vibe of something being really wrong. so yeah it was a good thing that u have done for that gurl.. :)
2007-06-11 15:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by MistyBlu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. sure she was embarrassed that you told her, but better that you told her rather than let the next four hours go by before she noticed herself.
2007-06-11 19:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by cobweb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If I were that girl, I will say "Oh! Thank you!" with a smile :)
2007-06-11 15:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Littlestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of curse she is going to be embarassed dont beet ureself up man. she will laugh about it tomorrow. u did the right thing dude
2007-06-11 15:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by krisuk1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋