I mean when a man comes home from work and his wife hugs him and tells him "I love you" etc-etc and then spends time talking to him, asking him how his day was etc-etc, do men like this type of "care and attention?" Yes/No. WHY or WHY NOT?
How do men want their wives to care for them when they come home from work?
2007-06-11 14:33:13 · 19 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Food, Sex, Slience that's what a mans wants from his woman.
2007-06-11 14:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All men are different. Some men want the docile kind and look hard for them (but often can't). The military kind of men probably want women like that.
Some don't. That is, they'd rather go running or do the gym than hugging their wives or spilling the beans about work. Most men can't forget work and they are pre-occupied, which means they have to find their own way of relaxing. I can tell you none of my friends really want to answer in details about their work so that question would only get a superficial response, which would then trigger all kinds of guessing on the wife's part.
These days, most men and women have grown up learning to be independent. As romantic as it sounds, they don't really need all the hugs and kisses to recharge. The younger ones probably go to the video games.
2007-06-11 15:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I showed my boyfriend this question and asked him what he thought because I ALWAYS ask him how his day was when he gets home from work and I give him a hug and kiss and take off his shoes and sometimes rub his feet. I love to help him relax. He said he loves it, he wouldn't have it any other way! I showed him other guys answers like Ross said "thats horrible, leave him alone and let him have a moment to unwind" and my bf said that he would hate that, he would think I was ignoring him or in a bad mood or something. Then there are other people who said "don't over-do it cause then they might think you are treating him like a child" and he said he loves it no matter what, there is no such thing as over-doing it. So there is my boyfriends answer, he loves it! And I know he isn't just saying that to appease me because we have a very open and honest relationship, if he doesn't like something he lets me know and vice versa.
2007-06-11 19:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer for my husband.
Yes, he loves it. I know he does because he tells me that he loves how I "spoil" him.
I don't initiate the conversation right away, except for for a "good morning" when he walks in the door, asking him what he wants for breakfast and bringing it to him --no matter what it is, or the time (he can get home at 5am or 11am, just depends). Before anyone claims I am being taken advantage of, he is considerate with his requests, 5am calls for cereal or toast, something easy...a few hours past and it would be something much more time consuming.
We kiss and hug. I give him a few minutes to get settled, wash up and get comfortable. Then I'll ask how his shift went and if he wants to talk he will, if not he's too tired (he works all night). Sometimes he goes to bed and not much is said, but usually he wants to talk and I'm there to listen. Sometimes he's very chatty, lol, and I'm there for that too.
It makes him feel like I'm interested in him and I care. Who wouldn't love that? I know I love it when he asks about my day.
2007-06-11 15:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by RanaBanana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All people like to be spoiled men and woman. Here's the but doing it all the time he will exspect it that way all the time.. Men are big baby's and need to be spoiled once in awhile just make sure he don't take advantage of it and gives as good as he gets. Your needs are just as important as his. Just make sure it's a two way street and not all about him,him,him a little me me is good too but if he is asking this from you all the time he might be alittle insecure....
2007-06-11 14:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by thebaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved it. And if I didn't want to go on about work, I would just as readily go on about anything else. Very eagerly, too. You don't even have to spoil me. I only wanted to come home from work and put my arms around my wife. The only rule she had was, "Wait until I turn away from the stove."
2007-06-11 14:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would like but I'm not sure cause I have never experienced it. I have allways been the spoiler and I 've allways gotten used and abused by them thinking that my love and kindness was a weakness but it was'nt. Now I know why old men are so cranky and mean. They were probably nice guys once long ago and got abused themselves.
2007-06-11 14:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said men, but let him hip you to game!
Men want that, but then again they don't want that! Every man wants a woman to be submissive some of the time, but at the same time they don't want to feel they have that woman as though she was a puppet.
Women who overdue it normally get used, the man gets sick of them and he cheats!
Sadly, with men there is a such thing as too nice. Men take kindess for weakness! :)
2007-06-11 14:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO, Cos I'm a cancer (astrology) I like to be left alone to relax with my wife in the home, not next to my talking or yapping. When I'm relaxed then its time to talk and how was your day ect.
2007-06-11 15:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by mark533789 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure sometimes the outpouring is nice but there are days when a man needs just peace and quiet !Follow the golden rule, do unto others as you would have others do unto you !
2007-06-11 14:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Caring and some interest is a good thing. Don't over do it.
I wish my wife did more of that. I like it when she does.
2007-06-12 00:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋