I've been on two dates with a guy. Already he is talking a lot about how he is looking to get married and have kids. He talks about what he wants in a wife, and even talks about what he wants his kids to look like and if he wants a boy or a girl, etc. He also asks me what I'm looking for. And when I said I don't think I'll be ready for marriage until a couple years, he said "Maybe I'll come back for you in a couple years then." He also talks about why he would be a good husband.
Do you think he is really wanting to get married? Does it sound like he wants to marry me?
PS He's 29.
2007-06-11 14:18:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like his biological ALARM clock is ringing like crazy!
If you aren't ready...then your best bet would be to part ways - and how could you be ready after 2 dates?
I dated a girl like this once - a week after my divorce - and on our first date she started telling me everything she was going to "fix" about me - and before the night was over she demanded to know what my net worth was - and that of my family business - when I told her it was none of her concern, she replied "well, a husband doesn't keep secrets from his wife".
I never called her again...I recommend the same for you!
2007-06-11 14:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 13:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, a lot of guys just want sex and not a commitment, but a lot of guys are honest and want marriage. The best way to find out is talk to him. Communication is key in a relationship. Ask if marriage with you is something he wants, and whether he says yes or no, tell him that it would take you some time before you could decided that. Let him know sex is not an option EVER, that way if it is his motivation, he will realize that he won't get it, if he wants to marry you he'll stay, if he doesn't, then well, he'll probably leave. Remember COMMUNICATION.
2007-06-11 14:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Asperon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you? If hes 29 and talking that much about marriage, id say hes pretty much ready to jump into marriage.
If you've only been on two dates with him, id drop the guy, he shouldnt be talking about marriage with you after two dates. And he definitely shouldnt be saying "maybe ill come back for you in a couple of years."
If youre not ready for marriage, youre not ready. Dont let a guy change your opinion or push you into anything.
2007-06-11 14:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by kimberly_frye06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to commit he's your guy...if not you should probably get out while you can. Sometimes when people get near 30 they think they need to settle down and might even be feeling pressure from family and friends. Good luck but I think it's kind of odd to be talking about your future kids on the 2nd date.
2007-06-11 14:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by moni_mue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his biological clock is ticking and he wants to get married. This is NOT a good thing - as right now he is blinded and not making logical decisions ... he would be asking ANYONE who has gone out with him twice to marry him .... he is not asking YOU to marry him; but any nice woman.
If you like him, you may consider telling him this & it may snap him out of it - if not - RUN the other way - who knows if he will even LIKE you after you have been married for 5 years and feel traped to stay with him because you now have children.
2007-06-11 14:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Metella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably trying to save time by letting you know what kind of girl that he is looking for; if you are not "wife" material, then he assumes that you will take a hint and leave.
No, I don't think that he is not asking you to marry him; he just doesn't want to waste time dating someone who is obviously incompatible, and he hopes that you are mentally taking notes and evaluating yourself to see if the two of you are a good match or not.
2007-06-11 14:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's ready to settle down and trying to find someone who is ready to do so now. I can understand your trepedation--two dates. At least he is laying his cards out on the table. If you don't want to pick them up, then give him a shove.
I found that "what he wants his kids to look like" interesting. As though you have control over it.
2007-06-11 14:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels that his clock is ticking. That happens to quite a few 29-35 year olds who are single and have not been married and don't have kids. tell him to slow down and that there is plenty of time and that you want to get to know him better.
2007-06-11 14:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is rushing to the alter as fast as he can. tell him u arent ready and if that is what he is looking for right now then u are not the girl for him. its very difficult to find your wife after only 2 dates he couldnt possibly know yet if you 2 are compatible enough.
2007-06-11 14:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by jello80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋