How do u tell ur wife after 10 years and 2 kids u want a div?

Answer 1

Are you serious?? You wan to ask a bunch of strangers somthing like this that is soo important as a spouse? Maybe it would be better to talk to your family or priest,pastor,rabbi,or maybe your best friend. I know i am being hard but this is a life altering event.

Answer 2

My ex and I divorced after 11 1/2 years and 4 kids. He filed, he wanted the divorce. He wanted the free and single life, no kids, no responsibility. Play Station, Strip Bars, Porn, New Women, he wanted it all. He had an American Singles account all set up in anticipation for his new life while we were still married.

We divorced, he dated some and then w/in 1 year married a very Mormon woman with 3 small children. I guess he didn't want to be single after all. Now he's supporting 2 families with 7 children total and still paying me alimony. Is he happier? Who knows. But I do know he's in alot of debt and has tons more bill and a very demanding new wife.

The grass always looks greener on the other side. You'll still have to deal with your ex, probally alot since you still have kids. You'll still have to take care of your children, especially financially. Divorces cost alot of money and you may be ordered to pay your wifes legal fees too, depending on her financial situation.

People become very nasty during divorce, you wife will probally be out to get you. Your kids will be confused and feel abandoned.

Consider all the pros and cons before you make this decision that will affect 4 people, not just one. Marriage counseling and a weekend get a way are much cheaper and funner than divorce.

Good Luck, I wish your family the best.

Answer 3

Two quotes:

1.) Honesty is best policy

and

2.) The truth shall set you free

You have to do the right thing. If one of you isn't happy, neither will the rest. As soon as you cut loose, then the rest of your family can move on. In the beginning things will seem weird and hostile, but time will dissolve those issues. A new chapter will begin for everyone. The kids will get used to the new routine of seeing one parent on weekends and live with teh other majority of hte time. Your wife will have an opportunity to find the next Mr. Right. You will have the same opportunity to find the next Mrs. Right.

So, do what will make you all happy in the end.

Answer 4

YOU DON'T! You have a responsibility to your wife and the children. You made a committment to your wife first of all. The children didn't ask for their lives to be torn apart. You need to get some counseling. Christian preferable. And you need to put a lot of effort in your marriage. Too many people these days are dumping their families for a sweet young thing and the grass is never greener on the other side of the fence. Buy your wife some roses. Re-commit to her. Even if she has gained a lot of weight or whatever, she is your first love. Step up to the plate like a man and do whats right!!

Answer 5

Steve, as a son who's mother did the same thing, and according to the entire family, "destroyed our lives", don't listen to these guys.

NO Matter how long you've stuck it out so far, and who's life it will "ruin" or whatever, it is NEVER TOO LATE. You can't deny what your heart is telling you. It might not seem the right thing to do in society, and it might piss a lot of people off, but you have to do what's right for YOU!

You can still see the kids, and be a good father. My dad became an much better dad when my parents split up. It took the break up to wake him up to a better world. Living a lie is far more damaging to not only the kids, but your wife and most importantly, to you too.

You just have to do it. If you don't be a man and do it now, things will deteriorate until you have no choice. Trust me, I've seen it enough times. You can't lie to yourself. At least, not for long.

Life's too short. Make that break now. Not just for you, but for your kids, and your wife. By not doing it, you're hurting them too.

Answer 6

Does she have any idea its coming?
If the relationship in her eyes has been smooth sailing and its yourself who has the problem, you had better tell her sooner rather than later.
Get your parents/rellies to watch the kids for the night, tell your wife you need to talk, get takeout and talk.
Dont be a *** about it though, unless she has done something wrong to instigate this.
Good Luck
Oh and you are divorcing the mother of your children, not ur children, this is going to be very hard for them to!

Answer 7

If you have sat down and know that you tried absolutely everything to keep your marriage together, and are walking away knowing there is nothing else to try... then I am sure she has a clue you are thinking this. If you havent tried everything.... then for the sake of 10 years and 2 beautiful children... you should at least try to see if it can be resolved..... remember the reason you married her..... and try to see if it is worth saving.... if you know it isnt.... then hopefully you both will understand that and be friendly for the sake of the children. Remember, they will remember the day, just as you will.

Answer 8

Straight up, cause there is NO easy way to tell someone that kind of thing. Regardless of how you tell her, she'll still be hurt. But, you have to tell her, cause holding off and waiting it out for the kids, is only gonna hurt them more.

There's never an easy solution to divorce, it happens, and everyone involved learns to live with it. But, you have to be honest about it.

Answer 9

If you are still reading this post: just tell her as hard as it is it is better living a life of lies and the children will also be better of especially if you can remain friends or at least be respectful to each other in front of the children and never talk badly about each other in front of the children.

Answer 10

Things you need to reconsider. Who's making more money you or her? If it's you, think about 5 years of Alimony, & Child support for two, bills do the math, if you're going to end up broke get a counseling for you & wifey.