What would you do in my situation?

Question

i am 30 weeks pregnant atm,my husband will be going away on a buisiness trip, interstate, by plane for 3 days, i will be 33 weeks pregnant when this happens and i am a little worried about him being so far away from me(i don't have any other support/family /friends in this state)and ill be home alone with my 2 1/2 yr old,i went into early labour with my first at 34 weeks thats why im a little worried this time,what would you do in my situation?should i let him go on his trip or not?
it's like a 2 hour flight from here..

i have a high risk pregnancy this time(due to previous pre-eclampsia),and i don't want to take any risks,and need him close by,i don't drive either.

it's a managers conference,he has to go(to give updates on how he is doing in his job and show what he has been doing(give presentations etc)i dont think he cant get out of it..

Answer 1

I am in the same boat - twice over. I have to travel for work during my 32nd and 33rd weeks of pregnancy. My husband has to travel during my 37th and 38th week of pregnancy for his job.

Our plan is basically to remind work that we are expecting and that if I go into labor, all bets are off. My husband will either leave work back home and fly to join me while I am traveling, or else, he will be flying back home to join me at the hospital (5 hour flight).

The airlines have run into this situation before without a doubt and should be accommodating. He may have to pay the change fee, but I would hope that his work would pick up the tab for that, if they are making him go when they know that it's well into your third trimester.

And there are always ambulances to transport you. If your older child has to come to the hospital with you, then that's how it is. The hospital staff will be understanding if your husband is gone, and there is no one to watch your child. Obviously, a 2.5 year old cannot be left alone.

Personally, I would call the hospital, explain the situation and ask what exactly you should do in the event that the worst case scenario happens. They have done everything before, and I am sure that they will have the best plan. They will probably even be able to suggest what to bring for your child and work with you to have sleeping arrangements for him/her.

Answer 2

Well if he must go on the business trip, the two of you should work out a plan in case you go into labor. I don't drive either, so I know how you feel. Maybe you can talk to a neighbor and see if they would take you to the hospital and watch your 2.5 year old. But don't be afraid to call 911 if you are alone and go into labor, especially being high risk.

Answer 3

If he absolutely has to go, look up the phone numbers for a crisis nursery. I don't know where you live, but in my area there are places that offer 24 hour daycare for situations such as yours. You would just call them, fill out some forms, and they would watch your 2 year while you gave birth.

Hopefully you will be fine until he gets back. I wish you luck!

Answer 4

What's the quickest he could get back, and how critical is the trip?

Edit: if he can't get out of it, maybe best to try to not worry; there's no guarantee that you'll repeat the last labour. But...but those sorts of "conferences" are usually a bit silly; there's probably no reason why he can't mail it in, so to speak.

Answer 5

911 is just a phone call away, hospitals are very understanding and will help with the 2 1/2 yr old. don't worry about him going you don't need to stress yourself. just keep telling yourself that everything will be fine. you might want to ask you doctors opinion on this. if your doctor was concerned I'm sure he will have a solution like admitting you.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Considering your past experience, I don't think that your husband should go on his business trip. You are in your time of most need and he needs to be at your side at all times. Tell him to delay is trip. You know how things happen, as soon as he leaves something major will happen.

Answer 8

if ur husband could reschedule his conference meetin over there then i guess that would be good but if he is only going for a day or 2 then it best him going just now than leavin till ur after 34weeks

Answer 9

Does he have a way out of it??? I'm sure that is a good excuse. Has he asked if he can wait til after you give birth, or if someone else can do it.

Answer 10

I would personally ask my husband to stay. I wouldnt want to risk it, expecially since you went in early last time. I would ask him to stay