If you and your fiancee break up should you give back the ring?

Question

I was in a very bad relationship and to make a long story short I left him and when I did he had the ring and he gave it back to me I said no you keep it and he said no I bought it for you, you keep it. Now its about 6 months later and he is demanding it back. Do you think I should keep it (maybe trade it in for something for me) or give it back. This was a physical and very extremely verbal absive relationship.

Additional Details


*i did give it back and then he told me no its mine*
in the beginning it wasnt bad but after we got engaged it got bad.
we were together since i was 15 and now i'm 20
i just told him in an e-mail i didnt have it anymore.


**Also! I said if it was a family ring I would have given it back but its not. He is saying he wants to give it to some girl in the future he wants to marry and i said NO girl will want a ring u proposed to someone else with and was once ur ex's!

Answer 1

SWEETIE! First and foremost, Kudos to you for leaving him! Now the question is, if you don't give this ring back will he come looking for you to kill you??? If your answer to that is no, then you explain to him AGAIN, you HAD given it back and HE said it was yours! Then, you leave it at that and get him out of your life! Don't waste time foolishly explaining repeatedly to him! Do you give the ring back? HELL NO! Sell it and treat yourself for allllllll the abuse you put up with from the nut! Let me know what you do! Take care!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for you guys breaking up but anyways here is my advice if you guys broke up then you should be living apart right if he knows where you live change apartments or if you cant then just when he calls you check the caller ID if you don't have one then answer and if is him hang up if he comes don't answer the door act like you are not there keep doing that then he will give up and stop bothering you. he can not make you give him something that is not his he gave it to you so it yours now. After a few months pass by get yourself a little gift from the store. Here is something diffrent from that Give him the ring that way you don't get into problems what can you lose is not like you bought it throw at him and say here is this fake ring or cheap ring and close the door in his face(make sure you lock the door). Maybe you can go to court to solve it that is all i have to say i hope you give this problem a solution well see ya hope i helped

Answer 3

I am not an attorney but I have been witness to this situation before. An engagement is a contemplation of marriage and is like a contract. If you break the engagement then the contract is broken. If you have an email from him that states he told you to keep it you may be okay, otherwise I think you have to return it.

I would give it some time to see how he reacts to your email. If nothing more is said then I would do what you want with it. If he is still hounding you about it I think I would let him know you found it and give it back. If he was abusive then you know what he is capable of. Trust me, it wouldn't be worth hassling with him or worrying what he may try to do if he gets mad enough.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Regardless of who called off the engagement, the ring goes back to the guy. The engagement ring is a symbol of the promise and commitment to marry. An engagement period is a trial period in which a couple learn more about each other and determine if they are suitable/compatible with each other for marriage. If they aren't, then the engagement period enables them to break off the relationship, and the ring is returned to the giver. If however, any portion of the ring--the stone or the setting--belonged to the girl's side, then she should still keep it.

Answer 5

This is how it works. There is a break up. (doesn't matter who broke the relationship) You give the ring back. The ring is a conditional gift of marriage. If you didn't actually get married you give the ring back. NOW, since he refused the ring when you tried to give it back, then the ring is yours. He can't have it. He gave it to you, it is now a GIFT!

The absolutely only exception to this is if the ring was/is a family heirloom.

Answer 6

Normally I'd say give the ring back because you are the one that broke off the engagement. Since he said you could keep it I say you should. As long as its not a family ring then you are in the right to keep it.

Answer 7

Many things given in a relationship are considered a present, and they cannot be asked for back. An engagement ring is not one of them. It is meant for marriage purposes only. It was wrong of him to change his mind like that, and it's wrong of him to try to recycle it like that, but let him screw up his own life and move on with yours. Give the ring back, and be glad you saw his true colors before you married him.

Answer 8

I think you should just give the ring back. You don't need any ties with him, and he is using the ring as an excuse to still talk to you. so give ity back and when mister right come he will give you an even bettr and bigger ring. wait untill you are alittle older and know what you want before getting into marriage. its a good thing the relationship ended now if it was physical. no one should put their hands on you. give him the ring back and forget him.

Answer 9

Yes, you should give it back to him. The ring was engagement to you to get married. Since you and him will never even getting married, you should give it back to him. Also, you can do is give him the cost of the ring.
Iam so sorry that it did not work out between you and him.

Answer 10

i think legally a engagement ring is a promise to marry once you don't marry promise broken the ring should go back to the person who paid for it. I AGREE no other girl would want it technically it is his even thou he said you could keep it. You need to be mature just give it back let the drama stop!