.Is there a happy ending, it feels as though worst could be better than how I feel right now! Is there hope?I?

Question

So; I am reaching out to the world in effort to save my failing marriage! I'm probably like a millioln others out there with this feeling of desperation! It is affecting my self esteem, my work ethic, my home ethic, my children, my mind, attitude and self worth, and ultimately it is affecting him, my life's companion! I have so much to work on, it feels like so little time, as a matter of fact, I think it may be too late. His habits, attitude and communication with me are quite harsh, he's sick of me, showing signs of attraction towards others, talks in his sleep of what he's done, calls me by another's name, gets extreme in reaction when I question his actions, brings up the past, causes fights, is doing extraordinary things far outside his norm, getting "ready" before work in a way he never has, wears cologne for work, not me, tells me he's going one place and goes another, doesn't call me nearly ever and seems to get highly angry at things out of the norm...help

Answer 1

Yeah it sounds like he is cheating.....

Answer 2

Hon i'm sorry you're going through this. Sounds to me he's cheating or at least damn close to it and trying to get her attention, but this isn't about him it's about you. You have to be strong for yourself and your children. Pack up yourself and the babies and leave. Move out and get yourself together. You have to . Try not to think about what or who he's doing. You have to take care of yourself and if he comes to his senses fine if not prepare yourself to take the next step. If he has found someone else then nothing you say or do will make him see you or see how his actions are affecting you. He won't see it until he's ready and who knows when that will be. Don't see him. Don't talk to him. Have no contact with him. If he's a good father, set up a scheduled time for him to see or pick up the children but you don't need to be around when he comes. Have a family member or friend drop them off or he could pick them up from either.

You have to take care of yourself first before you could be any good to your children. Hope this helps. Good Luck.

Answer 3

And what exactly are you basing your aspiration to save your marriage on? It sounds to me that jsut about everything to build the relationship on is virtually gone except physical appearance. Ive seen worse marriages pulled out of the bowels of hell and worked so theres always hope when theres nothing else but its going to tke everything youve got to save this and there is no guarantee that you will. Youre going to have to show him that youre willing to walk thru hell for him because thats exactly what youre going to do here to keep him. It will try every feeling and nerve youve got and will probably be the biggest challenge youve ever faced but its worth it if you want it bad enough. With alot of faith and prayers form us out here you can do it. Good luck

Answer 4

I'm not going to tell you whether or not to get divorced, because that's not my place to make such a major life decision for you. However, I will say that yes, you can have a happy ending if you want it, but that happy ending doesn't always mean a saved marriage. I think you'll find happiness by leaving him and then letting time heal your wounds.

Answer 5

No one here is really qualified to help you here. I would ask him to go to couples therapy with you. If he refuses, I would seriously consider whether he is interested in saving your marriage, and if he's not, you have no hope of saving it by yourself. Then it would be time to talk to a lawyer

Answer 6

It doesn't sound good, I think he's doing something he shouldn't and maybe its time to move on. I realize that you have a lot invested in your marriage but sometimes its better to cut your loses.

Answer 7

Dude it's so obvious, let him go