This girl I was friends with stopped talking to me because I was very sick the day of her birthday party and couldn't make it out. I called her and let her know earlier in the day, and I told her I would make it up to her. SHe responded with she was disappointed in me and that I am not a friend and that I dont respect our friendship. All becuase I was sick the night of her party. Should I be upset about this? I feel like if she was my friend in the first place, she would have understood. SHe literally has NOT talked to me since then, didnt invite me to her wedding or housewarming or anything! Any input?
2007-06-11 12:36:39 · 17 answers · asked by BrunetteAmbition 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have apologized to her several times. I offered to go out for a late bday celebration. Everytime I apologized, she would just keep bringing it up and tell me that I didnt respect our friendship. I am just tired of apologizing and the worst part is that she thinks I did it on purpose. I have never blown her off before. SHe seems to be a bit of a princess too
2007-06-11 17:08:32 · update #1
ditch her..........no friend wouldn't understand you being ill.
2007-06-11 12:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by jcampwick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all gurl that is not a true friend cause if she was like she say than when u were sick she was the one that should have call u and ask u how u feeling or is their is anything that she can do 4 u to feel gudd u noe and also like u said u call her and u tell her that u were sick she should be able to say ok next time or that ok than just sayin that u were sick and u don;t wanted to come to her b-day that is not a real friend that u even call a friend. a friend suppose to be their 4 u when u need them, a friend suppose to care 4 u nomatter wat happen, a freind suppose to support u when u in need, a friend suppose to stand 4 u when something happen that is a ture friend right thier not some person that u didn't come to her party than she stop talkin to u that is not a friend that u call
2007-06-11 19:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by nene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is so selfish. If you couldn't make it because you were sick she should have understood. In fact she should have checked on you to make sure you didn't need anything. What kind of friend would let sickness stand in the way of a friendship.
i say she is no friend of yours.
2007-06-11 20:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is really hurt, you may have caused it by being ill but this is over the top you shouldn't be punished for an act of nature, we all get sick from time to time its only natural but she may be hurt alot because it was on her birthday, 364 days you had to be ill and suddenly you was on her day and she felt hurt and it might have felt personal, just keep apologising and explain to her it was only natural and you did offer to make it up and see what happens.
2007-06-11 19:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by dr_frasier_crane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, she is not a friend. The best thing is to let it go. She doesn't want to talk then don't try. She may come around or she may not. You did the right thing and if she can't see that then to bad. I say kiss that friendship goodbye and spread your wings. There are plenty of people who need friends.
2007-06-11 19:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well she's just selfish. i'm sure she had other friends at her birthday party. and if she is an adult her parents didn't bring her up right. you were just sick. it wasn't like you didn't want to be there. you should confront her and tell her how you feel. ask her to come to your birthday party and talk to her then. if she still doesn't budge then hang out more with your other friends and forget about her.
2007-06-11 19:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done nothing wrong. And if you even could drag yourself out of the house you would have gotten everybody else sick.
She is in the wrong, not you. You shoud break it off with her, if she hasn't already with you because a true friend would have understood.
2007-06-11 19:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♣swirley_gumdrops♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was disappointed that you weren't able to make it, and she had originally thought that you would go anywhere, even if sick, for her. Now she's not invited you because she doesn't wanna get her hopes up again. I think she's being selfish and you should be upfront and tell her that.
2007-06-11 19:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ruchi D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. Life does that to us all the time. People we think are friends abandon us. It's not your fault -- if what you say is true (and I have no reason not to believe you) then she isn't a friend at all. Forget about her and move on.
2007-06-11 19:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this is not necessarily a true friend. In my experience a true friend understands no matter what the situation or tries to be empathetic to your circumstances. No this is not a friend....at all.
2007-06-11 19:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how sick you were... and did she know how sick you really were?
If you were really sick and she KNEW how sick you were then no she doesnt sound like a true friend...
2007-06-11 19:41:16 · answer #11 · answered by Short n Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋