Is he cheating?

Question

I have a 3 month old baby and my fiance of 4.5 years and I havent had sex since I got pregnant. I'm 31 and he's 29. He treats me very badly and I asked him to leave 5 days ago and he gladly did. Now I found out he's been talking to a 17 years old girl for almost a year. (I found out when I was pregnant but he says she is a client/friend).He calls all the time. I confronted both of them and they are saying they are friends. I can't stop agonizing and don't know what to do.What do I do?

Answer 1

Dee-Vorce.

You do NOT need this kind of aggravation. You have a child to think about. That child should be more important to you than the idiot who doesn't know what he's missing.

Sorry, I know he's the father and all, but this is a question of respect. Respecting yourself, your child, your life. Doesn't matter if he is cheating or not. He "gladly" left as you said. He's moved on and so should you. Get your fine self out there and find a guy who will treat you right. If you live in the L.A. area I might know a couple.

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Answer 3

Is this man the father of your baby? If he is, then you need to be civil to him, but, keep him at arm's length. Does he see the baby? He sounds rather irresponsible. Decent people do not leave their child.

You do not need to do anything except stay away from him. I know, sometimes the hardest thing in the world to do is to do nothing. You already did the correct thing in having him vacate - try to get him out of your mind.

Get involved with parenting - some hospitals or communities have classes and clubs for new parents. Maybe you will meet more positive people to keep your thoughts filled with good things.

What are you agonizing about? It's over - he is not acting like a grown-up man and it is best he is gone. He has not learned respect and honor in relationships - and he may never learn that. He is off to a very immature and undeveloped start.

Good for you, taking such a positive step in getting a negative force out of your life and that of your baby's.
Good luck.

Answer 4

LOOK - He is a 29 year old man and he has NO BUSINESS talking to a 17 year old girl or being 'FRIENDS with a 17 year old girl. . No 29 year old man is interested in JUST being 'FRIENDS' with a 17 year old girl. Even if they have only talked....he should NOT be INTERESTED in 17 year old girls. I would not agonize anymore....he is NO good and if he doesn't stop it, he will be in a lot of trouble. Now, why do you want him back? He treats you badly. He is cheating on you (even if they are friends..he IS CHEATING on you with the 17 year old), you and he haven't had sex in forever.....sweetie, you deserve a man who loves you....not this dude. Don't let him back in your life, he sounds like trouble and heart ache. Get your child support from him and find someone who will be good to you.....and you WILL find him in time.

Answer 5

Sure, he is probably cheating on you! You said that he treats you badly and you still had a baby with this man? You should have ran from him a long time ago instead of making the mistake of having a baby with him. I never understand why people just don't think anymore. He and his little girlfriend are stuck in your life forever now so just get used to it.

Answer 6

First.. who gives a damn. You need to let him go (I know easier said then done...) but you guys obviously had your own problems before another female was even part of the equation. No sex since pregnant and even after you had the baby. He's not celibate so hes getting it from somewhere if not from you... If you two have broken up then you really dont need to ask the nature of their relationship, and they dont owe you an answer. It will only hurt more and make it more painful to get over.
You and you baby deserve better

Answer 7

Yes, he is cheating on you big time right after you have the baby too. Here's the thing though, it's not your responsibilities for his actions, it's his. But, however you are responsible for your own feelings. Look, you need to talk to him and as kim what's going on and if he still contest that they are just friends...what the hell is he doing with a 17 year old girl as friends anyways???

Answer 8

You asked him to move out and there must have been a just reason for it. Remember, be careful of what you wish for. If he's been whoring around(especialy when you were pregnant) why want him back ant way? You can do better than him and you won't need him. I kinda know how you feel,but trustme, you'll be better off in the long run.

Answer 9

I'm really sorry to have to say this to you, but it certainly sounds like he's cheating. It's a disgusting thing to do when you have such a young child, especially with a 17 year old. I cant imagine he would be having just a friendship with a girl that young - what would they have to talk about? I think its time for you to move on.

Answer 10

That all depends on how you feel about him, The more I read the more I question myu own marriage it seems that some women forgive ccheating men so then men will cheat. But once we do we will always want some of the other piece of pie. Make sure you have your ducks lined up before you shoot.