i'm depressed and i get yelled at for it?

Question

i have to admit i haven't had a very easy life at all. for the past three years i have been on and off depresed, and now its getting really really bad. My boyfriend is dealing with it, but he gets mad because i'm crazy sometimes. I can understand it being hard for him, but when i cry and try to let out how i feel he yells at me. he always tells me to stop crying it's annoying, and i've come really close to suicide (looking for his dad's guns) and he said "use a knife". He tells me it's all mental and he gets so mad when I can't fix it on my own. maybe hes right, but does it seem reasonable that i should be able to go back to normal all on my own?

Answer 1

you need support

Answer 2

No, it is not reasonable to expect you can get better all on your own. Nor are any of the things your boyfriend is saying reasonable.

To date someone like this while clinically depressed is like trusting a monkey to be your surgeon. I know it sounds awful at this point, but you need help, not intolerant reactions from someone who's supposed to care about you.

It's probably not his fault he's so clueless about this. Call a doctor and have him or her refer you to a mental health clinic where you can be evaluated and diagnosed. You will very likely need some therapy, and quite possible some medication. This is a very common illness and you can get through it, but it sounds like he's making it much more difficult.

In fact, if he told you to "use a knife" when you were feeling suicidal, you realize that he encouraged you to kill yourself. That is not a boyfriend. That's not a friend. You should break up with him until you find the help you need.

Answer 3

First of all, Break up with the boy!!!!

Second, find a friend, family member, or a new boyfriend that can make you feel good about yourself. But overall, you should be able to get back to normal on your own, because you can control your own feelings, no one else can control them.

I've been there. My whole family always made fun of me for being depressed and treated my like I was crazy. Everytime I get upset or acted crazy, they always told me to take my depression pills. But I always had friends who made me feel better, made me feel that I'm worth something in this world, before and after the depression. Because I've was constantly pushed and teased around at school and at home. The teasing and the pushing around stopped as a grew up, well not at home.
But, I now know I'm better than that and I shouldn't be bothered by it.

I know you're better than this and you will get through this.

Answer 4

You poor little thing, there's nothing worse than being depressed and feeling all alone. It's so true what they say - laugh, and the world laughs with you - cry, and you cry alone.

This is especially the case when the people around you have never been through anything like this themselves, and have no way of even beginning to understand! Maybe he doesn't mean to be awful, but he really is - you're asking for his help, and he's being a pain in the ***!

See your GP - they can help you find out what's wrong and help you treat it. It is possible to go back to normal on your own, but it's quicker and easier if you have help x

Answer 5

Ideally
Yelling Will Make Things Worse
You Should Tell People To Deal With It
And I Had A Friend Who Wanted To Commit Suicide
He Tried
And Failed
And Overcame It
He Told Me That It Wasnt Him Choosing To Commit Suicide
His Body Was Forcing Him To Do It
And Ive Read Blogs From People Saying The Same

But Suicide Shouldnt Be Done
Its A Terrible Thing
That Can Affect People Who Love You
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Answer 6

When you are depressed it is hard for you to get back to normal by yourself. You should talk with your parents. They will be able to get you help and the tools you need to overcome your depression. And I just have to say I think your boyfriend is in the wrong. He shouldn't yell at you when you try to let out your feeling he should listen, sometimes letting out your feeling can make things a little bit better and when he said "use a knife" it kind of makes it seem he doesn't really care about what your going through. You should let out your feelings to friends and family other than you boyfriend who doesn't seem to care to listen to you and you should dump him.

Answer 7

What you are describing sounds like a clinical depression. This means that you need professional treatment which involves intensive therapy and medicine. You can't just "fix it one your own," and you shouldn't listen to people who tell you that you can. This is a medical condition, just like pneumonia, but you wouldn't hear anyone telling a patient suffering from pneumonia to just "walk it off."

Your boyfriend doesn't understand that you have a medical illness, and you shouldn't really blame him for it. A lot of people don't understand clinical depression. While it's not his fault, it seems like his presence in your life at this moment is detrimental to your health, and you might want to spend less time together, for both of your sakes.

You need to get a good doctor, and begin a course of treatment. This is a treatable condition, and you'll get better. Hopefully, you can find enough supportive, positive people to surround yourself with.

Good luck!

Answer 8

this is interesting. You're looking for help and you come here?!? Just like you logged on the computer, look up support groups in your area. they have specially trainer professionals working with people like you and your age all the time. They will offer you way better advice than the guesses that you're offered here.

SUMMARY: Yahoo answers is not the place for this type of help.

Answer 9

No. You need a boyfriend that will help you through your struggles. You don't even need a boyfriend if he is this big of a loser. He should difinetly not encourage suicide and he should not yell at you for being sad. Dump him, see a therapist, and keep asking for help. Everyone is willing to help.

Answer 10

You have to get help - and do it soon - before things get out of control. Talk to your family dr and get in touch with a counselor. Often, depression can be helped with medicine. People who suffer from depression, cannot help themselves. Its just like an alcoholic or an overeater. Someone can be physically ill and get help so someone who is depressed, needs help.

Answer 11

See a doctor about your depression and while your at it find a boyfriend who is willing to give you emotional support.