My step father is extremely pro life and now thanks to his dumb *** so is my mom. I'm 14. And I want the abortion. I have to get it secretly or until after it's done. I want it soon so that I can enjoy what's left of my summer. I'm 8 weeks. They know I'm pregnant. If your going to push your opinion at me this isn't for you.
2007-06-11 11:17:43 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
P.S:If your gonna kill me a killer then you should call anyone that has ever stepped on an insect or ate meat a killer to. That's for someone who I know is gonna be rude but I'm not gonna call any names.
2007-06-11 11:20:17 · update #1
That's great if dogs take better care of their children. I don't believe in God. So you mean nothing to me considering you can't spell worth a crap. Besides that your probably around 12 or so. Your wasting your time with me. If you think I'm selfish that's wonderful. Then I'm glad I'm selfish. I didn't compare a baby to a bug. I compared a fetus. It isn't living. I'm the one doing all the living and breathing for it.
2007-06-11 11:48:41 · update #2
That's great if dogs take better care of their children. I don't believe in God. So you mean nothing to me considering you can't spell worth a crap. Besides that your probably around 12 or so. Your wasting your time with me. If you think I'm selfish that's wonderful. Then I'm glad I'm selfish. I didn't compare a baby to a bug. I compared a fetus. It isn't living. I'm the one doing all the living and breathing for it.
2007-06-11 11:48:45 · update #3
That's great if dogs take better care of their children. I don't believe in God. So you mean nothing to me considering you can't spell worth a crap. Besides that your probably around 12 or so. Your wasting your time with me. If you think I'm selfish that's wonderful. Then I'm glad I'm selfish. I didn't compare a baby to a bug. I compared a fetus. It isn't living. I'm the one doing all the living and breathing for it.
2007-06-11 11:50:04 · update #4
That's great if dogs take better care of their children. I don't believe in God. So you mean nothing to me considering you can't spell worth a crap. Besides that your probably around 12 or so. Your wasting your time with me. If you think I'm selfish that's wonderful. Then I'm glad I'm selfish. I didn't compare a baby to a bug. I compared a fetus. It isn't living. I'm the one doing all the living and breathing for it.
2007-06-11 11:50:17 · update #5
Do you have another adult that you trust that could take you? Maybe an aunt or a friend's mom? You shouldn't have to go through this alone. I, like your parents, do not believe in abortion (especially for myself), but you need to do what's best for you. Please do not use this as a form of birth control. Protect yourself, so this does not happen again. You need to get this done right away, or it will have an even bigger emotional toll on you. Take care and BE SAFE!!!
2007-06-11 11:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by ulcinderella 2 · 2⤊ 6⤋
I'm not going to judge you or tell you what to do. I hope that you can make a decision that you can live with. Here are your choices, you can have an abortion, keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption. I would suggest that if its possible to give it up for adoption. Adoption is not a shameful act. You can have access to the child or not at all. I believe that you were hoping to find another answer to having an abortion. That you wish you weren't even in this situation. I hope that you can find peace. I also hope that whatever has happened in your life to bring you to this place makes you stronger and changes your life for the better. You are not a bad person, your just someone who made a mistake. As for all the other people who attacked a fourteen year old girl for a mistake, shame on you.
2007-06-11 14:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine_smiles26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should think it long and hard before you have a abortion. Because there is some dangers that you better considered one who ever does it make sure their instrument are sterile. Also make sure they are a doctor not some guy off the street. Also you better talk it over with your parents and the doctor. But if you don't want the baby maybe you should go full term and then give it up for an adoption. Do you know who got you pregnant and then talk it over with the boy and let him know how you feel because it take two to make a baby. I will pray for you make the right decision. good luck. Also go to the nearest Health Clinic or Family and Children service and talk it over with them they might help you make the right decision. this is my opinion.
2007-06-12 21:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you understand the seriousness of an abortion. It's not just "getting rid of a baby". It can actually kill you, if not done correctly. I suggest you do some research on the web first. Also, you say, "it's not living", check out some sites under google Image search, under "abortion photos". No doctor in their right mind will do an abortion on you, considering your age. If something went wrong & you bleed to death, or were NEVER able to have babies ever again, then they would get sued and not be able to practice again. To them, you're not worth it. I'm sure your parents would be so proud of you for stating what you plan to do. Selfish.
2007-06-11 14:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, considering the fact that you are a minor, I don't see you having a choice. Any back alley place will probably kill you.
Your next best option is just settling with the fact that you made a mistake, and give the baby a chance at life with a family who wants a baby and can't have one of their own.
Good luck Hon, and try being more careful if you are having sex. Abortion isn't meant to be birth control, it can mess up your chances to have children when you are ready.
2007-06-11 11:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe your question and all the stuff you wrote down! I can't believe that you want to kill your own baby! You should have think before acting, you knew the consequences of your acts, right?
You will regret forever if you kill your baby and it is a murder, he/she doesn't have the fault of your acts. You want to enjoy summer, but you won't because your conscience. Don't kill your baby, have it and if you don't want him/her give him/her on adoption, give it the right to live. We all have a purpose in life and that baby has one too. If God allows him/her to live, you can't take that right away from your baby. I mean, it is your own blood, you're being so freaking selfish, enjoy summer! ha!
You're 14, and you're young, you want to have fun and I really understand it but it is time to take responsibility, you choose it, you searched for that pregnancy. If you were mature enough to have sex at the age of 14 NOW you have to be mature enough to take the responsibility of your pregnancy.
Please, do not have an abortion. It is not your choice to desire someone's right to live.
Even being pregnant you can enjoy your summer. At least your parents already know that you're pregnant and don't want you to have an abortion, that means that they want the baby. The hardest part of being pregnant at a young age is telling your parents and sure, the responsability but they will help you because no matter what you did you're their daughter and they will love your baby because it is their own blood.
Don't make the same mistake, think before you act.
You're not the first neither the last young person to become pregnant.
I have like a thousand things to tell you but really... I'm speechless with your words.
Hmmmmm........ I just read your details and I'm so sorry to say that you're making your life a mess. You're very young and you can still fix it.
I am young too, I'm 18 and I know that while we're young we like to have a nice summer out of school, go to places, have fun, etc... but we have to be WISE. You don't believe in God but I would recommend you to ask him for wisdom anyways, if you don't do it, anyways I will be doing it for you.
Maybe this is a little out of place, but I really love your name, Jade is a beautiful name and the first time I heard it was when I was watching a brazilian soap opera and there was a girl from Morrocco whose name was Jade and since then I desired that when I have a daughter I will name it Jade... but seeing your actitude I'm sad because I feel discouraged because I'm affraid that it is true that the names influences in a person's personality.
I'm sorry for your parents.
2007-06-11 14:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To have an abortion is completely stupid on your part...better yet having sex at the age of 14 and getting pregnant is really really stupid. I don't blame your parents for being pro life. And you need a your parents to consent for the abortion because your not 18. Have you ever heard of birth control...maybe you should consider it! Guess what your pregnant and 14 because of your stupid decisions now you don't deserve to enjoy the rest of your summer! It's not the baby's fault because she has an irresponsible mother so why would you take it out on the baby by making this life altering decision. That baby deserves a chance as well....put it up for adoption!
2007-06-11 12:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by mel_desjardins2006 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you already have an opinion then why are you asking for opinions??? And how, at 14, are you so calloused? That is actually sad. Life is so short and so precious.
Well, here's what happens in an abortion.
They take you in and freeze you. Then they take a vacuum tube and suck the baby apart and flush it into a sink. Meanwhile the baby (who has a heartbeat, and already has hands and arms and legs) tries to squrim and squiggle and get away from the thing which is hurting it so much.
If you wait until you are farther along, they can't do that kind of abortion. They just use a salt-solution and it kills the baby. The baby is burned to death. Actually, it looks like a fire victim.
Well, sweet thing, if you are decided and can't get into planned parenthood try the following links. The first is a counseling group who does this a lot and can help you.
The others are fyi only.
EDIT:
Problem with the truth???
2007-06-11 12:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Good luck getting any answers you want to hear.
I understand your thoughts, because I was there at the age of 14 also...but I ended up having a miscarriage. Thinking back at my situation now...13 years later, I am extemely happy I didn't have to make that choice and go through with it. I don't think I could live with myself as an adult, knowing I willingly 'killed' my baby. Have you thought at all about adoption? I know it is a hard thing to do and you'd rather enjoy your summer, but please try to think of how this will affect you for the rest of your life. Again...I was going through the same situation and I thought JUST like you, so I know how hard it is to have someone say adoption is the way to go.
All I can tell you is to think long and hard...and good luck Hun!
2007-06-11 11:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tawn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an attitude! You should have thought about this before you decided to have sex. People at your age really need to think more about their future then the pleasure of here and now. Really abortion is not birth control to fix your mistakes. Take responsibility for your actions. Adoption is always an option and there are plenty of people in this world who really want children and are unable to have them. Why don't you give it to them rather then be selfish and think only about
how crappy your summer is going to be. People like you who have not grown up should not be sleeping with anyone! If you really thought people were not going to tell you their opinions then you should not have posted this question.
As for your "your probably only twelve remark" even if they are they are obviously more mature then you are.
2007-06-11 13:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am not here to judge you but you should really take the time to think about what you want to do. Yes you are young so that is a bit of a disadvantage because it would be difficult to support a child. However, have you considered having the baby and putting him/her up for adoption. There are hundreds of couples who would love to adopt a baby. Do you know that there are many women out there who want kids but can't have them? Its your decision what you choose to do. If you really want to have an abortion you are too far along to take the pill orally that causes abortion. Your next option is to surgically remove the baby, they will suck it out. I am not too educated about exact details because I think it is disgusting for them to vacuum a baby out. But if thats what you want then you should go to a clinic and discuss your options. Good luck
2007-06-11 11:29:19 · answer #11 · answered by voiceofanangell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋