Who is that honest that she would describe the pain she had to endure during birth as unbearable??

Question

How did you try to cope? What were your words and thoughts while getting through it??

Answer 1

i convinced myself the pain would be so bad id die, im still alive and compared to that it wasnt unbearable, i had no meds no stiches and i didnt even swear. the only thing i uttered was to my partner which was, do you know this hurts?!, can't be that bad im doin it again!

Answer 2

The first time going through labor, I was somewhat calm in the beginning but then fear set in. I made it to 4cm and had to wait 90 minutes for the anesthesiologist to show up. After the first 15 minutes of waiting...I got scared that the anesthesiologist would never show up. No matter how much I tried to do my breathing and relax, I started to panic about the pain getting worse and worse. That caused me to tighten up making the contractions unbearable. I could not get comfortable. Nothing was stopping the pain. I sat up, I lay down, on left side, on right side...nothing was helping at all. I burst into tears, yelling and screaming at my husband. Yes...just like in all the movies..hahaha.

Looking back, it was the fear that the anesthesiologist would never come and I'd have to go through it all with no epidural that really affected me.

With the 2nd pregnancy, I knew what was going to happen so all that breathing actually helped. I tried to meditate and sort of zone out during the contractions and that really helped. Much quicker and easier the 2nd time around...though there was still a lot of pain.

Oh and one more thing..everyone always told me that once you see the baby, you'll forget the pain. Totally untrue. My older child is almost 3 years old and I still clearly remember the pain...every minute of it.

Best of luck.

mari

Answer 3

Mine was unbearable and I told my husband that it would be the only time I would do this. About an hour after the birth I retracted my statement. I didn't get an epidural, I just tried to breathe throuhg contractions. My labor was only 2 hours and my doctor said the pain was more intense becasue my body did in 2 hours what most's do in several hours. I'm trying to get pregnant again, so I guess that pregnancy amnesia is true.

Answer 4

As much as I try to avoid the topic, I get to go through it again in 3 months so I might as well revisit it. Remember that I did not have an epidural (my choice) and I still don't want one with this delivery even after all I went through.

The pain of childbirth wasn't what killed me, it was the hard labor for 3-4 hours where I was holding at 9.5 cm and the stupid nurse told me to cross my legs and hold him in if I had to because I wasn't ready and I could do serious damage if I tried to push. Nobody told me to just let my body do the work with the contractions, which is what I had done for the past few hours and why I had progressed so quickly and easily from 6-9 cm in just 2 hours! So here i am literally fighting the contractions causing myself immense torture instead of letting nature do it's job. When they finally let me push (new nurse!) it felt SOOOOOO good. Seriously, it felt wonderful to actually be doing what my body had been telling me for about 2 hours to do! It was really hard, my baby was facing the wrong way and his shoulder was stuck so this was all back labor, but he was finally born. I actually do not remember what it felt like when he came out, I remember it hurting a lot all of a sudden as he crowned but nothing compared to the contractions! I just remember suddenly he was out and I couldn't believe it. Of course, during the labor part I told my husband I would NEVER go through it again and that I was absolutely done having children and I seriously meant it. That particular feeling went away after a few days. The best lesson I learned was to let your body do the work and listen to it as well as your doctors. Women have been delivering children without medicine for thousands of years, we have the strength in us to do it and to bear the pain of it. Recovery is a whole other story... get through delivery first though!

Answer 5

I can honestly say that during my sons birth it was not that painful. It was painful when I was dilating. I was in labor for about 10 hours and I felt my back was cracking open. I lost consciousness for a while only to come back vomiting. I refused any type of medication so my sons birth was as natural as can be. For those 10 hours I thought I was going to die of so much pain I felt in my lower back. Then after I dilated and my water broke, my son was on his way and fast! When I finally gave birth it was a relief. Giving birth to me was not the hardest or painful part its the getting ready (dilating stage) but its all worth it when you get to hold your angel in your arms.

Answer 6

With my first, 25 years ago, I did it all natural. I thought iwas going to die it was by far the worst pain that a human can endure. My second, 19 years ago, I did an epidural, bliss. And with my last one, 11 years ago, I did the epidural again... very nice, I recommend this to all women, when you use the epidural you can enjoy the whole experence. i would have 1,000 babies that way... Total Bliss

Answer 7

yea its the worst pain i have ever experienced but it only last a little while.it'll be over. and a few weeks after the birth you'll be back to your old self. i have a low tolerance for pain and said i would never have another one and that was 2 1/2 years ago and now im pregnant again due next month. its really ok jus look for the joy after the pain.

Answer 8

Okay....I have had three baby's...no drugs...I don't do it to be She-ra....my main motivation is for control....I had to be in control....a women's body knows what it is doing...we are made to have a baby....it HURTS A LOT...but it is a pain you can handle....there are moments you think....WHY WHY OH WHY did I want to do THIS....your body feels like you are running a 20 mile marathon.....you breath heavy....your mussels hurt...your brain hurts.....near the end of labor you feel like you are misplaced...or in another world....you go to the right side of your brain.....and feel an out of body kind of feeling.....with each contraction you calmly breath and feed yourself positive thoughts....like....I can do this.....this is normal....and the pain comes to a peak last for a while then slowly relieves...you rest for three to five min....and start again....now deliver is different with each child...but the faster they go out the more it hurts....it like fire on personal area...but that part is so short and goes away soon after the baby is born.

Answer 9

Mother****** this hurts.

Shut the **** up and, my personal favorite,

GET THIS F****** KID OUT OF ME!

Yikes, I am slightly appalled by this now, but you do what you have to do to get through it.

The best piece of advice is to just BREATHE through each contraction and have the support of several people, not just the nurses. I had my husband repeat to me over and over--you are doing good--you're doing good--you can do this--you can do this---I need you to breathe honey, just breathe. That helped the most. Any other comments just annoyed the heck out of me.

Answer 10

I actually would not descrive it as unbearable. I did not feel any pain really. Just pressure when at 10 cms. No epidural, didn't want one and didn't need one.