i feel like i am but im only 15, and evry time i see jessica alba or sum1 in star or us i spend up to 5 min looking at it smiling stupidly as i watch that great smile, completely disregarding the brad pitt or johnny depp beside it. how do i no for sure?
2007-06-11 10:24:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No you're not too young, but right now it's important that you enjoy life, meet new people, make new friends, enjoy your hobbies. Don't worry too much about labeling yourself yet. Give yourself a little time. If you feel sure that you are more than curious, contact a gay center so you can tak to others who feel the same way. Also contact PFLAG- a nat'l group that educates, supports, and advocates for the families and friends of GLBT people. They wil find info for you, maybe groups or other people in your area. Good luck, sweetie.
(I was 27 and married before I got wise.)
2007-06-11 10:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People discover their identities on their own time. Some very early in childhood, some at the end of adolescence. You being 15 is right in the peak of the challenging time of adolescence and there are a lot of changes going on and many confusions. I think besides turning the television off, you should just focus on your studies and find the things you are really good at, so that you can help others and find out what you can do for your future. By the time you are an adult, you will really know who you are.
2007-06-12 03:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by naturalissexy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't know for sure for a while, as long as your world revolves around idealized movie idols and not the real people around you. When you get more socially active, it will be clearer to you. The usual rule is, who do you focus on when you are around both guys and gals, the guys or the gals? When a couple walks up to you, do you check out the guy first or the girl?
Meanwhile, it isn't important, there's no need to know "for sure." Just be yourself. There's no line you have to get in or any punishment for getting in the "wrong" one. Get to know lots of people and eventually you'll notice who you're more comfortable with. Most people figure it out by the time they finish their first year of college, if they haven't before then.
2007-06-11 17:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 is awfully young. Considering how immature 15-year-old males are, it's a wonder that all 15-year-old females aren't thinking the same thing.
Try waiting until you see someone in the real world you feel really attracted to, not hypersexualized pop-culture icons. See then what gender that person is. And let that answer your question, at least provisionally. In other words, look at the person first and their gender second.
2007-06-11 18:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Skepticat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be gay, but don't overlook the possibility that it could just be your hormones kicking in. I remember when I was 15, it wasn't pretty.
Also, when you see a beautiful woman like Jessica Alba, you may be subconsciously aspiring to look like that. If that's the case, then you are in love with the way she looks, and not necessarily her.
2007-06-11 17:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by righteousjohnson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figured out that I was bi when I was 13. There really is no way to know, but it'll just kinda come to you. Think of this...Can you imagine yourself with a woman in 10 years? Can you imagine yourself with a man in 10 years? Just think about those two questions then you might come up with some great insight. If you ever need someone to talk to, just email me.
2007-06-11 18:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the only thing I can say is that you'll just know. Being 15 and attracted to both sexes isn't unusual-- hormones are running rampant and what you're experiencing may or may not change.
Just be yourself-- don't push to be straight or gay-- just go with your feelings and don't be angered by the confusion.
2007-06-11 17:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Bogart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young... give yourself some time to figure it all out... you are at a confusing age, were everything may be really hard and really confusing... just wait it out a couple more years... it will all be fine. Maybe you are just bi-curious, but you wont know that until you've actually "been" with a woman and a man.
2007-06-11 17:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by ItalianPrincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well looking at a girl on a magazine could be because you think she's pretty or you're admiring her or wanting to be as pretty...it doesn't mean you're gay. if you're not sure then dont worry about it. when someone special comes along do what feels right. just be happy with who you're with...you'll find the right person someday and whether you're gay or not wont matter just let relationships with boys AND girls happen naturally and you'll know judging by who you're with.
2007-06-11 17:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by jme19914fun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
¬It could be that you just subconsciously long to be these women, or look like these women. I think you cannot understand what you want until you have at LEAST finished puerty. Your hormones are so out of wack right now, and you body is still trying to figure out who it is and what it wants. Don't worry though. We ALL go through it. It will get easier I promise.
2007-06-11 17:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by BitterSweetDrama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋