What is and is not love?

Question

What is love, and what can be mistaken for it? I always read questions like, "Do I love him?" and some answers are "You can't love him unless you know him." What is and isn't love?!!?!?!

Answer 1

Different people from different cultures have different views on love, and on what is acceptable or not in a romantic relationship or in a marriage.

In my opinion, love is a wonderful thing. It feels fantastic when you feel like you are number one in another person's life, and they are number one in yours, too. Love is kind, it is patient, it is understanding......Unfortunately, many people confuse love with "lust" and make up terrible mistakes.

I guess I'd say that love makes you happy, gives you joy and makes you enjoy life. People who love you want good things for you, not to see you suffer or be in pain.

Answer 2

Love is an emotion. As an emotion it's sole purpose is to motivate activie. Thats it. Now love has influnce are activities all of our lives. If you felt anything for anything it was because love of it drove you. Curiousity is driven by a love of a subject. Imagination is drive by a love of a certian reality. Motivation its self is dependent almost soly on your ability to love at that time. See what gets us caught up isn't the love, its the FEELINGS that we associated with the thing we love that causes a cascading effect that makes it so there itsn't a single thing in our lives that we CAN'T associated with them. This is what falling in love is. Its a phonoemana of our make-up, just like storms are a phonemana of the atmoshpere. Now this doesn't make it any less magical, but it does show you why we fall in love with the wrong person most of the time. The depth of our ability to feel for a person increases thru experience, thru self-exploration, thru maturity, thru living life and understanding it. And only thru this do we began to actually develop more and more deep and meaningful relationships. Its a process no one is born a great lover, great lovers are made...... besides that we run into the problem that the truth is that friends make great lovers, but lovers don't make great friends. This creates a caugh-22 in our intimate relationships were we began to depend on a stranger for our sense of belonging and purpose which in the end destroies most relationship sense we never loved each other deep enough to make the next step in our growth. Since as we began to fall deeper and deeper in love it all depends on our ability to associated the way they make us feel with the feelings and memories and dreams that we have. As this begans to loosen or slack over time relationships tend to burn out or end aburptly. Now if we can continue to grow together, remake the feelings we feel more towards each other the relationship we strenght and we become like one in a sense. Its this drive towards an almost sigularity that makes love intense, incredible, and so magical and special. Unfornatunely we have a culture that belives it needs to be down the opposite way......