When two gay marry each other, than what???

Question

How will thay get kids???? And if they got by adobtion or whatever, do u think it's a good enviroment for raising kids, cause always kids need a father figure, or a mother figure???

excuse my miss-spelling, i didn't read it before i post it

Actually i have no father, he died two years ago, i'm a teenager, and i just miss him, and need someone to talk to about certain stuff!!! Two mothers won't help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Not all married couples want kids, but adoption or surrogacy are possibilities.

I think any environment where the children are loved and cared for is good.

There are many families that only have a mother or a father.

Answer 2

Your question seems rather uneducated.
Not every couple wants kids. Even straight couples sometimes decide against having children, or find out they can't have their own. If a gay couple is stable- emotionally & financially- they can start the adoption process. There are a lot of babies out there that need a loving home.
Since 50% of straight marriages break up, what is the positive side to only raising children in a married straight environment? If there are men and women friends and relatives involved in helping the gay couple raise the child, the child will learn what male and female people are capable of doing.

Answer 3

Just wanted to say that I'm sorry for the loss of your father. I hope you can latch on to another male relative or neighbor for "guy talk." Teachers are gun-shy these days about getting personal with their students, so that avenue is limited. The same with coaches. And the Internet is risky on your part. However, don't discount your mom's ability to understand. Don't forget that she was married to a man for many years! And had/has a father of her own.

I agree that kids should have a mother and a father. But like in your case, it doesn't always work out that way. My vote is for adoption, since two dads or two moms is much better than none of either.

By the way, gays don't usually marry just to have kids, any more than most men and women marry just to have kids. Kids are often just a consequence in the latter case, not the goal. People marry primarily just to be with each other. And many married couples, both straight and gay, choose not to have kids.

Answer 4

many times gay people who get married have a happy and fullfilling life. Obviously there are cases when it doesn't work out like with straight couples but that doesn't happen any more often.

In some places they can adopt kids also. Although i don't think that this would be in the best interest for most children. I'm gay myself and never want to get married or adopt little brats.

It probably is better if kids have a mother and father figure

Answer 5

Well, how do single parents do it then if kids need a father and mother figure? Isn't it more important that the kid feels love from two adults who are caring for him/her than for the child to grow up alone in an orphanage? What are you doing as a straight person to help kids out that have neither a monther or father? My guess is nothing.

Answer 6

The best environment for any kid is with loving, caring, involved parents. The sexual orientation is irrelevant; often, gay parents go out of their way to seek out positive role models of the opposite sex. Which is more than can be said about the millions of absentee opposite-sex couples that expect the schools and TV to raise their kids for them. Their mother and father figures have no time for them. What people tend to forget is that for straight couples, kids just happen; for a gay couple to raise a family requires a conscious decision, deliberate personal sacrifice, and a lot of careful planning.

Answer 7

Obviously if two men or two women marry they will either adopt, have children utilizing a surrogate or be childless. Of cours many heterosexual couple face those same options. Having children is not the only reason to marry. As for your other question, I believe any loving relationship and caring home atmosphere is a good one for raising kids. Many kids spend their lives bouncing from foster home to foster home, or even worse are raised in homes lacking love all together.

Answer 8

It happens every day. It just depends on how the child takes to that particular situation... if they have an open mind, they will be fine. I was raised without a father and I turned out fine... my brother on the other hand, still holds a horrible grudge. It doesnt matter if its a man and a woman, two woman or two men... love is love no matter who it comes from.

Answer 9

Then what?

Then *the Honeymoon*, baby. Yeah!

Why would anybody want kids? They are not the result of all heterosexual marriages.

I have one female cousin who had a hysterectomy at 28 years of age. At 40 years of age, she married a 35 year old man who had had a vasectomy at 25 years of age. They never had kids with each other, and vever adopted. It didn't make their marriage any less valid.

As for children...I don't believe that most gay people were put here to physically reproduce. Adoption of older children for those gay folk who are *emotionally, mentally and psychologically prepared* for the unique responsibilities that adoption of older kids entails is another matter entirely. There are many older kids in the system which are not easily placed, as most people want the younger kids. Gays might serve quite well as foster parents.

I do agree, children need good male role models. Not just male, but *good* also.

Namaste.


EDITED TO ADD:
If you need an older male to bond with and talk to, go to your pastor or youth director. Also, you can go to the local boys club. The famous and talented actor Denzel Washington was a member of the boys club, and it helped him greatly in his youth.

I can relate to your problem. I was unable to identify with any of the females in my enironment, I only identified with the males, and would have benefitted greatly form being able to talk with one of them and hang out and stuff. But the older males in my family enironment were either uninterested in talking to a little girl, or they were afraid that someone would think it was inappropriate. I needed to talk to them, but they wouldn't or couldn't.

You are in a better position than I was. Reach out to one of the guys in the boys club or a leader of a church group. It will surely help you. God bless, and the best of luck to you, doll. :-)

Answer 10

Wow. If kids need one female and one male in the house then mine are just SOL.

I am out of the house (i'm Mom). They live w/ Dad/Mamaw/Papaw/Uncle and visit me.

And yet they seem very well adjusted little people.

Children need love, acceptance, and limits. There is no difference between a "gay" household and a "straight" household that is not present from house to house anyway.