im 16 have a 1 year old and my baby father in jail. hes 27 years old so im rasing the baby on my own. im in the 9th grade and have a boyfriend . im pregnant again. i want to keep it but what if hes not their when the baby is born what should i do?
2007-06-11 09:14:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What were you doing having sex w/ a 27 yr old man when you were 15????? Im sorry but Im in the 9th grade and thankful my biggest worry was cheerleading try outs! If you are going to continue having sex...please use protection!!! Are you able to handle 2 children at your age?? If you are living at home...ask your parents if they will be able to continue to help you..girl..get your head on straight!!!
2007-06-11 09:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by TxBeautyQueen 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
After getting pregnant at 15 with your first child, were you not thinking clearly having sex AGAIN unprotected to get pregnant a second time? I mean COME ON. I understand, pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but not at 16 with a baby already. You need to start talking to a responsible adult and get on some free birth control at your local women's clinic. You're the reason that so many taxpayers are paying for welfare people. Not saying that anything is wrong with welfare/food stamps/assisted housing at all, but when it is abused, as in your case, you could have taken preventitive steps to NOT get pregnant a second time. How are you going to finish highschool or have a productive job to support a 2 babys? I know the 27 year old isn't supporting you, which is sad in itself. So, how exactly will you ever become a productive human being? Oh yeah, I just remembered how you said you are 16 and only in 9th grade. I was in 11th grade at 16. I graduated at 17 in June. Tell me, doesn't the quality of your life have any impact on how you feel about yourself? I think you need to do a little self-reflecting and figure out more about yourself.
2007-06-11 09:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in school I would assume that you are living with your parents. AND if you already have a baby I would assume they are helping you and are alright with that. Tell them (although I'm sure it won't go over as well this time as this already happened!!) I don't know how a 16 year old can raise a child, let alone two. Consider adoption with a family member so that you can stay close, or an open adoption for the same reason. I am 21 and I feel that I was too young to have a baby eight months ago. Best of luck, get on birth control after this!!!
2007-06-11 09:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by new SA mama 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding? I had my first baby at 21 and I wish I would have waited. For one your 16 and he is 20. You get pregnant, something is not gonna go right and your boyfriend will leave you because he doesn't want to deal with it. Then what? If you do stay together the pressure of having a new baby will kill your relationship. Your to young! Wait~Finish school, get a job, move into your own house, and for heavens sake have a little respect for your pops. Parenting is a hard job, Im sure he is doing the best he knows how to.
2016-05-17 10:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry did you not learn from the first time and is that why the 27 year old is jail from jail bait. And your pregnat again well is probably best if you look into home schooling so you can finish your education get on WIC,Medicaid,if you don't have it already your going to need it. Money what are you going to do hit up child support from the 27 yr old. You really didn't learn anything.
2007-06-11 09:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
wow! What a situation! I'm glad your still in school. Have you spoken to ur boyfriend yet, do you think he will hang around. Maybe you are worrying about nothing... or at least should wait until you know for sure before you start worrying. My guess is that if you really want to keep this baby, you will find a way to cope. After all you are managing with a one year old without the father. Good luck
2007-06-11 09:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by ஜBECஜ ~Mama to Lucy & bump~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should consider adoption. I'm sure its already hard with one child, but adding another one in the mix will make life even harder.
I'm not trying to come down on you at all, but 16 and in the 9th grade is not good. You're running about 2 years late. You should focus on your education and making a better life for you and your child. Leave these guys alone for the time being until you get yourself in a better situation.
2007-06-11 09:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sign up for WIC and Food Stamps. Get child support.
Consider visiting planned parenthood and getting birth control after the baby is born.
2007-06-11 09:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would be surprised on how many caring guys are out there. If the second dad is not around, I am sure you can find another man at you school or club that would understand the situation.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, don't be obsessed with just one man. Good luck.
2007-06-11 09:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony Y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to finish school sweetie. I know you night hear this a lot but it is true, you have get some kind of certificate or GED. Its gonna be a hard road but you will make it if your determined. If he is not there you are going to have to find a support system. If you want to keep it than keep it. If this guy wont step up and be there you should start looking in different places for men. Sit down and talk to him, let him know you cant do it yourself. Oh yeah get your child support too. Good Luck and god bless.
2007-06-11 09:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Oreomami318 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋