He promises he'll be faithful to me...and we're happy as any other engaged couple, but I know he has bi tendencies. Is it inevitable that he'll wanna cheat with men, or can he be faithful.
How about if sometimes "play man" by using a dildo on him...is that enough?
2007-06-11 07:57:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One of my straight female friends was in a situation very similar to this a few years ago. It ended very badly and bitterly. Only you can make the decision however if you are questioning whether or not you should do it then you probably shouldn't.
2007-06-11 08:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Corey D. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, I would not recommend it. Of course if both of you are deeply in love, can sit down and reason all this out, and come to an agreement about what is expected, then you might want to consider it.
I am a bisexual male and have been married for 30+ years. We have children. Although I sometimes have the urge for sex with another guy, I have always suppressed it for the sake of my marriage. My wife and family mean everything to me and there is no way I would ever consider exposing them to HIV or any other STD's as a result of a clandestine affair.
I can do this because my sex drive is low. However, for a man with a normal or high sex drive, marriage is probably going to be a disaster. That is the reason that I would not recommend it.
2007-06-11 15:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by randy_plrm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to cheat on him with other men? It's the same thing. Being bisexual doesn't mean you can't be monogamous, it just means you're attracted to members of both sexes. It doesn't mean you have to have both all the time for the rest of your life. We're not greedy w h o r e s. If you two are happy and you trust him and you have a good relationship there's no need to worry he'll cheat with another man, no more so than you'd worry about him cheating with another woman. It's not all about the sex.
2007-06-11 15:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simply because he's bisexual does not mean he cannot be faithful. Anyone can cheat, straight, gay, bi. It doesn't matter. What is important is that you both make a commitment to each other and stick to it. I've seen to many relationships fall apart because the people involved are not talking with each other or listening to each other. You seem to have the communication part covered. As long as you two are happy, in love and want to get married, go for it. Just remember to keep talking to each other and to always listen to each other. As for the sex life, ask him what he needs. And don't forget to state your needs as well.
2007-06-11 15:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by choel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, it sounds like you have trust issues...if you are questioning this, what does that say about your feelings toward him?
any man or woman can cheat during marriage...it doesn't matter what their sexuality is. it's a misconception that bisexuals would need to be with both genders. if he loves you and says he will be faithful, what more can he do?
in fact, i'd say it's pretty remarkable that he's been so open and trusting with you to let you in on his bi tendencies.
i'd say you have a frank and open discussion coming up, preferably before you walk down the aisle.
2007-06-11 15:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jnr528 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to judge you at all in this situation, but you have asked the question. I don't believe a female who marries a male who is having sex with both women and men is a safe, sound individual. I'm sorry, but a man who has sex with another man could very possibly bring you HIV/AIDs or some other drastic disease - no matter how safe they say they are. Why would you want to share your love, affection, hope, dreams, heart, soul, body, and everything you possess with someone who is not going to be faithful. Some people may be able to do this and have a wonderful life, but as far as I know for 'me' - I could not do it. You should not play around with something this serious.
2007-06-11 15:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am a bi man and do not cheat on my wife. I agreed to and am committed to being faithful. I am as able to live up to this agreement as anyone else. Bisexuality does not make me more likely to cheat. Cheating is based on one's morals and ethics, not one's sexuality.
Contrary to other responders. being bisexual does not mean that I NEED sex from both men and women. It simply means that I am able of getting my emotional, romantic and sexual desires met my either men or women. My wife, a wonderful giving and attractive woman, meets my needs because of who she is not because she is female.
One final note, it seems that many of the responders to your question assume that bisexuality means someone who is sexual with everyone all the time. That is based on their bias, not the behavior of bisexuals.
2007-06-11 15:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by Greg C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How are you EVER going to feel good in this marriage.
How are you going to feel when he has a good buddy he starts going to the gym with all the time, or goes hunting or whatever.
There are sooooo many men 'married but looking' in the gay personal ads...do you really want to commit a life long - unbreakable commitment to this man knowing you can never fully satisfy his sexual desires? That is what marriage is supposed to be - an unbreakable union of two people.
You will ALWAYS have doubts, you will ALWAYS have fears and you will never satisfy your man 100%, NEVER.
2007-06-11 15:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't marry a man that will cheat on you, no matter what his sexual preference is.
Find a guy who will treat you right and can stay loyal. It doesn't matter if he's Bisexual, he needs to stay faithful to you and it's completely possible. I'm Bisexual and I've been perfectly capable of staying loyal to my partner.
2007-06-11 15:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because someone is bisexual DOES NOT mean they are anymore inclined to cheat on you than anyone else.
I've never ONCE cheated on my partner of ten years! I'm just not that type of person.
I really hate the jerks who keep spreading all the lies and misinformation about bisexuals. It's hurtful, disgusting and untrue.
2007-06-11 15:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋