One week he's ok and loving, caring full of energy and all of a sudden he needed to be alone and not see me... How can I understand him better?
2007-06-11 07:50:58 · 10 answers · asked by Y 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yeah - you might want to look up the word introvert in the dictionary. What you stated sounds more like a bi-polar person who has manic good moods and then has severe depression or anxiety issues.
All you can do is try to talk to him about whats going on and maybe ask him what you can do to help him through this.
2007-06-11 08:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by glamorous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it is not your job to fix him or make him act the way you want. what he says may be honest or it may not. You must determine this from what you know of him.
Now if he is true introvert I have some advice for you (I am a reformed introvert). Make your decision if this is something you are willing to live with or not. If you love him then deal with it if you enjoy his company but there is no love then move on the road from being a deep introvert to someone who functions properly in society is hard and can be long.
In my situation it took about 4 years for me to break through it and leave my depression and introvert status. I still (many many year later) have some left over feelings that want to drag me back every now and then particularly when life is hard. It is a form of escape. He will have to make his own conscience choice to change. ONLY when he does this will he be able to start to change. he will have to force himself to choose a different form of handling pressure this will over time change his learned behavior (most likely from childhood).
This is not easy and i could write so much more but I wont if you start with this stuff in mind and make up your mind how far you want to take this the rest will become self evident.
2007-06-11 15:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Curiam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understanding an introvert can be really hard if you yourself are not like that. I suggest just not reading into it so much, and just except him for who he is. There is a beauty in the breakdown, you just have to find it.
2007-06-11 14:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by black_star_cry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introverts often need alone time to recharge their social batteries.
Just talk to him and find out what is up. Be sincere and open and talk with him.
2007-06-11 14:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by kclark747 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've described a manic depressive, not an introvert.
2007-06-11 14:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is something else going on. "If something was bothering you, what would you do?" Don't assume it's Bipolar because everyone has their ups and downs. Tell him what your needs are and if he doesn't want to attempt to meet you half-way, move on.
2007-06-11 15:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Leno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sonds like he could be suffering from a psychological disorder. Like he could be BiPolar.
2007-06-11 14:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Moondog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have to accept him for what you know of him already. decide if this is what you can live with, if not, move on!
2007-06-11 14:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His other GF has the same problem.
2007-06-11 14:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him his space when needed and when he's ready talk to him about it.
2007-06-11 14:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by M n M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋