It's the one thing he asks for and I'm not really for it. A threesome does nothing for me. Maybe I should grant him this wish in case he starts to wander off and cheat on me. What do u guys think?
2007-06-11 07:41:18 · 85 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes if its his last request!
2007-06-11 09:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by bust15nutz 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Never enter into a threesome or any other kind of love triangle for "SOMEONE ELSE." If you decide to do a threesome or any type of group sex, it has to be because you want it. You both need to agree there will be no question and answer period after it is over. Otherwise your fiance will only try and compare notes about the other man and eventually it will lead into argument after argument which can get ugly or even a break-up.
2007-06-11 10:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with it, don't do it!
You'd be sacrificing your own morals and self respect by doing this for him!
That's a pretty sick thing for him to ask you to do!
What makes you think he won't cheat on you AGAIN(b/c if you decide to go through with this, that is a form of cheating-only it's right in your face rather than behind your back!) if you give in to this request??
The simple fact that he's even asking you to take part in this shows he has thought about having sexual relations with women other than you. He should love and respect you and not expect you to defy your morals. He should be happy to be with you on every aspect, sexually included!
If that ever happened to me and I was engaged to be married, I would seriously reconsider the relationship.
It could be doomed for failure and you have the opportunity to back out of this before you make what could very possibly be the biggest mistake of your life.
Reconsider. Think about what a domino effect this could cause. The chance of him being cured of his being into threesomes after just one time is very slim. More likely, he'll become addicted to it and want to keep doing it. Couples that are into that sort of thing do not do it one time. It becomes a common occurence. And it is cheating!!
Do yourself a favor and think about what kind of marriage you would want to have. And if what your fiance is seeking does not fit into your ideal marriage, you may want to reconsider.
Good Luck!
Think about you. Put yourself first!
2007-06-11 07:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by (no subject) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea! AT ALL!! It is a fantasy of his yes but it can lead to more. I mean what if he likes it ALOT? then would you be willing to always have someone else in your bed with the two of you? What if he likes her more? What will it make you feel like? Would he be willing to do something he's not comfortable with(to this extreme) because you fantasize about it?
Overall there are more con's than pro's with this situation. Tell him you dont want to and are not comfortable with it. If he doesn't like it...is he really the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?
EDIT: Did you expect such a response to this question? Clearly this is an issue ppl have strong opinions about. Read all these answeres there are some really good ones. And Honey, Dont do something that will hurt you in the end! Good luck and God bless!
2007-06-11 07:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making your mate is a wonderful thing, if in the process it does not make you feel the opposite of wonderful.
By chance does your fiance want a threesome with another woman? If he does, tell him you want a threesome with him and another guy first. Then see how he feels/reacts. Ask him his reasoning for wanting a threesome before you get married. Some out there might not agree with me (of course there will be...there are a lot of pro-bibleists on YA!) but there is one romantic reason why he might want to have one with you before you get married.
2007-06-11 07:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
threesome with a girl or a guy?
look unless u want to do it then go ahead.
but if u dont want to dont
all is gonna do is cause problems
if its with a girl what if he choose her already or what if he keeps talking to you after the threesome and would u trust a girl with ur man that is willing to have a threesome?
doesnt that mean he want to sleep with another girl and not feel bad about it cuz u agreed.
what if during the treesome he is more into her than u.
or if its with another guy would you be ok with your bf wanting u 2 sleep with another guy. if he is marrying you doesnt that mean that he doesnt want to share u with any other guy.
but what ever u desion is make sure protected sex u never know what the other guy or girl might have!!!!
2007-06-11 07:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you don't want to do. Perhaps more discussion about this is in order. Does he want to include another woman or another man?
If it is a woman maybe he doesn't want to cheat but feels that marriage will tie him down in ways he isn't sure he is ready to be. Or maybe he wants to test how willing you are to experiment.
If it is a man it may be because he feels somehow inadequate to completely satisfy you. Or he could be bi-curious.
Threesomes aren't wrong, but all involved should be comfortable doing this and aware that doing so does change some boundaries.
Good luck.
2007-06-11 07:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do it, then when he keeps asking for more and more sexual favors, and they get kinkier and kinkier, you'll have already had the threesome, so you should have no problems going along with any additional requests. Then, when he starts disrespecting you because you've gone along with whatever he wants, no matter how you personally feel, it won't matter, because he'll be used to doing/getting what he wants anyway. Then, when you start to feel really hurt and used and depressed, get back on this board and ask what everyone thinks again.
2007-06-11 07:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by KatB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!! If you're already afraid he might wander off and cheat, DON'T MARRY HIM. Believe me, it's not going to stop at that one threesome because he obviously cannot be happy with just one woman. Red flag city!
2007-06-11 07:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. i don't agree that threesomes weaken/destroy couples, but if you do something like that for any reason other than you really want to you will regret it. if you fear that your partner will cheat on you then he's not a man you should marry. somebody said if you do this he'll know you will please him when you get married, i don't agree. what he'll know is that you'll do things you aren't comfortable with and he'll exploit that. that's not how relationships are supposed to work. if threesomes do nothing for you tell him that with no BS and if it's a serious problem for him it'll be better to know before you get married.
2007-06-11 07:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him to begin with. If he is actually willing to do something like this I wouldn't trust him ever. If he can't be happy with you then let him go. If he is this obsessed with having a threesome then it's only a matter of time before he's off cheating on you.
You cannot build a faithful, loving, lifelong relationship when it starts off with something so wrong as bringing another person into you bed.
Get rid of him before you are married with kids and feel stuck.
2007-06-11 07:45:19 · answer #11 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋