This is the second time that she will be in jail. The first time the father and her told them she was in time out. She was able to say goodbye to her kids before she went to jail for about 2 months. This time she did not get to say goodbye and will most likely do 6 months or rehab. Not sure how to explain this to them?
2007-06-11 07:23:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The children are ages 3,and 4 they will not understand why their mommy is in jail do not tell them she is in jail just explain to them she has taken a very important trip that will last for 1 or more months depending how many months they give her the children does not need to know why or where because they need to be children without worry let them be children and not have to worry about their mom at such an early age because children can become depress too at a young age as well they need to know that their mom is ok and that she will be back that's all so they can continue to be kids with no worries or else it could affect them in a very very negative way depending on how you explain it to them as they get older yes they will become wiser but until then give them a break with no worries about mom do not tell them she is in time out because that tells them she has been bad it paints an ugly picture of her behavior if mommy can do it it must be ok to go to time out is what the children might feel so be careful because mom is their prime example protect the children have their best interest in heart and in mind as I know that you do by asking for advice I hope this will help you and the children.
2007-06-11 08:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl first of all I am sorry about your daughter
but what I have to tell you is simple> we all can try to help you out in here yahoo answer: but I think that the only ones that can truly help you out is a professional. They do have the correct tools to do it if you know what I mean..
It is very complicating when you have children from the age of 3 and 4 knowing what is really going on or happening to there mother. They could understand it or not!! but it will hurt them.
i say it is important to always say the truth but in this occasion it makes it hard. So I tell you lady go to a professional and see what they tell you. They will guide you through this as well they will help you to prepare the kids through an emotional roller-coaster when they find out if they ever will....
They will make you strong... So girl please take it easy and go get help.....
2007-06-11 07:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question. I still think the Children are to young to be told the truth. I would put up a calendar and mark the day she will be home and each day have the kids mark it. This way they get a feeling of when she will be home . I don't think you have to tell them she did something bad, they are to young for that . I'm sure they will find out in the future all they will need to know .
2007-06-11 07:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by laureis35@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I'd lie to them and say mommy was away at the doctor for a while getting better. There's a time to tell the truth and a time to shelter them and they've probably been thru enough. Little ones like that should not have to face the harsh realities of adult's mistakes.
2007-06-11 07:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that Mommy is sick and has to be away for a few months to get some help. Just remind them that she loves them. Tell them that she made some bad decisions like when she was in "time out" before....and that it may take her longer this time so that she'll know how to do the right thing when she comes home this time!
2007-06-11 07:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Tell them that she did something very wrong and that she had to be punished. If you're a religious person pray with the kids and have them ask god to help her and also to help them avoid doing similar bad things. It could be a real life shaping experience for them... use it for good.
2007-06-11 07:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to understand that what their mom did was very bad and that she is getting punished for it, just like they get punished when they do something bad. They will feel bad for a while about not seeing their mom, but having someone with them will help them through this scary journey!
2007-06-11 07:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Renee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in terms they can understand, but don't lie to them, and answer exactly what they ask. Time out is good. I'd tell them that she got into trouble for being bad, and now she is being punished. If they ask what she did that was bad, just tell them that adults have rules to follow, just like kids do, and that she broke an adult rule.
2007-06-11 07:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell them the truth I think u would rather them hear it from u or their father than someone else that their mother is in jail.
2007-06-11 07:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that mommy is going away to get better, and to be a better mommy.
dont make anything up, tell them the truth, just not the whole thing.
kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.
2007-06-11 07:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cara 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋