everytime you argue. I feel like he throws the word "divorce" around way too often. he is going to another country to visit his family and i asked if was going to come back adn he said we will see. Then he said of course he will. I think he is just wrong for even saying these things. Should i pack his stuff for him and tell to stay? or what?
2007-06-11 07:20:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him he needs to stop throwing that out there unless he means it. If he means it, then he should go through with it. Living with the constant threat of divorce is no way to live.
2007-06-11 07:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, good gracious!
This is called emotional blackmail.
Sometimes people get frustrated and the arguments go over the top, which is a sign that the marriage needs help. Some men just think that they're the "king" of the house and they have total control of what's going to happen, including divorce. I personally think this guy sounds like a jerk....but that's me and I don't think men should be abusive to a woman (yes, it goes both ways)
How long are you willing to put up with being treated like this?
Or do you want a happy life? If he's not willing to go to a counselor (which would surprise the heck out of me) then you need to decide what's really in your heart.
2007-06-11 14:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is how you really feel. Never do or say anything as retaliation only. Then you are acting as immature as he is. I would just warn him that some day he's going to throw the "D" word around when you've had enough and you just may take him up on his offer. I would tell him never to say anything like that again, unless he's going to follow through, because you are tired of wondering if he's really going to leave and not come back. It is too emotionally draining. Some people try to hurt or"stick it" to the other person in an argument, and since he knows it affects you to threaten divorce, he uses it to his advantage. That's not fighting fair, and he knows it.
2007-06-11 14:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce should never, ever be mentioned in a marriage.
If anyone does mention it, even jokingly, I would think long and hard about the situation. For you to feel you need to ask your husband if he is coming back from his visit, shows there is definitely
a problem. Both of you need to see a counselor together before this gets out of hand and start
appreciating each other again.
2007-06-11 14:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go with him?
Seems he has way too much control, and that's because you have allowed it.
Tell him, he has to stop making threats or you will be more than happy to oblige.
Please don't tell me, you are the reason he is now able to travel back to his country to see his family. If it is, he only married you for his benefit. He will continue to mistreat and disrespect you every chance he gets.
Divorce seems the only answer, but I hope you get compensated from the mental abuse.
Good luck.
2007-06-11 14:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he use the word divorce or say he wants a divorce, I would hand him the papers and ask him to sign anywhere on the dotted line...Call him on his bluff... If that doesnt stop him from talking about a divorce, then I would tell him,"dont talk about it, be about it"
2007-06-11 14:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, give him a big kiss and a smile. Tell him to hurry back to you. Then as soon as he goes call a lawyer, pack his stuff and change the locks. What a happy homecoming he will have. Oh and tell him you will pick him up at the airport, then don't show and change your phone number.
2007-06-11 14:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and tell him how this stuff's getting to you, ask him if he really means it. whether or not you end up going through a divorce you need to understand each other's point of view. Don't give up too easily, marriage is hard, stick at it for a while longer.
Hope it works out.
2007-06-11 14:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should sit down and discuss this. He shouldn't be throwing that word around casually. Tell him that it hurts you and makes you question your relationship. Maybe he doesn't realize what his words are doing to you. Also, the two of you could try some relationship counseling. That might help. Good luck!
2007-06-11 14:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey obviously doesn't respect you or the relationship. He takes it forgranted that you will take him back no matter what. Pack his bags for him and show him that he needs you more than you need him and you can be indepenent. You may still love him, but you have to get in his face and show that he can't walk all over you.
2007-06-11 14:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by nylablover93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋