OK, so.. I do no think anyone can just like a specific person in general for their gender. I believe you fall in love for the person themselves, and not by if they have a penis or vagina, or boobs and whatnot. I think it has everything to do with personality and not the physical make-up, and you cannot just be attracted to a specific sex. Does anyone agree?
2007-06-11 07:19:35 · 21 answers · asked by Jaybabiie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
bahha then maybe im just bi? lol
2007-06-11 07:28:17 · update #1
Yeah you are probably bi... I love women but not enough to want to be with one, I love my girl friends, but that's where it ends. I'm gay and love my boyfriend but in a different way and I don't see anything changing that. :)
2007-06-11 07:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I actually disagree, I believe that some people can only fall in love with one gender and not the other. You may not be able to have feelings toward a certain gender, such as straight people unable to fall in love with the same sex or Gays do not feel that they can love the opposite.
I do understand where you're coming from though. I personally disregard gender and go for the personality. I fall in love with the person, not the gender.
2007-06-11 14:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I disagree AND I agree. Let me elaborate.
I disagree with you because there are people who are 100% straight and there's those who are 100% gay. So, yes to many people gender does matter.
Now I agree in that, for me it's not so much the gender of the person but I not only fall in love (and lust)with a person's physical appearance, but, more importantly, with his or her beliefs, attitudes and behavior. In short, the person as a whole. I think the character of the individual is more important as I could really care less what “equipment” they had. I could be just as happy with a woman as I could a man and vice versa as long as they are interesting, intelligent, and I loved them.
2007-06-11 15:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I COMPLETELY agree. I have always wondered if we would otherwise be bisexual, because then we would truly know the definition of love, but we are also animals. Society tells us to pick a sexual preference, I guess because some women, for example, might not like dating a man who likes other men, but if you love someone then his or her gender should not matter. We are attracted to each other but we define ourselves by that attraction. You may prefer girls over boys but that does not mean you will fall in love with one, unless you think you will. Why can't someone love someone because of who they are. Sex=Attraction, Love=Heart, and People=Stupid.
2007-06-11 15:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by philipsnewnews 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bi, accept yourself for the wonderful person you are. I'm not bi. I can love a woman as a sister or friend. But I can only fall in love with a man. I can only picture myself spending the rest of my life with a man.
2007-06-11 14:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love was a young man. My second also a young man. My third a woman. Yet my true love is still my first love. If that is confusing to you what do you think it is to me?
It isn't about penis or vagina or boobs etc. For me it has always been the person. I can not explain it. I'm 58 and still haven't figured it out.
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2007-06-11 16:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by .*. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
While I don't love a person specifically for their gender, for me to be completely happy the person I love and choose as my mate must be a male. I am not sexually attracted to females and while I could love one like a sister, it isn't the same as the love one would have for a mate.
2007-06-11 14:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is true for you, but for many people it is not. i think we all have various triggers for sexual arousal so for you, those triggers may not be gender specific (maybe you are bisexual) whereas for others there are very gender specific ways they are aroused. add to that there are gender specific things that turn off people.
sexual identity is a very personal thing. i always take it at face value if someone tells me their sexual leanings (even if i think differently). no one can tell anyone what their sexuality is or how they should identify as a sexual person because ultimately it comes down to how you express the sexual side of yourself
2007-06-11 14:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jnr528 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I diasagree. I believe people have a sexual attraction to a certain sex...which you cannot change. You can love someone of any gender, but physically you love someone of the same sex if your gay or the opposite sex if your straight.
2007-06-11 14:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by KT 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No that is impossible but it would nice if there was no gay or straight and people would just love someone not because of their gender. Sorry I stil disagree but you asked a really nice question.
2007-06-11 15:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually do agree with you. I am 22 years old and all my life was only attracted to males. But In January I met a female that I actually liked. We had a lot in common and were very attracted to each other. I didn't like her because she was female, i liked her for who she was.
2007-06-11 15:13:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋