Did you tell your partner about this account on yahoo! answers?

Question

Meaning they know your nickname, your id & password and can read all your questions & answers.
I joined this yahoo!answers because I've been having problems living together with my mother in-law and my husband told me to bring my complaints somewhere else. So I did, I posted questions related to my living situation. Some of course talked about my mother in-law in a bad way. My husband likes to check on my questions from time to time, which I don't mind, but I don't understand what his purpose is, I mean if he doesn't want me to complain to him then why read my complaints here & get upset afterwards? Anyway, after a big fight last night I posted a question related to my mother in-law, and today in front of his mother in the middle of a heated fight, he brought my account up and threatened to show the question to his mother. I of course didn't want that to happen and I couldn't believe that he could do that. I wrote those questions anonymously, in a way to vent my anger,

which I felt it was better to do to complete strangers than to people we hang out with, so I wrote them quite freely, without worrying who might read it. I trusted my husband completely with all my mails, he has all my passwords, so I felt so so so betrayed by this. I’m very sure he’ll read this too, but I don’t care anymore, where else could I talk and figure out my problems without burdening someone else?

Answer 1

My wife knows all about my questions and answers and is welcome to read them as she wants. As for your husband getting angry over the complaints, he needs to grow up. You followed his wishes and took your complaints elsewhere. Tell him to shut up, stop complaining about your posts or just stop reading them.

Answer 2

I think it is very sad that your husband even told you to go and take your complaints elsewhere! The only person who can actually help you with any of them is your husband, since we do not know you or your mother in law, and so can only give you our perspective on things, which may be wrong. Arguing with you and speaking to you that way in front of your mother in law is wrong too, the least he could have done is take you aside, and spoken to you alone. Living with her is obviously not good for your marriage, and I would suggest that you try to get away from her as fast as possible. You have every right to want to vent your anger, and it is far better to do it to people who, although they may not always be able to advise you correctly, can often put themselves in your shoes, and tell you what they would do. My husband knows I answer questions here, and he often sits with me while I am doing it, i have told him my password, but he is not that interested, so has probably already forgotten it. I have not yet posed any questions, but if I did, I don't think I would want him to read them, after all, that is why one asks them here, to get impartial views, and to not be judged by those you know. You should change your id, and your password, that way you are still able to vent your anger here, without him being able to read the questions.

Answer 3

I think you share a bit of responsibility on this as well. Remember that this is Yahoo Answers not Yahoo Complaints. If what you did was just complain about your mother-in-law, then what you are doing is to putting off solving the real issues and you are just nagging and moaning. On the other hand if you have a specific question about a certain situation regarding your mother-in-law then that would be perfectly fine. Your husband got mad because he loves his mother too and he felt betrayed by you bad-mouthing his mother in front of the public. Even though nobody knows who you are but still when your husband reads your questions, he will take it personally.
What you need to do is to solve your problems directly with your mother-in-law (with the help of your husband). If that's not possible you will need to think of other solutions including counseling, etc.
Good luck.

Answer 4

This go to show that you should not share everything. I think that your husband was wrong to tell you to go somewhere else with your concerns in the first place. I would have never given him the passcodes or I would have had two and only allowed him to have the one where I was not bashing his mom. No matter how much they say that they agree with what you are saying about their mother, it is still their mother! There are a few men out here who can agree that some of the things that their mothers do are outragious and tell her so. I would just set up a totally different account and continue to vent without him knowing it because it is obvious that you can't trust him with your concerns. Good Luck to you!

Answer 5

My husband knows and he has the password as well, however he understands that sometimes a person needs to vent anonymously and therefore he has never looked into it nor does he have a desire to read it. He's just thankful that I'm not taking it all out on him!
I'm sorry that your in the situation your in, I cannot imagine the everyday stress and frusteration. If i were you I'd do as some of the others suggested and use this one for "nice" questions and do another for your venting.
I wish you the best of luck and hope things look up for you soon!!

Answer 6

I would imagine that anyone who would ask you to do such a thing might be taken aback by the amount of time spent on Yahoo! Answers. They may have a point, however, if their point was not well taken I would gladly show them the blinking EXIT sign right over there>>>>>>> If they have a time or connection to another person issue you might be wise to take it into consideration. For many people, the computer is an outlet for any number of things that may be going on in their lives. Again, you must balance the request with the truth of the circumstances. I've seen many relationships break up because of people spending too much time on the computer and not for the purpose of gathering information. For many, a light flirtation makes their day better, but flirtations sometimes escalate to something more. Be honest with yourself and put yourself in their shoes...then decide.

Answer 7

You can delete your questions. Go to your profile, select the "my questions" tab, and follow the link to each. Then click the pencil icon and "delete question". Then change your ID and don't tell him you rpassword. He is abusing the privilege.

To answer your question, my husband knows I spend time on Y!A, but he doesn't have my ID and password, nor do I have passwords to his email or voicemail accounts. We are married, but still separate people, and we trust each other. That being said, I still believe I have a right to privacy, as does he.

If he's going through your things and expecting you to obey his mother, then he's treating you like a child. You deserve better than that. I suggest you help him and his mother find their way to the door, then change the locks behind them.

Answer 8

My husband knows that I do this because I do it at work and have nothing better to do, but he doesnt know what I say or ask nor does he know my passwords. I think that maybe you guys should try to find a new place to live and work on your trust issues. They'res low income apartments that you could apply for. Being that you live w/ family it might be your best bet. I have a problem with my in laws also, but we dont live with them his mom died when he was 12 or so but his grandmother is a pain in my butt.

Answer 9

Damn your husband sounds so frustrating. Like what's his problem?! He tells you to go complain somewhere else, you start using Y!A and now he's upset that you're asking questions related to his mother. Tell him to get over it! for real. How dare he threaten to show his mother the questions. Change your passowrd and user account. You need your privacy, he is being too invasive and if he must see what you're doing on Y!A he should keep it to himself. Who cares if he tells his mother, screw them. If he doesn't want to listen to your problems about anything, wouldn't he rather you speak to people here as an annonymous person getting answers from annonymous people or does he want you to go and ask your friends and family. Tell him to grow the hell up!

Answer 10

Yes, my husband knows about the address and Y!A account...he reads my posts often and is my only "contact."

Your husband is slime for doing that. Of course you need to vent to someone...would he rather you vented to someone locally?

I don't vent to anyone. Whenever I get pissed, I just hold my anger until it goes away. I doubt there is a single person in the world that truly knows what I'm thinking/feeling. I'd be locked up in the asylum if they did.

Answer 11

He knows I am on here from time to time but he never asks for my user id or passwords to anything. I am sure if he wanted them he could figure it out or ask me and I would tell him but we have a marriage built on trust so there is no need to see what the other one is posting.