We been married for 1 yr now, I feel my wife still treats my mom as a stranger. It doesn't feel like they are daughter and mom type of relationship...how do I imrpove that? Please help...
2007-06-11 06:48:12 · 4 answers · asked by Auto S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is doing better than I am.
I did my mother in law as a 'mother' and realised that she hated it. She thought I was faking to get her, but that wasn't the idea, the idea was peace.
I showed her love, cooked, showed her our holidays with my husband and our happiness. But it took me to a surprise to find out how jelouse she was of us being happy. One side happy for her son, other side jelouse I had taken the gold away from her.
So whatever your wife is doing, she is clever, wise, intelligent, strong. So be proud of her. She is not 'blood' with your mother, so NEVER ever expect them two women to love each other.
Think it this way, could you imagine if you and your father in law did the same business, and he came to work in the same office or work you are doing together even if you don't need him? That's how it is with women. We don't need another woman to tell us how to live, and mother in laws are of course wiser than us, but to HER generation, and not the REALITY generation. So here comes the conflict.
Stick to your wife, love them both, and balance them individually. Don't expect love effection or passion. It can go even worst than it is, mine is dead now. Let them live, but not hate each other the way my mother in law and I do to each other now. I shouldn't have gone closer, how stupid mistake i made, don't let your wife do the same.
good luck
2007-06-11 07:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly there is not much that you can do to help their relationship. This is something that they need to mend together. Try talking to your wife & mom and maybe helping them set up a time for them to talk. Explain to them both that its important to you that they have that mother-in-law/daughter relationship and that you love them both. Explain that they need to talk and get all of their feelings out on the table so that whatever is bothering the two of them can be solved or at least addressed.
Good luck!
2007-06-11 07:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it may never happen. If it does it needs to happen naturally. She will probably never have the kind of relationship that she has with her own mother. I still call my mother-in-law by her first name and I have been in the family for 10 years. However, we get along fine. We can joke together and I always offer her help when needed. Just be glad that the relationship is not hateful because most woman I know don't even like their mother-in-laws.
2007-06-11 07:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be between them. You can't change either one of them.
2007-06-11 06:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋