I know that my wife has an affair because she goes out late and she have been calling and getting call from this guy. Should I just spy on her to get proof or just let it go and end it. I think that knowing it would hurt me more so I just let it go and end the relationship. Help!
2007-06-11 06:43:07 · 15 answers · asked by sos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would make sure that you're absolutley positive she's cheating before you end it. You never know, you could be reading to much into things, or you could be entirely right. The only way to know is to get some sort of proof. That may actually make it easier for you to end it once you know for sure what she's doing.
2007-06-11 06:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important foundations of marriage is trust. Obviously, that has been broken. You no longer trust you wife, and from her actions, it certainly seems like she has violated that trust.
I would be honest with your wife. She is your wife after all. Be honest about your suspicions, expect and ask for an honest explanation from your wife.
If she is having an affair, then you have a lot of tough decisions to make.
If she says she is not, then you have a long road of repairing your marriage. Counseling would be a good idea.
If you belong to a church, a pastor can offer good advice. A marriage counselor is also a good idea even if it is just you at first, or maybe an older man you know who has had a relatively healthy marriage. I recommend some sort of support group.
I would not run from the situation. I know it's hard to confront tough situations and emotional pain. But I think being honest with your wife is (1) your obligation as a husband, (2) will help you and your wife in the long run.
2007-06-11 07:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by st 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spy on her and find out for sure. If she isn't that 's a good thing. If she is divorce her. You have the right to spy on her, to know what she is doing and saying with other men and where she is too. But, you need to know for sure so you can make the most informed decision.
2007-06-11 06:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way, the less you know the better it is for you....I know from personal experience that things can get really ugly, and it hurts like heck....
Just find out so you know for sure if she is cheating, and confront her about it, ask her to end it if you want to save the relationship, and if she doesnt, let it all go.....not worth the time.
I'm so sorry to hear that.....
I hope you'll find a reasonable way to resolve it.
Best regards.
2007-06-11 06:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Random22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready for it to be over,spy,get proof.Because she will just lie about it.Its hard knowing that its happening and everytime you say something she denies it.Mine cheats and swears he's not.I don't want proof cuz I need him right now.But its frustrating,degrading,and really makes me mad that I can do anything about it right now.But my day is coming and I'll feel so much better.Just to be able to honestly say I never cheated,and he will miss me when I'm gone......Sorry this just hit a raw spot for me
2007-06-11 07:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by dwngne2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the type of person that I am, I would want to have proof to show it to her incase she tries to lie. But that won't do you any good. If it's easier for you to just let go then do that. Just don't be a doormat.
2007-06-11 06:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spy! What if she is not having an affair? Then you ended it in vain!
2007-06-11 06:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spy on her and find out for sure.
If she is, I would end things if I were you.
Not too many relationships survive through cheating and lies.
2007-06-11 07:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it and inform the other mans wife what went down!
2007-06-11 06:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. Are YOU truly happy in this relationship or is it only her? Confront her and see if she opens up and tells the truth. Either way, if she is not happy with you then you should fly solo or find someone whose honest and will treat you with more respect.
2007-06-11 06:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋