i was with my wife's best friend in our house whe all of a sudden, she started to kiss me and said that she still wanted me. we used to date before, but just became friends. now all of a sudden shes forcing me to have sex with her. we made out on her couch for 5 minutes when my wife came in and saw us. i suddenly backed away cause i was embarrased and i tried to talk to my wife. i was shocked when she didn't get mad and said she was ok with it. she said that she really wanted us to do it with her friend, but i didn't think it was a good idea. they've been forcing me to do it for the past two days. im thinking of trying it with them, seeing as their both ok with it. what do i do?
2007-06-11 06:24:52 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People really need to grow up and be adults about this.
If all 3 of you are all right with it. Then by all means enjoy. You are all three adults who are responsible for your own actions.
2007-06-13 07:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife Threesome Friend
2016-11-14 05:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by ryon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your instincts are already pointing you in the right direction. Threesomes can be tricky. There are very few marriages that stay healthy and survive threesomes or swinging. I don't know how much into the lifestyle that your friend is, but it sounds like they are just starting out, which makes it even trickier. You were on the right track when you said "I don't think i could look at Chris the same". I read somewhere once that when engaging in any type of alternative sexual lifestyle, you should NEVER do it with friends or people in your immediate life circle. It is because things get awkward and if, God forbid, things didn't end up working out with your friend and his wife (one gets jealous, they get separated/divorced, etc.), you're going to be one of the easiest skapegoats. You don't want to get in the middle of something like this, it could, and likely will, damage your friendship with these people. Additionally, how do you feel about a threesome? Have you thought a lot about it before, about the ramifications and the feelings associated with it after the fact? I would suggest you really do your homework here and take a good, long look at things before you jump into something that you might later really regret.
2016-05-17 09:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea because it sounds like the "best friend" still has a thing for you. Having a threesome may only make the friend have even stronger feelings towards you. If you are going to have a threesome have it with someone you are not emotionally attached to. This being said, good luck saying no. I don't know how many men would turn down a proposition like that.
2007-06-11 06:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stand firm tell her that this will never happen that you love your wife and that she needs to end all communication with the both of you. This is a trap your wife is trying to see if you are a stand-up guy or a prick. I would tell her that the kissing was a mistake and that this friend started kissing you and has been trying to seduce you since she came over. Your wife is trying to see if you would ever cheat on her stay away from this temptation tell them both NO!!!!!!!!!. Go have yourself a beer and a cold shower and just relax.
2007-06-11 06:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a morale question. Ask your self can you deal with it, what if your wife falls for the other woman, or you start to fall the other woman. Is your marriage worth this sacrifice? These are really important questions. I hope you have seen the question from the wife about her husband touching another woman(she was there) but now she is having second thoughts since she can not get the thought out of her head.
2007-06-11 06:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Misty D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that when a threesome enters a relationship, it puts a lot of tension in the relationship,and also a lot of distrust. Your wife may say shes okay with it now but after the fact it happens she may wonder whats going on when shes not around. and you may also feel the same way about her. I have heard though that sometimes it can strengthen a realationship. I honeslty wouldnt do it with someone i really love. Good luck with everything.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-11 06:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow man sucks to be in your position. I smell a trap. But here is a possible solution, take the high road here and tell your wife that what she is asking is wrong and you will not participate. Act all high and mighty. And then tell her that you will not do this willingly and that she would have to tie you to the bed in order for this to happen. So now if this dose happen you get two women at the same time and you are tied to the bed. It's a win win win. Oh and get one of them to take pictures.
2007-06-11 06:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are responsible for your own actions. You were not forced to make out with the old girlfriend.
This is infidelity of a marriage plan and simple, whatever you decide is what you have to take responsibility for.
Good luck.
2007-06-11 06:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me all the time.
I had to explain to my wife that if she wants me boinking all her friends that I should be compensated for it and that they need to pay up. I now have a rather busy schedule, but I try and leave my wife a little time with me free of charge, but if she wants extra then even she has to pay.
2007-06-11 07:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋