This boyfriend has never come over to meet me, has her come where he is and seems to treat her like he is already obsessed after only two weeks of dating her. He is a high school dropout and on probation for rape. (My daughter believes he is innocent.) The more I talk to her about him the worse my relationship gets with her. I don't know what to do about this. She stays out all hours of the night every night, doesn't get rest and is constantly tired. If she tries to rest he raises hell and send someone over to wake her up. He is becoming a real thorn in our lives. HELP
2007-06-11 06:02:43 · 19 answers · asked by staylor33823 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the more you fret over this the more she is going to want him! back off mom or loose her to this creep!!
2007-06-11 06:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your daughter is only 17 years old still living in your home. You have a right to intervene. I would highly recommend contacting his probation officer and sitting down with this person and discussing this young man. The probation officer should be able to give you some alternatives. It very well maybe (determining the rape victim) that he can not associate with minors. You need to get your daughter away from this sicko asap! He seems like a very abusive person and you need to put your foot down. Get his probation officer involved (without her knowing). He might be more dangerous than you are aware of. Why are you allowing your child to stay out all night. You are the parent! Give her a curfew and if she doesn't show call the police. After 3 times the state will monitor her and she will not be allowed to hang out with this disgusting boy. You need to get a grip now before it gets any worse. You can also state that this man is not allowing on your property or to call. I am sure if he is still on probation he is not to be associated with other woman.
2007-06-11 13:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question shows that you have no control over your own child and lack in parenting skills. Your child has no respect for you if she did she would respect your wishes and not see him or better yet she would never seek out a loser rapist in the first place. This screams "daddy issues" I am afraid she is too far gone for you to work this out and you can probably expect her to leave the house soon to move in with her new boyfriend. If you want to end this right now inform his parole officer that he is seeing an underage girl. This will no doubt send him back to jail for a bit and that way your daughter will be able to find someone more to your liking (if she doesn't wait for him to get out)
2007-06-11 13:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by anch49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much you can do. Typically the age of consent is 16, so you can express to your daughter how you feel, but there are no legal actions to be taken. If you would prefer to have professional guidance, call 911 (or your local emergency number) and ask the dispatcher to send an investigator to your address to discuss the situation with you. The investigator will be able to advise you more thoroughly.
2007-06-11 13:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by rowena utopia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you need to spank here a** and set some ground rules she is still under your roof and set a time for her to be in at night kids theses days thank there the parents . and then have a long talk with her about how important school is these days and boys should be the last thing on her mind you cant live your life for your child but you can tell her what is good for her in life . but its her life she will have to make her on mistakes good luck and the boyfriend will pass
2007-06-11 13:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by shay nelson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may not help but the more you talk at her about him the further apart you will grow, the more she will resent you and the closer they will become. Try taking a step back which is of course not going to be easy but she is more or less an adult and is able to make her own decisions. All you can do is to be there for her, and let her know that you will support her. Good Luck
2007-06-11 13:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jizz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably won't be able to stop her from seeing him, but you can enforce your household rules as far as her sticking to a curfew and him sending someone to your house to wake her up. This has potential to be an abusive relationship and the best thing you can do is keep the lines of communication open.
2007-06-11 13:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the more you tell her not to date him the more she will want to. The only suggestion that I have is to go to the authorities and make a stink about someone his age dating a minor. See if you can find out who his probation officer is and see if they can help you put an end to the relationship. Good luck.
2007-06-11 13:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is no matter what happens be there for her. Don't bring it up. My mom did that to me and we didn't talk for 3 years. I finally came to realize that she was right. She has to learn by making mistakes. She will realize it one day and you will have to be there with open arms. I know you don't like it but she is 17. Try to understand and just let it lie. She will come to you, it will just take time.
2007-06-11 13:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry mom itll be okay your daughter has to learns from her mistakes I understand that u dont want her to get hurt but give her some space she has to learn to make her own decisions!â¥
2007-06-11 13:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handle with care, in a years time your daughter can legally do as she likes, then you have no say in the matter.
2007-06-11 13:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by conranger1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋