Is it good or bad to have children that are very close in age?? What is the best age gap when having kids?

Question

My son just turned 1yr old last month and i'm considering having another child but some people say that having two babies in diapers is the worst thing and some say that it's the best thing to do. What do you think from your personal experience??

Answer 1

well, I'm pregnant with my 3rd right now. My oldest is 5, and my baby is 10 months. I went from one extreme to the other. I think if your ready, then you are. Only you know what you can handle, and what is too much!!

Answer 2

My first two boys are 13 months apart, then my third was born when my middle boy was 2.5.

While I don't remember much about the year I had a toddler and a baby, I do think it was easier than having the others being older and a baby.

Except for the first year with only one child and the last year and a half with the youngest, I've always had at least 2 in diapers. (we had a 3 or 4 month stretch with 3 in diapers. YIKES) It doesn't really matter. One thing is that I'm glad I didn't have to go back to diapers.

We've had almost 8 year of diaper with 3 kids (my youngest is having development issues and is still not trained), but if we'd spread our kids out 3 or 4 years, it'd be like 11 years of diapers. So that's a thought.

My sibs and I were close in age. I was the oldest, my brother was 18 months after me, then 20 months after that I got twin sisters and my mom had her tubes tied.

We are all close now and growing up we were really close. But we would also fight like nobody's business. I find the same for my boys. They're either best friends or they pick and poke at each other -- and boy, do they know each others weaknesses.

I would definitely have mine close again. Whatever you do, it'll work out. There are pros and cons about each.

Answer 3

my kids are 6, 5, and almost 4. I love the fact that they are so close together. They are best friends, and they pretty much can share clothes, etc... They all play with the same kids, the same toys, etc... so right now it's a good thing. I had two kids in diapers and it was just fine, with the exception of the price of the diapers! lol... there is a 9 1/2 month gap between my oldest and middle, and then an 18 month gap between my middle and youngest. I wouldn't change a thing!

Answer 4

From my experience I started trying when my daughter turned One I got pregnant right away but miscarried, then tried 3 months later at my daughter was 2years old and 2 weeks old when my son was born. And I wouldn't change it for anything. They are so good with each other! Yes changing diapers on 2 kids can be a pain cause my daughter wasn't potty trained till 2 1/2, but it's not that bad! Think of all those parents who have twins. They are constantly changing diapers :) In the end it's totally up to you but what you are thinking is what I did and I love it. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Well lets just say that no one can tell when is a good time to have another child. Coming from experience my first son just turned 1yrs old on may 16, and my second son was born may 22, so they are exactly 1yr and 6days apart. But it is all up to you and what you feel that you can handle. I wont lie there is never a dull moment in my day but it is all about finding what works for you. Good Luck!!!!!!

Answer 6

I came from a family of 7 (all boys) we had 2 years between us and it seemed to be about right. (the last two were twin boys). I have 3 kids they age 23, 20, 16. The two oldest are boys and the youngest a girl. I think 3 years between the boys was too long. They weren't as close as my brothers and I were at 2 years. And I agree, having 2 in diapers is really rough. Fun, but rough.

Answer 7

It's up to you to decide when it is right to start trying again.

Let your body fully recover from your first pregnancy.

A plus to having children closer together is they may have a stronger bond as they become adults. Although, you probably will be pulling them apart from fights more as they are young and battling for your attention.

Changing two diapers at once isn't really a big deal. Specially since you older child will be almost 2 by the time the new arrival is in.

Two years difference between siblings is enough to allow each their own time to shine with their new talents.

Good luck,
and have fun

Answer 8

From what I've seen-- and it's only what I've seen, I have no children of my own-- it's usually best to have at least a two year gap between kids. If they're too close together, there can be some pretty intense sibling rivalry between the two, the both of them screaming for your attention simultaneously; this is what I've heard from my mother for the span of my twenty-nine year life.

Two of my sisters were born less than a year apart and they hated each other with heated blood until they turned into adults and realized that their ages didn't really matter that much, they're still family. This is what I have seen with my own two eyes, so if that tells you anything about my experience with it, then I hope it helps, at least in some form.

Answer 9

Mine are 19 months apart... it's good and bad at the same time. We didn't plan either one of our pregnancies. They just happened. Now we have 2 girls and when they were tiny, the oldest was my "big helper" getting diapers and everything for her sister. I didn't meet my goal of having my oldest potty trained by the time the baby came, so I was still changing 2 kids diapers. But it was helpful when potty training the youngest... big sis played a major role in that! The little one saw Sissy going potty and wanted to do it too. And if you have 2 that are the same sex, you can pass clothes down from one to another. It's just a matter of preference.

All in all, no one can tell you what's good for you.

Answer 10

I had my kids 18 months apart. I was lucky that I didn't have to go to work everyday, so I spend everyday with them. Yes, it wasn't always easy having 2 baby's in diapers. Looking back 10 years I would not have it done any other way. I have a boy and a girl and they act like they are twins. They have similar interest, they can use each other toys and electronics, share friends, learn A LOT from each other.

Answer 11

Its your choice. If you can handle it, and have enough money then go ahead. I have a 28 month old still in diapers (doesnt want to use the potty) and now a 2 month old. Its pretty hard sometimes and a little expensive but I've managed. If I could've waited at least till my daughter was 3 it would've maybe been a little easier, but I wouldn't change anything right now. I love both my girls. My 2 month old is very easy going so it makes it a little easier for me too.