Why can't I get over my ex?

Question

it's been 10 months. we went out for FIVE YEARS. the only excuse closest to a reason he gave me was he "would never love me as much as i love him". then i saw him about 7 months later, and he said he needed time. i keep dreaming about him, i haven't moved on, and it feels as though i never will. we literally have stopped contact for 10 months. it's freakin killing me, i don't know what to do. NO ONE understands my situation (he screwed me over several times). so people don't know why i even care. but i really do. I am just really upset about this whole situation.

Everywhere I go, i hear songs, see things and remember our times together, almost everyday. There is no reason i should feel like this after 10 months. But there's not a damn thing I can do. I left him a comment on myspace and got no response whatsoever. NO CONTACT.

PLEASE HELP ME. I NEED IT SO BADLY. THANKS.

Answer 1

There is no easier way to say this.....He's never coming back ...they say breaking up with the one you loved so deeply is worse than death, because you know there still out there....There are no words to express what your feeling unless you go through it yourself, I know I'm still wishing I had my ex, but he also wants nothing to do with me. Sometimes you feel like dying....when we were together it was wonderful, but when we were apart it's like I didn't have a boyfriend. Everything you do and see reminds you of him I know....I hurts so deeply you just want to cry and not be around anyone whose a couple. Don't let anyone tell you to GET OVER IT!!
because it's easier said than done!!...take your time (grieve) and don't stop flirting with someone your attracted to...I wish I had a better answer...sometimes it takes years for an ex to fade away I'm hoping we don't have to wait that long.

Answer 2

Honey, been there done this!!! It is hard to move on. I felt the same way, everything reminded me of him. My ex was an a** hole to me as well and I was like why do I care?? Its hard when you love someone to not care about them no matter how many times they have screwed you over! It takes time, try to do things that you didn't with him and keep busy. Don't go places that you know you might see him, and don't go on his myspace! If you hear a song that reminds you of him change it and listen to one that puts you in a better mood. You just have to move on with your life and understand that the world doesn't stop just because he left you. YOU WILL GET OVER IT!! Good luck!

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is surround yourself with friends, start going out with them. There is one sure thing about ex's, even if he comes back he will leave again and you will have all the pain and suffering to deal with again. Start slowly, and meet others, the pain will go away and you will find a new love to treat you like the young lady that you are. Good luck

Answer 4

You are grieving for a lost love, it takes a long time to get over. You just have to keep reminding yourself of the bad things he did to you, not what you liked about him. He is not good for you. You don't want someone who doesn't want you and did bad things to you. Leave him behind. Move on.

Start dating other guys. This time ask a lot of questions, find out what their values are, their interests are and their plans for the future, tell them yours. Long, long courtship. Wait until you are married to sleep with them.

Answer 5

awww... that's sad. I feel you girl. Especially, the song thing. That's the same thing I am going through with my ex; except that it's been 21 months since we broke up. But, my advice to you would be to wait. Because if you haven't got over him now you never will. I think it may be meant to be. But, he hasn't realized that yet. So, just keep hoping and praying. Email me anytime at [e-mail] in the future. Bye, Brandy

Answer 6

i know what you are going through.....i can't get over mine either....but uh yeah it really bites. LOVE SUCKS BIG TIME. don't ever feel stupid for not moving on though. EVER. girls are just more emotionally attached than guys are.....if they were in our postitions they would understand you know? just try to get over it and if you can't then maybe that means something.....that you are supposed to mature gorw older and look back on it and say wow so that is what its like to be in a bad relationship. Use this to learn that it will not happen to you again. Don't let it. The fact that you haven't moved on shows you let yourself get attached to someone for a very long time.....its not your fault so don't say you need HELP. its not a bad thing to love someone. From what i know love is good right?

Answer 7

maybe he didnt get your comment on myspace and you are a loser get over it already if he needs time dont you think he is with someone else already get over it move on and let go that is what you need to do obviously he doesnt love you anymore he has moved on so should you especially after 10 months he doesnt want anything to do with you take it as a door is closed and its not going to open anymore

Answer 8

first of all his excuse for breaking up..
girls always love more than the guy! its just that we're the more emotional lovey dovey sex so... thats not a very valid answer.. do you want to get over him or back with him?

you probably want to get back with him because when you want to get over someone you really do.. try reading why men love bitches it seems like your the nice girl who is unnappreciated.. after your done with the book ull be with him in no time.. good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

cause.. ur still in love with him i think