I'm 14...my boyfriend is 14 aswell. First we just met each other and all (ya know "french-kissed") Then it started going a little further as time went on. We've been going out for 4months and we've done more things (head and all) but i don't want too have sex yet....incase i get prenant!
But now he keeps saying things like "If you really loved me you'd do it!"
I love him but i don't know what to do! Should i or shoudn't i?!?!
HELP PLEASE!!!!!
2007-06-11 05:57:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well sex is a powerful thing. It has the power to give life(baby). It has the power to take it away(AIDS). If you're not willing to sacrifice yourself alone for a teenage boy to one of these then don't do it.
There are no shortage of teenage moms around the world who regret what they did. I bet every single one of them thought, "my guy loves me and won't bail if I get pregnant."
Please don't be that foolish making the same mistake.
Besides, the only true love is one freely given by another person. If he ash to scare you into it, he doesn't love you. Pressuring you into it, he will brag to all his friends and they will call you names.
Be ready just in case to lose him. He's not worth sacraficing your self-respect.
2007-06-11 13:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I do not think you are really in love with this kid because you are only 14 and you are still a child that has so much more life to live and people to meet, second of all he claims he loves you but if he did he would respect your decision in not having sex yet and third of all sex is something you do with the right person that you truly love and think you will spend your life with at times not always but the most important thing is feeling ready to make that step. I know by reading your question you are not ready for sex and he does not accept your decision then give him a big kick in the butt and tell him sayonara....lol...you will find someone better that will respect your decisions and not only think about sex rather than thinking about you and making you happy in any situation..best of luck !
2007-06-17 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Stefanie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do not have sex! As the others have said, tell him if he loved you, he would respect your wish to wait. If he keeps pressuring you, end the relationship right then and there. If he keeps it up, tell a trusted adult, especially if there are times when he can get you alone. Prussure and rejection are not good combonations, and could lead you into trouble. He may even try to blackmail you by saying he will tell people things about you, or what you 2 have been doing, or even try to make you "look like a baby" for turning him down. He may even force you. I don't care how he sugar coats it, if you don't want to have sex, and he in any way forces you to, it is rape. Also, you should tell him if your parents find out, you are under age and he will go to jail for statutory rape. PLEASE DO NOT DO IT!!! You can only do it for the first time 1 time, and you can never get it back. Sex changes you forever, please wait. All it take is 1 time, and 1 of the millions of sperm to get pregnant, and only one germ to get a STD. I know you love him, but you will not regret you decision to wait. Good Luck, Be Strong!
2007-06-11 06:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell - 14 year olds doing "head" and all. Babygirl, go find Barbie, Bratz or who ever it is you like to play with and leave the "penis" alone and be a 14 year old for a minute. I am just so "awed" (aw damn) at your statement. Do you not have any respect for yourself, before you pull down your pants and allow anything in them, get an education, as well as attend the Sex Ed Class, there are a lot more things you need to learn. The one thing, once lost, is gone forever, your virginity, guard it with your life and at 14 crushes will come and go. Oh and then there are things called STDs. God Bless.
2007-06-14 22:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie !!! if it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't !!!
I have has a friend's niece ask me the same question -- and he put sooo much pressure on her --- he was the cool guy at school, and she felt special to be with him... So she wanted to stay with him, and she had sex with him. He dumped her the following week. She now has a reputation, and is heartbroken.... and regrets it... She said it hurt like hell...
Like everyone here said, he's a jerk for putting pressure on you, and for pulling that line on you !!!
I was with a guy who I dated for 6 months, and I was a virgin. I once made a funny comment that I was gonna wait until I was married, and he said that it was cool with him....
and guess what... He proposed !!!
after 8 months, I was so in love with him, I was the one who couldn't wait any longer, and wanted to have sex... And he was gentle, and sweet, and made sure I was ok...
At 14 years old, I would say it's very young to have sex.
Also, it's very young to know what love truely is.
if you're not ready, sex is gonna hurt. I know so many friends who cried out of pain their first time.
I was ready, I was in love, I wanted to..... zero doubt it my mind. it didn't hurt, and I have never regreted it.
How many girls do you know who did it, and then regreted it ?
and then you get a reputation too... Be careful about that !!!
If he loves you, he'll wait. He'll love you for who you are, not what you do.
Hope this helps you... oh, and if you do decide to do it, insist that he wears a condom !!! Please !!!
2007-06-11 09:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tall Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he's not thinking with the right head. With boyfriends, you know how many times i have heard that line? Too many to count. I was also molested, so i cant say if i would have waited or not. If i wasnt molested, they way my life went, I'd say I would have probably lost my virginity at 17. Teenage years, thinking back, the mind is in the clouds too much. My daughter will be 14 on Sept.9. she is very proud & strong believer on keeping her virginity until she is married. I surely hope so. She's not even a "church-goer". She's had boyfriends. If one is upseting her or annoying her she cuts him loose & in time she tells me what happend. Please think long & hard on this. You know what is right & wrong. :D
2007-06-18 03:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER FALL FOR THE "IF YOU REALLY LOVED ME YOU'D DO IT" CRAP!!!
First, as much as you love him, this is not something a guy would say if they really loved you. A guy who REALLY loved you would wait until you are completely ready, not push you or pressure you to just please himself.
Second, you and he, are only 14. Think about the responsiblities that go along with taking care of a baby. Neither of you are even old enough to get a job!
Don't do it! Be smart and wait until you are completely and reasonably ready!
2007-06-11 05:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Guys still use that stupid pathetic line? Wow. You shouldn't ever do something if you're not comfortable doing it. 14 is way too young to be having sexual intercourse and you should wait until you are more mature and ready to accept and face the consequences. Don't let your boyfriend push you into having sex with him if you are not ready to. It's just not worth it.
2007-06-17 16:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any boy at any age that drops the line "If you really loved me" needs to be smacked upside the head and left. No that line doesn't change, even into their 20's they say things of that nature.
YOU don't want to have sex, then DON'T. You are right to wait, keep on waiting.
2007-06-11 06:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Harley 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am going to be harsh. If he is putting pressure on you then he doesn't love you :-(
You are also under the legal age limit so you'd be breaking the law.
You are both still young and you should be having fun and living your life, trust me you have no reason to do anything you don't want to.
Long answer short.................you shouldn't :-)
2007-06-11 06:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by maidmaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋