Erm okay... this is werid.... buuuuttt i want kids.. and im gay...
is that weird?? cos someone told me it was, that not many gay people want kids.
the thing is, i would like two kids.. through surragacy. one with my partners genes, one with mine.
A boy called Dan, and a girl called Kimi
am i weird?
are there any other gay people here who want kids?
and do you know anyone who was raised by gay parents, and has it affected them?
2007-06-11 05:50:05 · 30 answers · asked by Blue Monkey 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are not weird! And most of the gay people I know want kids. The decision has nothing to do with your preferences.
2007-06-11 05:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's not weird at all! I'm gay and I'm not sure if I want kids, but I would like very much to have someone to pass all of my knowledge unto. And my mom knows the two lesbians who had 2 children, and each one became pregnant and had the same donor. And whoever told you that most gay people don't want kids is stupid. That may be true, but it's not because they're gay. Everything in a person is individual and their own. And being weird isn't a bad thing. I'm really weird, and I love it. It's boring being normal!
2007-06-11 08:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, your not weird. Just b/c your gay does not mean you don't want a family. I'm gay and I want kids, I'm just not sure I want to become pregnant. I just know I want to adopt a bunch of kids. Did the person who told you that some gay people don't want kids know a lot of gay people? First of all everyone is different, like a married couple decided that they don't want to raise children; are they weird? No, it's who they are.
I don't know anyone who were raised by gay parents and I bet they do have some problems but overall I bet they love each other. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-06-11 05:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by colorfulsunrise514 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want kids i have already picked out a name for my son. i have to wait until im in a some kind of solid relationship in the future, but i kind of want my genes passed on as well. i don't want to do the marry a women thing and not love her that is just crappy. best of luck. i am glad someone out there is already thinking. if ur around my age then perhaps in the future we will run into each other. i guess then we would need 2 boys and a girl. why dan i wonder? i have a friend dan a pretty kool dude so i guess that is a good name.
2007-06-11 15:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be young or newly Gay. You are in the norm. Many Gays and Lesbians have children. If thats what you want, I wish you Luck and Blessings. Research, and learn. Save up, and plan ahead. It is possible. People I know that were raised by Gay parents are no different. Well maybe a bit more tolerant. LOL
2007-06-11 06:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by tacmedwarrior 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's very sweet and suggests that you have a very generous, loving nature. It's not wierd at all. Now, if you were to say that you wanted kids so you could have something to beat, that would be. ;)
Also, it is widely accepted by the psychological community that having two homosexual parents is not likely to have any negative impact on a child - at least not anymore than having two heterosexual, divorced parents. Some people will disagree, but those people are wrong. Simple as that.
Good luck with your plans, James, I hope it goes well for you.
2007-06-11 06:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not weird! Most people want kids gay or not. I know 3 couples that have kids & happen to be gay. The children are very happy,intelligent,fun,loving,creative etc. They become aware of hate,discrimation,human rights,equality & other important issues most children don't know about (as early) is the only difference I see. And that difference is a positive one in my opinion. Makes them better children & people. More open, more understanding, more caring & loving!
2007-06-11 18:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not wierd. the only thing that may not turn out so easy is doing the gene thing in an affordable way and making sure that they are boy and girl. but, hey, lots of people imagine what their kids will be like. it's cute and normal!
i know a few people with gay parents... they're friendly and cool and open minded and strong. It' true, kids will get teased... but kids get teased for being poor, for having a parent who's a schoolteacher, for liking green jello.
2007-06-11 05:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find your partner (and hopefully he will want kids, although if there are straight people who don't want kids, I'm sure there are gay people who don't want kids either) have your kids. The surragate mother is a great idea, but you might also consider adopting, so that some child(ren) mave have an opportunity for a real family!
2007-06-11 19:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by allhailkirby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, James, you're not weird. some people want to settle down domestically, and others don't, that's all there is to it. I don't know any kids raised by gay parents, nor am I gay, but it seems to me that people who love kids will try to do the very best job they can at raising them, regardless of their sexual orientation. if your partner is as committed as you are, my guess is that everything will work out okay. Psychologists say that gays are every bit as good as straight parents, so, the best of luck to you. Btw, those are very nice names.
2007-06-11 05:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋