Does society support the wife who neglect the home.?

Question

It seem that society support the working woman who don't want to help inside the home too. Also don't help with the household expenses. What is your oponion.

Answer 1

I think you were probably unwise enough to marry an independant woman who refuses to buckle down to what YOU consider is a "woman's role", and you are looking for validation for your viewpoint on this forum.

Sorry, I do not agree.

Women who work for money outside of the home have a right to make the primary decision on how that money is spent. That DOES NOT include making sure that their husband has all the latest "toys" at his disposal to compete with his friends.

Nor does it include being a "shadow" of the man and taking a "proper woman's place" within the home, when the couple is home together.

You need to sit down with your wife and come to a mutual decision on how much work each of you will be responsible for inside the home. And what percentage of the expenses for that home each of you should be responsible for.

I don't think YOU have the right to expect to sit back and do nothing once you pass through the door at home after a hard day at work. But I feel just as equally certain that your wife should not be allowed to do that same thing.

Marriage should always be an equal division between the two partners. That means emotionally, physically and financially. Any less leaves one or both of the partners feeling dissatisfied and taken advantage of.

Answer 2

I think I understand what you mean. There is a stereotypical attitude that says a man must support a household with his earnings and possibly do a few chores whereas a woman would not have to support a household with her earnings but must do chores. This attitude from a long time ago when the woman earned very little.

Nowadays it is silly. I think it is best that everyone put in a percentage of their income to pay the bills (like, say, 80%). This way, everyone has money left over - no matter how much or little you make.

As for chores - either do them or pay someone to do the chores neither one wants to do.

P.S. "wife who neglects the home" sounds like you have some personal bitterness going on with your spouse. And that you assume it is the wife's job to handle the home. Try approaching it from the point of view that it is everyone's job to "do the home stuff".

Answer 3

How much do you actually know about the subject?
I am hesitant to discuss this with someone who made several easily fixed misspellings and posted this to the wrong section.

A large part of your supposed "support" is actually the reverse. Modern consumer culture practically forces both parents in a middle class family to go to work and leave children in the hands of sitters and public school.

The 1950's TV fantasy of the father going to work while the mother stays home with the children goes hand in hand with the fantasy of being rich and having lots of leisure time; it never really existed except for a privileged few.

"Labor saving devices" did really revolutionize the family. No longer were women (and often men) spending the entire day drawing water from a well, pounding clothing on rocks, and cooking over an open fire all day. Unfortunately, along with the reduction of the labor came a reduction in the labor force; older adults (parents and grandparents) were no longer expected to live with their grown children and help with the labor. They became extraneous burdens that required their own residences and depended on the support of their younger adult children. Switching from a helper to a burden increased the financial strain of the working adults turning those “saved” hours into work hours. Plus, the “labor saving devices” were expensive and often bought on credit, yet another financial burden for the working adults.

Several labor studies have found that when all is said and done, the quite common urban 2 job family put in more hours then a production/labor family (farmers, factory workers, etc) as they struggle to make enough money to pay someone else to take care of their children, and clean their house (including dusting off the leisure devices that they never have time to use). If they were willing to live without their, cable TV, high speed internet, dish washer, clothes washer, dryer, power, gas, 2+ cars, power tools, school loans, etc, etc, then they might be able to have a one job family.

Of course then they would be equivalent to a “poor” household where the wife has to stay home and labor to make up for the lack of “labor saving devices”.

Answer 4

I would have to say that in today's era alot of women take on the roll as head of house. And men are put off by their domineering attitude. Home life is very underrated right now. I feel that a woman should work and help provide without having to comprise something in her home life, whether it be the kids, husband/mate, or the regular wife duties. Society supports these woman because in 70% of the cases the female is alone without a male conterpart to contribute, so when she does find one...the routine is embedded in her. More men need to step up . As far as neglecting home---Home is haven, espically for a woman. The way a woman keeps her home says alot about her.

Answer 5

I don't think that is the case....

However, it is no different than when men do the same. Luckily, my husband helps a lot and I don't feel overwhelmed. But, in no way should anyone expect a woman to handle it all while the man only goes to work and comes home.

But as proof as it not being the norm, check out almost all food products and cleaning product commercials that still depict mom as the primary household caregiver...making dinner, cleaning, doing laundry.

Answer 6

Does society support the husband who doesn't work or pay child support or help with the home? I think so.

Answer 7

I think there may be some grounds regarding some wives who want their cake and eat it too. However those are probably the self-obssessed women that most men would be smart enough not to make their wives.

Jenny you missed the point completely. He meant not helping out with household chores, she works but "does not help with household expenses" It's not rocket science Jenny.

Answer 8

It seems that society supports "All people" who ignore the home, it's upkeep, and it's support.

Otherwise there wouldn't be such a great increase in foreclosures and bankruptcies.

We need to care again about the family, whatever unit it is.
We need to care about people again, and the home and its upkeep will fall into line.

GOD bless us one and all, always.
MBA-Boston Univ.

Answer 9

Bible says a womans place is to look over and look after her enjoyed ones, it additionally says that a guy is to help her as head of the enjoyed ones, yet in each and every day existence for her to tend the concerns of the family individuals and abode that desire getting to. Now with the aid of fact of our greed pushed society, a woman "frequently has to paintings and be removed from her infants and abode, by technique of ends day she is exhausted and since the guy is likewise working the abode carry, the abode, and greater importantly the family individuals will become "dilluted" in high quality time mutually and additionally dilluted in values. television provides and human nature motives the "Gota have this "like all human beings else does" protecting up with the Jones'es existence-form subject to their "peer team". It breeds "the grass is often greener concepts-set interior of human beings and motives envy and opposition to be "greater advantageous" than the guy around the corner, by technique of accumulation of "issues" that rather are uninportant. We in basic terms moved and chanced on of all our values "photos and concepts of our family individuals is all that replaced into "nicely worth" moving. infants, a husband and a spouse, love, true love, won't be in a position to get replaced by technique of a clean abode,rv, or television set. The bible says to esteem all others "greater advantageous" than "your self" wager if we did "all" could be greater advantageous off, no wars the two.

Answer 10

I'm not sure I understand your question, it's phrased very strangely and is in the wrong category.

I don't do most of the housework in my family and I'm a woman. I make more money than my husband does and carry the health insurance. My husband and I both do housework but he probably does more than me. It's my opinion that it doesn't matter who does the housework as long as someone does it.