Think about it carefully,is it really worth all the time and money? It's only a piece of paper at the end of the day and normally the poor bloody bloke gets stiched when it goes **** up!! Prepared for abuse by women and agreement by men!!! Go for it!!
2007-06-11 04:24:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a house it's my house
I get married it's our house
she leaves me it's her house
Nope marriage is not worth it.
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2007-06-11 04:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I may shock you Sir, but no abuse from me at all. My husband and I waited 13 years to get married, in part because we both came from parents who had been divorced multiple times. Needless to say our experiences didn't give us the greatest confidence in marriage.
Why spend ALL that money on ONE stressful day that you can never plan to be exactly how you want it, because you have parents in every direction telling you how it should be, and none of them agree. All that, only to be far in debt and miserable about it, then for whatever reason end up paying out the **** to get a divorce in the not too distant future.
We had children young. And we knew getting married for the kids would be the wrong thing to do. We had friends who did that, and divorced (not to mention our parents). Anyone can have kids together, doesn't mean they should be together forever. And we both take marriage much more seriously than our parents did. It's not something to go into lightly, and it should be forever. Thick and thin.
Well, in our first 13 years we had numerous ups and downs, financially & emotionally, we were both still growing up and you don't know when you're 18 what you will be like at 30, if you'll still be compatible.
I'm happy to say that we worked through everything life threw at us and we are a very strong couple for it. Complete trust in each other, complete understanding of the other's views and expectations and we know we can live with that.
When we finally decided that "yes, we will be together forever. There is no other person better for me than you" we got married for free by our children's Minister, as a favor to me for helping him with church activities. We had 2 witnesses and then a month later we had a reception where all our families came to celebrate. It cost us next to nothing.
Sometimes the strongest marriages are the ones with most frugal ceremonies. We need all the glitter to make the commitment more real or important, all we needed was each other.
Sorry so long, but you said to think about it carefully, when I do that I get long-winded. hehe
2007-06-11 12:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by RanaBanana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is definitely more than just a piece of paper. It is a lifelong commitment. It is telling someone that you think that person is worth declaring that you will love only him/her until you die, that you will shun all others, that you will support him/her in all endeavors, dreams and goals, that you will take care of him/her during illness and stand beside him/her when times are tough. It is a commitment to not walk away when things get a little hard, a commitment to work on what you have built together. Marriage has been devalued as a piece of paper because people have stopped taking their vows to heart and will bail whenever they get bored, disillusioned or frustrated...and marriage does have those things at times. Marriage is not easy but if is is approached with commitment by two people who truly believe in what marriage means and are who are willing to work through the hard times as well as enjoy the good times then it is a beautiful thing.
2007-06-11 11:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The logic of marriage evades me as well.
If you are in a commited relationship then you are in a commited relationship and a marriage certificate does not strengthen it.
It seems many women see marriage as the finish line and let themselves and their relationship go to hell once they are married, because they figure they no longer have do the work of keeping the relationship going well.
The legal issue of alimony is just stupid if women want to be seen as equals and the way thing are structured gives women the advantage during the divorce. People should walk into marriage and leave marriage the same way. If you decide to stay home that is your decision and if you decide to work 80hrs a week that is also your decision. A person's career is their own and their spouse should not profit from it. "I supported they during the hard time." is a bunch of crap. People who succeed work hard to achieve and would of achieved if they had someone in their life or not.
Too many people want a fairy tale life and think they deserve one. Life is not a fairy tale and toblame anyone, but yourself for the short cummings in your life is just not fair. Everyone chooses their own life and makes of it what they can. Some are just better are making due.
2007-06-11 11:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not married i have been with my bloke for 20years now
a piece of paper does not mean nothing if you are in love nothing can spoil that and you can be together forever with out that marriage certificate
Respect
shaz
2007-06-12 15:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married six years ago and it is worth every penny. I mean my husband's wife (that's me) is awesome. I am his little crock of gold. He followed the whole length of a rainbow to get me. After dating for 15 1/2 years we got married 6 years ago and now we are even closer. Treat her well and you will never look back. That's what I always say. â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥
2007-06-11 12:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by Black 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does depend on the people involved. In some cases it isn't worth it and others it is. I'm speaking from experience because I have been married three times.
2007-06-11 11:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is very important to me and I'm very happily married, wouldn't change that for anything!
For me, it's not just a piece of paper, and God forbid it ever goes t1ts up!
If marriage isn't for you, then that's understandable too.
2007-06-11 11:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by sarahscarah78 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to share your life with only one person forever ,it's gonna be really really i mean really boring ,or maybe not, if you work on your marriage ,well that's i have been told anyway ! but ,there is someone who will always be there for you in good and bad times .however ! I don't recommend this horrible thing to anybody .just get on with your life and be free like a bird !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and taste more
2007-06-11 18:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by nini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im married 18 yrs to my childhoodsweet heart and for 15 years it was excellent but last 3 years have been hellish she has lost all interest in any kinda regular sexual or loving contact, it drives me nuts so right now i would say no dont get married
2007-06-11 17:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by shaggy629 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's worth getting married! If you do it right you'll live for the rest of your life with your best friend and build something that will make you die happy.
2007-06-11 11:27:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋