if your pregnant and your boyfriend leaves you...what would you do?

Answer 1

Well the obvious is that you are going to have a child and that he is going to be a father.

Building from that, ask him for financial support. Maybe he will cowboy up and start paying . You in turn need to keep him informed about the health and welfare of his child and when it is born provide him time and interaction with his child.

If he bails on the whole thing then contact your local child support section of your County / District / Township and they will not-so-gently point out to him the hard facts of life. They have a whole basketfull of hurt that the law lets them hand out from wage garnishment, tax return siezure, driver's license hold, etc... these things never go away and they are nationwide not just state wide so moving does not change things.

But... if the dad-to-be is upfront in his support and is there for his child then try to cut him a bit of slack even if you and he have parted. It makes it a bit easier for your kid in the long run and kids can do fine with one but do much better with TWO parents. Remember you are both parents for life now the the first priority MUST be your child.


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Answer 2

A lot depends on your age, and whether or not you want the responsibility of being a single parent for awhile. If your x doesn't come around, you will find someone that loves you and will be willing to help you raise your child.

However; your xboyfriend is responsible and required by law to help you financially and morally raise the child. The courts nowdays are firm on their belief that a child should have both parents in their lives. So, he will have some kind of visitation rights. If he excercises those rights he will be around for the rest of your days. You will need to go to court to get the order and they may order a paternity test.

If you are thinking of giving up the baby, please, please consider adoption rather than abortion. You will make a childless couple very happy and you will feel better for doing it. A child is priceless; the most precious gift one could ever receive, and it is growing inside of you. You will always be its mom.

Talk to your parents if you haven't already. You will need their support regardless of what you do.

Answer 3

Raise the baby on your own. I did. My boyfriend left me and moved to another state before I found out I was pregnant. When I was 11 weeks pregnant I called him and told him. I didn't want to get back with him, so I had the baby and raised him on my own until he was 2, then I started dating my current husband. My husband has been more of a father than my son's biological father. My son is now 7 years old, and loves my husband. I am a firm believer of everything happens for a reason.

Answer 4

I had that happen. Basically i told him i didnt want anything from him (he is a druggie) and to stay away from me and my son. No i didnt go after him for child support because i didnt want him to have any rights at all to him. Sorry but my son didnt need that kind of influence around. When he was 4 months old i met my husband and we have been happy as pie ever since. Now i am expecting a baby with him!! It depends on your situation. If he isnt a low life, hit him up for child support and let him see the baby. If he is a low life then walk away and dont look back. There are bigger and better things out there for you!

Answer 5

Get to court and get child support. The father should not get off free that scoundrel.

Also get sole custody so the bastard can't come back in a few years when you are married to a nice guy and upsets the apple cart.

Very important you take all the necessary legal steps.

Also take care of mother and child

Good luck mummy.

Answer 6

f**k him then. What kind of man abandons his gf who is pregnant with his child. You must move on. My sister had this same problem and since you're more emotional then usual, its harder. But there are so many programs to help you money wise and to fund baby items you will make it. Be strong and try hard to keep going. You have a precious little baby growing inside you! Thats so exciting. Think about that instead...You're going to be a mom ;-p Isnt that great

Answer 7

Geta paternity test done so you cna get hi to pay child support. I hope you know who the father is so you can do this much easier. Look for a support system, perhaps your parents or other close relatives. DO NOT LOOK FOR ANOTHER MAN TO SUPPORT YOU!
Understand you do have a tough road ahead of you. But you're tough! You can do it! Just rememeber that the baby inside you did not ask to be there, love it with all your heart or give it for someone else to love.

Answer 8

If you have God in your life PRAY! You are not the only one going through this. There is actually some one out here going through something more worse than you right now so, keep the faith, and be strong. Try as hard as you can not to think about it b/c it won't do anything but cause you to be more stressed out. Which is not good for your pregnancy. Good Luck and Stay Strong!!

Answer 9

Line up a good lawyer.

Open a case in your county's domestic relations department for child support and also speak to your attorney about drafting a custody agreement. Even if he wants nothing to do with that baby now, the custody agreement will protect you in the future should he have a change of heart. TRUST ME!

Answer 10

There is lots of fish in the ocean, been there done that. The creep was having an affair and married his teeny bopper - 14 year old when he was 22. Craddle robber and child molester.

Be strong, he maybe is just not ready to be a father and don't force him to be one. Sue him for child support.