BF is behaving strange...am i paranoid?

Question

I have been with my bf for a little over 2 years now, I love him dearly, and he I know (or at least he tells me) that he loves me too.

For abour 3-4 months now our sex life has disappeared. I practically beg for it, and even then I am refused. He tells me that he is tired, or that he doesnt feel good etc. always some excuse, and then tells me to wait for tomorrow. Well, tomorrow comes and goes, and I still keep waiting. I am not ugly or fat or anything...so I know it cant be a physical thing.

Well, this is where I feel like maybe I am paranoid. I checked our phone bill the other day, and I have noticed that he is calling one of his female co-workers a lot, at least 2-3 times a day. He never calls her when I am around, only when he is at work. I dont know if this is something I should be worried about, or if I am just overreacting. It just seems like everything is pointing in the direction that our relationship is over. Anyone else go through something like this? What you think?

Answer 1

I would ask him about the phone calls. Sounds like he is up to something. If he wasn't he would have mentioned he was talking so much to this other woman.

I would say the end is near for you two. There really is no reason he should be calling this other woman 2-3 times a day and only when you are not around.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. If he is calling one his female co-worker not only everyday but 2-3 times a day, then you should be worried. If you haven't been able to confront him, then you need to do so. Everyone feels tired every now and then, but not all the time. It looks like he definitely hiding something and you need to find out. Be the better person and try to talk to him calmly. Ask him questions the right way, and pick a good time, if he avoids the conversation then you need to tell him that things have not been the same and that you deserve an explanation. This is not fair for you, and at last if he decides to tell you that something has been going on with someone else, then he needs to go! You deserve better than that. Good Luck :D

Answer 3

um... if he's calling someone he works with 2-3 times a day, but he NEVER calls her when you are around AND he doesnt want to have sex with you anymore I would say he is cheating. WHY do you think you are being parranoid? If he's never called that girl so much before and now he SUDDENLY is, don't you think that's a problem?
You better talk to him about this, if he avoids the conversation or tells you YOU ARE being paranoid then dump him. You don't need to deal with that. If he can't even listen to you and your feelings than he's a loser.
ANd btw I've been on the reverse end of that situation and I didnt know the guy had a gf, but she saw my number all over there phone bill and called me. (guys can be kinda dumb huh?lol) SO maybe you should call her, if she's not a whore than she will appreciate knowing that he has a gf! I know I did. But don't be too nice to her either I mean she IS the 'other women'.

Answer 4

I can't relate to this but I'm sorry to say it seems like your relationship is heading for a break up. First of, he shouldn't have to call a co-worker,when he can talk to her at work, this is why your relationship isn't working. He is giving you the excuses of I'm tired, maybe tomorrow etc..that's a sign girl. Get rid of him, find someone that can love you for who you are. If you don't want to end it then maybe you should talk to him tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. Keep in mind he will probably tell you what you want to hear which is your just crazy, i love you why would you think that blah blah blah. You need to do what your heart tells you. Good Luck

Answer 5

Yes I have been thru the same, and honnie, ALL men want sex. So if you are begging for it practicly and he is still turning you down, something is up. And what reason would he have to call his female co-worker? None that I could think of unless she is his manager or an immediate superviser. So you already knwo what you need to do. Confront him with the knowledge you have and demand an answer, but that does not mean that he will answer honestly...But sweetheart, I really feel that he is being dishonest to you. So make a decision and no matter what stick to it, because if ne thing you deserve honesty and if he cant give that to you, then leave.

Answer 6

Its one of two things, one maybe he feels hes sexually inadequate an feels he cant talk to you about it and so he is calling his co-worker for advice, and of coarse he might be interested in this co worker, your best bet is to grab him and talk to him about this im personally not a big fan of ultimadems but say "hey i still love you no matter what but if we don't fix this now im gonna end it now" or somthing along those lines. But really if he does care about you in some way he will atleast tell you that maybe he lost his love for you. In the end its gonna haft to be decided but when you talk to him mention about that phone bill if you guys talk about it and it 'seems' fix then when you go to pay the next bill and he takes it secretly then that means he is hiding somthing which means he is doing something he knows is wrong thus the truth will come out that he is cheating on you

Answer 7

I have never been through something like this but I know where it is heading I think it is getting closer and closer to him cheating on you I think he really loves his co worker that is a girl and that is why he always calls her and stuff and thats why he is always tired he could be having a sex life with her and having a relationship with her he could already be cheating on you...you never know but I think the healthiest thing to do is tell him this relationship isn't going to work out and your over...just move on with your life happily!!

Answer 8

I don`t go through something like this, but I think you should talk with him about your thoughts. But when I`d you, I`d think that he is cheating on me! I don`t want to worry you, but I`d think so! And I`m vey jeaulous in such situations! But I hope it not, that he is cheating on you and that this all was a big misunderstanding!
I wish you all the best and that your relationship don`t ends!
Cheers, Caro

Answer 9

well i've gone tru something like that but no sex things. this is kind of difficult all ur facts are saying its going to be over but u shouldn't assume that he's into his co worker. the best thing to do is ask him. say "do you want this relationship to continue?, do you love, do you think u cud ever cheat on me? things like that and depending on his answer u'll kno

Answer 10

I think your relationship is over. Have a talk, not a hostile one, with your b/f and simply ask him if his feelings have changed. Accept what he says and move on. You aren't losing anything by losing someone who isn't committed to your happiness, and he's not.