Me and my ex boyfriend was 2gether for 11 months and we broke up. Im pregnant and he's there and is going to be there . we broke up because we argued so much towards the end of our relationship. Weve been brokein up for 2 weeks and his has a gurlfriend and he says he falling in love with her and she loves him also. He said he's torn from loving me and falling in love with her. And he said he loves me he's just not in love with me anymore. How do i make him relize ive changed and want to be with me again?
2007-06-11 03:55:45 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't make someone fall in love with you. You need to focus on you and your baby. Any man who would walk out on his pregnant girlfriend is a loser (sorry to say). You don't need him.
2007-06-11 03:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, you can't!! First of all, why would you want someone who doesn't want you? I realize having a baby is a HUGE problem to handle without a man but do you really want to take him back if he is so fickle that he has already found another girlfriend! Secondly, really sounds like he enjoys having his cake and eating it too....he now has two of you on the line and he is 'torn'?? Just try to get on with your life; for yourself and your baby. If it is meant to be, he will be there; if not...oh well!!! If you have made your bed, lie in it, even if alone!!! No man is worth the heartbreak you are going through! You are definitely worth more than that! Good luck and God bless you and your Baby!
2007-06-11 04:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by gmabell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Call an attorney to make sure the guy supports your child, and then move on. You do NOT want to try to raise your child in a relationship with a guy that does not love you. You broke up for a reason. Move on, start a new relationship, and work hard to maintain it. Your success will help teach your child the do's and don'ts of relationships.
2007-06-11 04:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 failed marriages, I learned the hard way that you cannot change a person. It's just not possible unless they want to change. Also, if he ran out on you and found someone else after just 2 weeks, you don't need him except for the child support check I hope you get. If you try to MAKE him do something, it will only drive him farther away from you and the baby.
2007-06-11 04:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. If he was really that interested in you he would be willing to work things out. Apparently he didn't care that much, because he found a girlfriend right away. Just like somebody else said, you don't want to raise your child on that kind of environment. Is it going to be hard to raise a child on your own? YES, it will be very hard, but don't try to be with someone because you are afraid of being by yourself and taking care of this huge responsibility. And like I said before, if he would have been that interested, he would have tried to work things out. Good Luck with everything Hun!
2007-06-11 04:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by true love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are pregnant.Time for a dose of reality. You need to stop worrying about making changes to get the guy back. If he had wanted to come back he wouldn't have left in the first place. Your priority now has to be the baby. Give up the fantasy of getting this guy back and figure out how you are going to provide a house, food, clothes, and medical. Tell him he needs to figure this out too.
2007-06-11 04:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ther is a saying if you love someone let them go, and if they love you..they will come back. Don't act needy..Find support within your friends and family and your brand new bundle of joy. Maybe after the baby is born he will see what he is really missing out on..Good luck and keep your head up, I know it must be difficult for you, but you have to move on and prepare yourself for the new baby.
2007-06-11 04:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Just_B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you enough for there not to be another g/f in two weeks and nothing you can do will change that. Make sure you get the child support agreement in writing with a lawyer.
2007-06-11 03:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality check he never was in real love with you that was fantasy and he needs to fall in love with you to stay with you. That will have to be attraction and fun and intelligence I hope that you can pull it all off next time make the man wait and the secret is how much he likes you to how much he will wait for you. Lust creates babies only.
2007-06-11 04:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound dumb, so I'll make this simple to understand-MOVE ON AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD!!!!!
He sounds even more stupid, you don't "fall in love" in twenty years sometimes, especially if you have a child you've created living in another woman's belly. Get counseling and forget any man that would treat you like such a whore...Get the point please, I'll be praying for you and your baby, not him...
2007-06-11 04:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋