Would you take your husband back if.........?

Question

This morning I was listening to the radio and they had an interesting topic. This feminist columnist wrote that she will not be voting for Hilary Clinton because she has no backbone for allowing her husband to have multiple affairs. Anyway, the dj of this radio station said that Hilary Clinton is just respecting her weddings vows and that monogamy is not included in the vows. So he took one lady caller and said the women that are leaving their husbands because they cheated on them are weak. That the women are not respecting their marriage vows. The men are just men and that they are supposed to cheat to get out of their system. She said that her husband cheated on her twice and she said that she loves him very much and would do anything for him. She wanted to show to her daughter what it meant to be a strong woman and stand by her man. The thing is each time another caller complained about what this women's view on cheating husband the dj kept cutting them off.

The dj kept saying oh your just judging you don't believe in marriage. I tried to call in but when I finally got through the line went dead. I had a tooon of questions to ask this lady. I wanted to ask if the tables were turned would your husband stay with you. So anyway your thoughts please.

The lady did say that she didn't feel like finding someone new and you can never be happy alone. But who the hell said you had to do it right away. Then the Dj said you I know how you feel I hate starting all over. This dj is not married his is bisexual and his admitted that he used to witness his father used to treat his mother like crap. So I guess he basing it on that factor that she stuck by him. However, there are wonderful men out there my grandfather is an example of that. He loved and adored her so much. I feel sorry for that lady caller because she wil never know how real love feels.

Answer 1

ROFLMAO, wanting to get it out of their systems? that is the funniest thing i have ever heard of. but you raise a good point, and not many men would stay in the marriage if they knew that their wives were cheating. its a double standard indeed

Answer 2

When infidelity becomes not part but a pattern of the marriage, then, I assure you, something is very very wrong with this picture.
As for leaving or staying, it is an individual choice of the spouse that was cheated on, and sometimes the cheater goes on to the next relationship and divorces the wife.
What is important here is to be honest with yourself and know exactly without rose coloured glasses what works for whom and for which reason. If you stay with a spouse that has been unfaithful, chances are, he will do this again and again, so it's not a matter of strength, it's a matter of being stubborn, not letting them go and find yourself someone who will be faithful.
However, in a political marriage, my guess is that Hillery did not grant Bill a divorce, and they are still together for more of an economical/political reasons. In real life of the everyday, your marriage and spouse should, for the most part make you happy, they are your family.
If there is no trust or respect, staying in this environment can't be beneficial. Only delusional.

Answer 3

I would never take anyone (much less a husband) back if they cheated on me. That woman is full of crap, wedding vows originated from a religious sanction and last time I checked, adultery was a sin.

Men are just as capable of having a monogamous relationship as women. In fact, several of my guy friends find it insulting that men are trumped into one big category of "men like sex, they all cheat, it's just the way they are"...because it's not true. Plenty of women cheat on their husbands and no one ever says "oh, she's just a woman, it's natural".

I'm glad I didn't hear that lady on the radio, it would have infuriated me ;)

the whole "stand by your man" generation is dying out, and thank God for that. It's not that we are weaker than our mothers, it's that we are more educated, more able, and not going to put up with the crap that the women before us did.

Answer 4

The moment the lady aired her laundry out to the public, I disrespected her.

Do women stay when their husbands cheat? Yep
Do men? Oh ya

Does it seem like people are looking for a pat on the back when they go on a radio station to say "Well, I stand by my man/woman when he/she did this"... ? Definitely.

Are women bitter enough to call radio stations and shoot down anything that people stand for? Yep yep yep

Besides, I'm personally tired of all the bitter women on the phone with disc jockeys that sound so ranting and spiteful saying "I was a good. patient, loving, mother/wife...", where on the air, where they are exposing themselves and representing their family, they sound like a whiny, please pity me or worse the "I DESERVE better" rant when they haven't even tried anything towards the marriage.

Granted, there are some that come across with a shocker of a horror story and something is learned from it. But usually, its the same old wah wah wah. (This goes for the men too!)

Answer 5

That lady is just a doormat and the husband uses her. You get treated the way you ALLOW yourself to get treated. And that's what she is doing. Her husband knows he can get away with it. This woman is only showing her daughter that it's ok to be treated like a doormat. That husband has no respect for her..but as soon as she were to walk..I'm sure that husband would have some. I think it's self-esteem she's lacking. And if she was really following the Bible, she would know that she has every right to divorce her husband. But alot of women stay because of the kids. Women will do anything for their kids. She needs to know she's doing her kids wrong by staying. That's my opinion.

Answer 6

If my husband ever cheats, it is over. I respect my marriage vows and take them very seriously, part of my vows and my husbands were "to forsake all others"! The cheater is not respecting the vows.

I do believe in divorce, however I would divorce him if he ever cheated or there was abuse. I will not be used as a doormat. I treat my husband with respect and love and expect he same in return.

Answer 7

Cheating is wrong, whether by the wife or husband, makes no difference. The cheater is not respecting their marriage vows by cheating. Standing by a cheater who has done it multiple times with no respect for his/her mate to stop, is not being strong. It is being weak by not standing up for what is right. I would (did not) not allow it from my husband. He cheated once, we split for a year, and he has not done it since. He knows I will not tolerate it again. And monagamy is included in the vows. It says (and cleave only unto him/her). For you stupid people (like the DJ), that means keep your pants zipped and your legs together.

Answer 8

Obviously the DJ is for "male supremacy" because I highly doubt that if his wife cheated on him, he would stick by her side. Cheating is cheating, no matter who does it--I think that Hillary not leaving her husband shows that she is weak and cannot survive without him. If it was me, I would have dumbed his behind as soon as he admitted that it happened. Marriage vows are sacred --for better or for worse, for sicker or for poorer...this vows are not a joke to be taken lightly, and infidelity throws those vows out the window. Ridiculous.

Answer 9

First off...I dont get how they are seeing a women being strong by staying by her man. Thats crap...I see them as being weak and having no back bones. A strong women can stand alone and be there for her husband but has enough respect and dignity to get up and walk out if being disrespected. Pfffttt on the whole conversation.

Answer 10

First of all, I never thought Bill and Hilary Clinton had a "traditional" marriage...theirs is more a marriage for the sake of appearances...they are a "Power Couple"....

...secondly, to each women her own but in my opinion, YES it IS IN THE VOWS...."Forsaking ALL OTHERS"......what the hell does that mean??? It means to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS.....

Call me a wimp, but I would NEVER allow a man that cheated on me to EVER touch me again.......that is the ultimate betrayel to a person...all the lying, the sneaking around and the physical act itself....NO WAY would I ever put up with that crap.....NO WAY.

Answer 11

I'm laughing my head off! I find it ridiculous that people always find a way to give them man a "pardon" or a reason for cheating. If he still needed to get it out of his system, what the hell did he get married for. I don't think that Hill is weak for taking her man back, I actually think that she is strong enough to forgive and put it behind her and to think about the bigger picture. I know that I would not be able to do that. It is one thing to love your husband enough to do anything for him and it's another to allow someone to walk all over you.