How to deal with jealous husband?

Question

Over the past few months my husband has been getting very jealous and accusing me of things on a regluar basis. I know in my own mind that I haven't done anything wrong but I feel like I am always being put on the stand for something with him. A few months ago he changed my cell phone number "to prove I wasn't up to anything" he checks my cell phone and even checks the internet history to see what I do in my spare time. He has yet to find anything which I think is a good indicator that I am honest and loyal! Now this is the biggest thing and I am really upset about it. Our mutual best friend is guy, he comes over daily (when my husband is home of course) I help take care of his son (who's mother passed away). Anyway, my husband accuses me of flitrting with this friend of ours which I feel is totally untrue because I don't have any sexual attraction to him at all, he has become more like a brother/family member to me. I'm really upset about this and don't know how to deal - suggestions?

Answer 1

Well here is the thing...Alot of men get jealous of their wifes. I think the best thing for you to do is keep up the great work. Don't fight w/ him bc he's checking ur fone bill or internet history bc then that would mean that you are hiding something and you really aren't.. Men these days have a intension of checking up on their wifes and accusing us of things that would never even cross our mind and think about. He is probably just parnoid that he might lose you and besides the fact of him being jealous you need to show him that there is no reason for him to be checking up on you... Maybe sit and talk to him and let him no how you feel about him checking your fone bill & internet history. I mean if he hasn't caught you cheating in the past then there is NO reason for him to be checking up on you... Don't worry u r going to prove him wrong and then he will have no reason to check up on u... just make sure u dont fight w/ him about him checking up on you so he won't get specious.......good luck

Answer 2

I checked my husband's cellphone once when he started behaving very cold towards our relationship. We even had a big fight but in the end, he confessed that there is no woman involved. He met some old friends and they started playing poker games with money. It took me 3 months to forgive him for treating me coldly. So, not matter what happens, that male best friend should not be in the picture at all. Marriages are made of love and without love, no jealousy. Any best friends of the opposite sex is a NO NO. Your explainations is not accepted at this point, do you understand? Your husband feels he is being left out in the cold just like me, mentioned above. You got to tell this friend of yours that you husband is not happy when you're with him.

Answer 3

This is really weird... I mean he wasn't like this from the beginning is every sense a few months??? uhmm maybe someone told him a lie about you and you need to get this out of him some how.. I don't know what to tell you... ask him to go to a marriage counselor with you that will bring it out for sure... in the mean time if I were you this is what I would do.. Tell your friends right in front of your husband what is up.. If your innocent and you know it this will be a good way to show him your not afraid of confronting anything and if he is soooooooo sure your interested in your friend he should not be afraid to confront either.. Tell your friend in front of your husband I can't help you with the kid anymore because my husband doesn't trust me and I don't know why.. maybe this will bring out your husband what is bothering him...good luck.

Answer 4

Usually when men become extremely suspicious like that it's because they did something and think "well if i did it she probably did too".. I am not saying that this is the case but it is a possibility. More than likely your husband is just insecure with himself therefore he feels he isn't doing enough to keep you therefore you will cheat. You just need to constantly reassure him that he is the one you want and that no other man can catch your eye because he has and will always have your attention (as long as he acts right of course). The insecurity usually goes away if you make him feel like he is the only man that exists to you... even if it isn't true.

Answer 5

Eh... I'd try to go into it, but it sounds to me like counseling would be a good idea. Negative connotations aside, therapists can help be good mediators and give each person perspective. From your side of the story, it does sound like you're in the right and your guy's in the wrong. But not to sound offensive or suspicious, everyone and anyone can make a story sound good and in their own favor. A therapist will see things from both your points of view, and help you two see things from each-others points of view.

Answer 6

I have the same problem. We just moved in with my bff and her fiance. We are all great friends. We moved in together for 2 reasons. She is expecting and scared shitless and I already have a 2yr old and know what I am doing. Also for finacial reasons. My husband accused me the other day of flirting with her fiance. So i started giving him ore attention and talking to him and sitting by him ...(him being my husband). And now he seems fine. So maybe you just need to pay more attention to your husband.

Answer 7

Give him a taste of his own medicine, do and say exactly the same things that he says and does to you. See how he likes it? Maybe he'll understand how you feel alot better. Otherwise if this really becomes a problem you can't deal with anymore, your really going to have to have a serious heart to heart talk with him to solve this problem before it becomes worse.

Answer 8

golly, i had a man who was just like that. really pissed me off and later became fed up. just fell out of love. its really difficult to live/be with someone who has you all holed up that you cannot do anything normal anymore. my advice as a woman who had the same thing, leave! you need to be with someone where everynight you can go to bed at peace instead of worrying he might think of something so stupid to use against you.

Answer 9

Wow. He has issues. You ever thought maybe he is the one out there cheating? He seems very insecure and maybe he is out there doing something he shouldn't be doing and because he feels guilty, he takes it out on you! If you know you aren't doing anything wrong, then I would demand him to stop what he is doing and change his ways before he pushes you out the door! If he really loves you he will change and learn to respect and trust you!

Answer 10

Insecure men!!!!

What is it with men these days have they been screwed over so many times that when they get a good thing they push em' away because they are afraid of being hurt.