How many guys hate there ex-wife? I hate the fact that even though we been divorced for 7 years she wants to control my life still, how do people deal with this? Is it just me or do all ex-husbands have this problem?
2007-06-11 02:54:43 · 11 answers · asked by mrjts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope not just you. My husbands ex wife started again last week trying to make him miserable. They have been apart for 8 years next month. He is ignoring her and when she tries to blame him for everything he calmly explains to her the events that led up to the divorce, you think you could repeat it enough that the ex would get the picture that its done and gone, but like you said they want to control your life. good luck, remain calm, dont say/do anything that she can turn against you.
2007-06-11 03:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condescending -- yes that is how it sounds -- anything coming from the "X".
You must look into the way you respond to her..to see if you are enabling this behavior. Often you need to make them feel like they're the greatest--its the most effective response..keep it generic...but keep it super positive (boiler plate response only). If you're angry or aggrevated and show frustration..you will not get the response you're looking for.
For example..even though you may hate them--if you look, as crazy as this sounds, to love them....you will get better results than you will if you hate them.
Often a person with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) -- needs to feel in control. So you need to learn to work with them...as long as their patterns are consistent..you'll be the one in charge..even if your words sound like she is...this is an old wiseman trick from the southern belle book of trade--women getting men to do what they want...without them knowing it. You use the same...and you'll be better off.
2007-06-11 03:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shauno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my ex-husband. He tries to control my life even after ten years of divorce.
Is it me, or do all ex-wives have this problem?
2007-06-11 03:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the case?(after being divorced for seven years and you don't like being under control), WHY do you keep in contact with her? Why not just cut all ties? I'm guessing there's children involved and this is why!! Just think, soon the kids will be old enough to make their own decisions and you can let go of her for good!!!!!! if her controllingness bothers you that much!!!
2007-06-11 03:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was having a right to control you while you were married so now she don't have that power to do so, only your new girlfriend or wife need to control you now not your ex-wife, she must control her husband not you. and lastly you have to control yourself not any one because you will even do something you dont like because your life is controlled by someone else
2007-06-11 03:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by CHINAEYEZ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never felt so free. I have custody of the kids. She has to pay child support. I am now in control of my life. I wished this would have happened a lot sooner but it is great to be released from my ball and chain.
2007-06-11 03:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some say that the opposite of Love is Hate.
That's not correct......
The opposite of Love IS Indifference.
The truth about Love/Hate.. is they are seperated by a very fine line.
Now, ask yourself why you're feeling "hate, as you call it.
Sounds like unfinished business to me.
2007-06-11 14:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't specify how she is controlling your life, but generally when you feel someone else is controlling your life, its because you are letting them. Now if she is controlling your life because she expects you to hold up your end of the bargain with the kids, then maybe she is entitled. Otherwise, don't contact her.
2007-06-11 03:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Neither one of mine have that prob. I said good ridance. Don't let her do that. You have your own life now and be sure to let her know that. If you have kids, it's very hard because she knows exactly what you are doing, through them. But shake her off like a dog does water after his bath....
2007-06-11 03:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question here is - why are you letting her control your life?? what part of your life is being controlled --
you need to take control yourself - and don't let her control YOU!
2007-06-11 02:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋