What makes women turn into man haters?

Question

Did they have poor relationships with their fathers?
Was there an absence of male role models such as fathers & brothers?
Did they suffered bad romantic relationships with men?
Do they envy other women who are prettier than them?
What's your theory?

Answer 1

The same thing that turns men into women haters... being beaten, raped, molested, neglected, and/or emotionally abused by someone that was supposed to care about them (Father, Mother, spouse, Guardian... whoever).

Answer 2

My theory is if a woman is burned by a man she may turn into a man hater. My thing after being burned by my ex husband turned into a trust issue and not a hate issue. I work with a woman who was burned by her son's father and she now thinks that ALL men are bastards. I don't even tell her things about my husband because I know I will get negative comments. A man doesn't even have to do anything bad but to her they're all jerks. I'm glad I'm not bitter that way. I'm remarried now and I love my husband. I think there are a lot of nice men out there and some women shouldn't be hatin'

Answer 3

Man Haters

Answer 4

We don't necessarily hate men; just the things they do to hurt us. Some of us ask for it, and some of us don't. Once we've been hurt pretty good a few times, the guard goes way up, because we don't want to get hurt again. Men tend to misconstrue this and percieve us to be b*itches and don't take into account that there is a valid reason behind the attitude. We don't always mean to be short, but if we can find a man who will see past that and break down that wall and teach us it's safe to trust again, we generally go back to our loving, trusting selves again. Some women do take it to the extreme, and are so hurt that they don't recognize that it's the actions and not the gender in general that causes the pain, and when we look at all men, the only face we see is that of the man who did us dirty. It's unfortunate that there are some guys who are so dirty that they ruin some women for men that are actually decent.

Answer 5

Interestingly, many famous "modern" feminists have witnessed abusive relationships between their parents. Germaine Greer had a rather distant father and suffered at the hands of an abusive mother. Gloria Steinem's father abandoned the family and she was left to deal with a severly depressed mother. Betty Friedan's mother took over the family business after her father fell ill. I wonder if the stress of his illness may have changed the family dynamic? Who knows. A few other famous feminists share having difficult childhoods. Not that all of these women are "man-haters", of course, but I know what you're getting at. :-)

This is not to say that their thoughts are invalid in some way. But it is probably reasonable to say that if you have never seen a healthy male-female relationship, it might color your perceptions and identity a bit. Certainly, many children grow up eager to right past wrongs and make different choices from their same-sex parent.

The problem is when some feminists mistakenly assume that there must be something inherently wrong with marriage or the entire male gender based on their own experiences. I enjoy reading anything that helps me grow, however, and I would never seek to censor anyone - even when I disagree with the ideas presented. But I think witnessing an unhealthy male-female relationship is in the past of many "haters" of both genders.

Answer 6

I hate to say this but the fact of the matter is that We live in a society where people can not handle the realities of life, and as such choose to channel Their anger towards others. If someone is not good enough for a advancement, or is a pawn, a tool, or an object, well then it is obviously someone Else's fault. And the odds are that rather than blame a Woman the 'victim' will publicly castigate Males , thus guaranteeing Herself a support group.
Sorry about the obvious generalizations, but if You read between the lines.............
That should just about cover all sections of Your question.

Answer 7

I am sure that each individual case is different. There could be several possible reasons for this hatred or none at all. Or at least none that are reasonable.

Examples:

Their mothers were men bashers.
They were abused/raped by a man.
They were dumped by a man/men.
Molested by brother/father/relative.
They are emotionally/mentally unstable.

People think that all gay women are gay because they hate men. This is a misconception. Are men gay because they hate all women? Of course not. They just prefer a relationship with the same sex.

By the way there are men who seem to hate all women also. This is not one sided. They could possibly have the same reasons as the women. See above list.

I was abused and molested as a child and I do not hate ALL men. I love my husband and sons. There are other men I like and get along with too.

Answer 8

I think women who hate men have been wronged - like abused as children, neglected by a no-show father, have had bad relationships with men close to their age.

We gals always envy those we think are prettier - that never stops, and unfortunately can get a little worse with age.

I've just tried to accept myself for what I was given, and try not to let it grow too much out of control! HAHA

As for women hating men, they've just been through a lot. It sucks that all men can be lumped into the generalization of being "dogs", but it's a defense stance so they don't get hurt again.
I've been lucky, I guess.

Answer 9

You know I was just looking at Payne's chart of the Three Classes (see link below, it's on page 4 not 3) and I think your question in a way is related to that. Every woman hater I know grew up in a family where the father was a bit of a doofus in one way or another and the female children were NOT valued as really fantastic individuals. If anything, the MOTHER hated men and it was part of the family structure to ridicule men! I grew up with the opposite. I know 3 women who really do hate men and all three of their mothers were really nasty passive aggressive men bashers. The whole family supported tht approach, either openly or very thinly veiled!

http://www.moboces.org/docs/Banner.pdf

Answer 10

Any and all of those reasons listed. Perhaps the pain of watching someone they love abused, as well. Maybe their mother or sister. I don't know what you mean by "Do they envy other women who are prettier than them?" as a reason though. I don't see how that would make them hate men.

Answer 11

Simple. Multiple negative experiences with men that outnumber the positive.

This can stem from father, brother or romantic partners. It doesn't matter.

Same applies to men.