Can I get a divorce?

Question

I married 3 years ago, will be three years this September, and I
left my wife. I have not heard from her since two years, and I want to divorce now without applying to her (I know where she lives, but do not want to tell her). I am afraid that if I tell her she will not agree, because when I left her she was badly off, and needed a lot of bills to pay, medical, and I did not feel ready for it. We actually quarreled because of this: I went on the cruise, and she thought that I'd better pay her bills. I wanted some life to live, and when I left her, she was really badly off, like nothing to eat and unpaid rent, and she could not work then.
I was not ready for such responsibility.
Can I now divorce her without paying too much in legal fees?

Can she make me pay her bills and rent for when we lived together? I
lived with her, and she was behind her rent then and could not pay.

Answer 1

even an uncontested divorce will cost you several hundred dollars. the best thing for you to do is to find a good lawyer. a divorce shouldn't be too hard to get if the two of you have been living apart without contact for as long as you say. just make sure that the divorce decree plainly states that she is responsible for bills in her name and bills she made while the two of you have been living apart. if you haven't been paying her bills all this time it should be hard for her to make you responsible for them now. i don't know that you will be able to get the divorce without her finding out but it sounds very probable that your marriage could be disolved without going to court.

Answer 2

In most jurisdictions, the spouse who abandons the other is not entitled to a divorce. In other words, no, you cannot divorce her without paying too much in fees. In most civilized countries, you have no grounds for divorce at all. In most states, "her" creditors have the right to recover from YOU, because the medical bills (and I infer many other bills) were for necessities, rather than luxuries (such as the cruise that you took while your wife was ill).

"when I left her, she was really badly off, like nothing to eat and unpaid rent, and she could not work then.
I was not ready for such responsibility"

Then you should not have married her, you lowlife scum. She does not owe you a divorce, and you are entitled to nothing.

Answer 3

Wow! How can you leave somebody in such bad shape?
She will probably be glad to divorce you, but don't think you aren't gonna end up paying out lots of money. As for not being ready, you should have thought about that before you said I do! I don't know what to tell you, this is a bad situation.
Gosh married for 3 years and you left her like that. Did you not have feelings for her at all? I'm Sorry, I am just stunned at how awful you said you left her. Was she cripple or something? Couldn't work at all? All this is going to come back on you in court. She has a right to 50 % of everything you own. She is gonna get alot more though. I hope. Wow, you are a real a**hole !

Answer 4

You can get a divorce but cannot do so without her. And honestly, she's is correct and will not fight the divorce, but will rake you over the coals. There are unpaid medical bills and you take a cruise?! Nice. Be prepared to pay alimony and at least 1/2 of those bills.

Answer 5

Well aren't you a winner! Why would you think she would not want the divorce after your actions? Indeed you are probably very very much so legally responsible for paying some of those bills. There is no way you will be granted a divorce without making major restitution to her. And rightly so. no judge in this country will side with you. Divorce her I would bet she will WELCOME it. As far as not paying too much in legal fees, the legal fees should be the last of your worries. You'll be paying through the nose for years (and back pay too).

Answer 6

Marriage is for better or worse. I think you are a low life and you deserve whatever you get in life. I hope you fall deeply in love marry a beautiful woman and then come down with a disability that effects your income and she leaves you high and dry. If you weren't ready for responsibility you shouldn't have married her in the first place. If you ever want to be able to hold your head up you should go back and make things right and then get your divorce. Men like you make women want to stay single and turn gay. You disgust me.

Answer 7

You know Mr. What you took vows with your wife and in those vows there's something that says, 'for better or for worse.'
Well, in your case when it came to the 'for worse' part, you bailed. I think that says a lot about you.
And now she's just barely getting by.......I hope she will be receiving some kind of reparations, it's the least you can do.
P.S. It sounds like she went into the hospital and incurred these bills DURING the marriage, right mr. wonderful? That is why you left her.

Answer 8

wow, I knew someone like that once. He was a scum sucking irresponsible jerk that sucked the life out of every person he came in contact with. A complete waste of human flesh that his mother should've been slapped because of. Fortunately for everyone involved he suddenly got a consicence and drove himself off a cliff leaving his wife a widow instead of being divorced from a piece of $h!T.

I don't know what YOU should do though.

Answer 9

A freedom or a precise is a state granted permission to do something interior of a undeniable means that they later set with lawsuits. it relatively is a shaggy dog tale. All of politics is a shaggy dog tale. Telling somebody they are allowed to be loose isn't actual freedom and is even worse being a complete perversion of what a precise or freedom truly is.

Answer 10

For one you are an ***. you really didn't love her why marry her? go to the libary they have free legal books. you will then go to the court house and file and pay the filing fee. you have a part long enough you will not have to pay her. unless you have a child together. she can sign sign a waiver not be there. and you can also fill out papers stating that you could not find her.

Answer 11

It depends on where you live but in most states you must make every effort to contact that person. In NC you can run an ad in the newspaper where she last lived. Barring that the divorce requires both signatures.