Before I start please really dont be rude I'm not looking for a shoulder to cry on just someone to hear me out...I been with my bf for about 1 yr and 6 months I moved to a whole different country for his guy and I truly love him with all my heart and soul...but this past weekend he left me and went back to him's mom's house...why because we would always fight about him going out...he always wants to go out by himself while I stay at home with no one to talk to nor hang out with...I really dont have friends here of my own all his friends are my friends...we fought about him going out by himself....he said he couldnt take it any more and just left...I do understand that he wants to go out and I really dont mind but why cant we go out together why cant I just hang out with him....all I want is to spend time with him becaus he works and goes to school all he wants to do is sleep when he comes home and I cant bas a relationship on sleep....all I can really say is I love him/ truely miss him
2007-06-11 01:51:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe a short seperation will help, it is alot of presure, on both parts, good luck to both.
2007-06-11 01:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by kanei 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. You might want to see if you can go back home and let him have the place again, just let him know that you feel that you really aren't wanted by him any more and that you're going to be going home. If he is REALLY in-love with you he will say no don't go but I doubt that he will say that since he went running home to his mommy. He probably thought that he had the best of both worlds before you moved in with him because he could have you on the side and still get to act like somebody that didn't have a relationship. You sound like a young man that has your head on straight and now you just need to move on, get back to your home country and find a great guy that shares the same ideals as you do. Good luck.
2007-06-11 09:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that, sweetheart! I know it's hard. I was in a similar situation not too long ago. All you can do is wait it out. If ya'll broke up, there was a reason for it! You have to just keep telling yourself that there is someone else out there for you. The love you have for him isn't going to go away, but I'm sure some other guy would gladly take on the responsibility of helping you get over him. Just give it time, though. Don't rush into another relationship too soon. Make sure you're ready first! It will all turn out for the better!
Hope everything works out for you! =] Have a wonderful day!
2007-06-11 09:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by raynbeau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he occasionally wants to meet friends out alone, that's one thing. From what you described it's something else.
Either, he has already found another lover and is two timing you or he is trying to break the relationship in a way that he can blame you even though it is his desire for it to end. Basically, he is not enough of a man to tell you and talk to you and work out the problems as he perceives it, easier to do this and make you leave.
Personally, I think you should. Someone else said he is not mature enough to be with you. I think their right. Pack up your stuff and leave. You can tell him when he is ready to have a LTR as an adult he can contact you but you will not put your life on hold while he grows up.
Time to head home, where ever that is....PS...Is he Latino? This sounds a lot like a situation that a friend of mine had.....a few years ago.
2007-06-11 10:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I understand loving someone but if they constantly wanted to go out ALONE, that would be a clue that they don't return your emotions.
It hurts right now but honestly it sounds as though you aren't going to get what you need from this guy. Stand up and move on. Allowing someone to walk on you will make you a doormat for the rest of your life. Have some self-esteem, move on and find someone who will love and respect you, he doesn't deserve you at all.
2007-06-11 09:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You moved to a whole different country to be with him? Wow - that must be love or at least lust.
He's moved back in with his Mom? Just how are old you/is he?
Not all relationships work out. You saw more in it than he did.
Don't worry - you will get over this in time and maybe find someone else.
Good luck.
2007-06-11 08:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's too immature for you.
Consign him to the past and look for someone who values you. Yes, you will miss him. Allow yourself time to grieve and get over him. But really, you're right. A relationship isn't about one person going out on their own.
You love him more than he loves you. Don't take second best.
2007-06-11 08:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time. He will realize that his mom will not be able to provide the support and loving that you can. When he comes back, you two need to talk about spending quality time together when you are both awake.
2007-06-11 10:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship. You can want to be in one with him until the cows come home but it is not about to change him. Perhaps it's time to move on.
2007-06-11 09:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow man. Sorry to hear that. You have my posistive energy.
BTW dick h, you know with a name like that, I'm wondering about you.....
2007-06-11 09:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Blood Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋