i am 15 and fantasize about guys and picture them without a shirt and stuff as if i were gay or bi. i dont want to be either. is this just a stage. what should i do? i dont want to be gay or bi.
2007-06-11 01:40:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i like girls alot thogh and went out with a few and i am stll a virgin. what is wrong with me?
2007-06-11 01:42:56 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with you. You're a teenager (with hard to control hormones). You're still finding out about life and yourself.
As far as wanting to be gay or bi (or straight) - you should know that sexual orientation is genetic, not a choice (in spite of what some people might say). Don't worry about it.
2007-06-11 01:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This topic is sad. The thing that is worse than all the people telling you that you should hate the desire you have for men is the likelihood that you will develop a hate for yourself. I understand why you don't want to be gay. It's taboo, and you don't want to be associated with the bad things people say and think about gay/bi people. The saddest part about this whole thing is that because of what other people are labeling as "wrong", you deny yourself from what you like. Life is about being happy. You feel good when you think about men. What's wrong with you feeling good? What's wrong with YOUR happiness? Forget about everyone else. At the end of the day, the only thing you should be concerned about is what puts a smile on YOUR face. "DO YOU"
2007-06-11 03:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan W. Jones 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sad that as evolved as a society as we have become we still see things like this. Poor kid can't even accept who he might be, his own genetics. Nobody ever sits around saying, "NO, I don't wanna be left-handed." Kid, homo/bisexuality is not something within your control. Trust me. I went through a similar phase when I was your age. But guess what, I'm gay. And I'm proud of who I am. Is it easy? Not always. That's why I can't understand these bible-thumpers who think we chose this lifestyle. Who decides, "hey let me pick a path in life that will close all kinds of doors for me, make some groups of people condemn me and close off 90% of the population from may dating pool?" But it's not all bad either. Just love yourself for who you are, gay, straight, bi, whatever. If you want to fatasize about boys, go ahead. If you want to date girls, go ahead. Just do what makes you happy. That's all any of us can do in this crazy world.
2007-06-11 04:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be just a stage. We have a whole lot of new hormones running through our bodies around this age, and everyone feels weird. And being a virgin does not make you less of a man, or any less experienced if you wait longer. Waiting is good. Things are better when they are longer anticipated!!!
2007-06-11 19:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by allhailkirby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do no longer you attempt and communicate on your gay buddy. As you have popular him for thus long i think of he in all likelihood suspects something besides. maximum gay adult males can spot different gay adult males, whether they have not admitted to themselves that they are gay. once you're saying you enjoyed the girl, did you discover her sexually alluring? You point out that for the period of school maximum human beings might provide you a no longer basic time, even regardless of the undeniable fact that it extremely is different from you all of sudden could % that your gay and then announce it to all of us. Your private existence is your man or woman and issues will take place of their very own time. Please reveal on your buddy.
2016-10-08 23:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you don't get to pick and choose. I got on my knees and prayed for years, didn't work.
Finally, I realized, I am who I am and I cannot change. I had to accept myself for who I am and being happy with myself.
Until you can do this....and it may take a while, you will not be truly happy and don't let the bible thumpers out there tell you that it's a sin or any guilt crap like that.
And, unless your also regularly thinking of girls, titty and ****, and masturbating to those thoughts, then you not bi, your just gay.
2007-06-11 03:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being gay is not genetic, it happens because of influences accepted. Often children are young and do not know that it is something that is thought of as a sin nature, and they have been influenced and accepted the feelings as normal and those feelings will work in the subconscious level as they grow. Just keep saying that you choose not to be gay, and you may look at men or fantasize about them, but when you do just say NO, this is not what I choose.
2007-06-11 01:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
you don`t have to be gay to admire guys without a shirt duh! if u fantasize a pic with a guy without a shirt who has a great 6pack and u wanna be just like him that doesen`t mean your gay .. it means you wanna improve your look ... tip: try to find girls from an art class (they r more open to strangers than any others) if you`re tired to be a virgin
2007-06-11 01:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Idle hands are the devils workshop. Occupy your time that is now being used for bad thoughts for constructive purposes. Find a hobby, take up a sport, focus on your future career. Anything that will replace those stray thoughts. Not only will you get over these thoughts, but you will be ahead on others!
Good luck!
2007-06-11 02:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Don't live a lie - just be you! Your only 15 you have a few years to figure it out.
2007-06-11 01:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by QforU For Da Ben Dan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋