How should I come out to my parents?
2007-06-11 01:24:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just tell them the truth.
2007-06-11 01:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carefully, they may be shocked. Most parents would prefer their kids not be gay because of the way society sometimes treats gay people. Nobody wants anyone to hurt their child. That said, most parents would love their kids no matter what and simply want them to be happy. I would find a quiet time to talk to them together.
2007-06-11 08:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being gay. Accept yourself first and then it would be easier to make others accept you for who you are. One time, given the right opportunity - like after dinner talks with parents - tell them, " I have an announcement to make. I am gay! I understand if you cannot accept this fact at this very moment; but, i need you to understand me and i need you to respect the way i want to live my life. " Whether they accept you or not, it's not your problem anymore. You tell the truth and the truth shall set you free...
2007-06-11 09:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by shirley g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you have an issue with your sexuality, that you have been influenced some point in your life, you do not even remember how or when it happened, but you have come to terms that you are sexually attracted to the same gender at this time in your life. It may not always be this way, I am young, but it is a battle cry for me wright now and I need your support and prayers. I love you mom and dad!
2007-06-11 08:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to ask yourself why you've chosen this lifestyle. And yes, it is a choice. And you should ask yourself if you believe in God, and if so, just what you believe about Him. If you see Him as a supreme, all-knowing Being, a Perfect Creator of all the universe, then how could He have made a mistake with the way He made you?
You are perfect in the body you were given, and the gender you were given. You don't state if you're male or female, but whatever gender you are, you were created, designed, for a purpose. Instead of entertaining homosexual thoughts, think about what you're true purpose on this Earth may be.
And pray. Whether you consider yourself "religious" or not, God is still God, and He is still there. And He hears us when we earnestly seek Him. Talk to Him. He is your Father and your Friend. Speak to Him first before speaking to your mom and dad. And when you speak to Him, be open and receptive to what He may have to say to you. God bless, and stay strong.
2007-06-11 08:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by luttibelle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are you parents, and although they might react badly you have to approach them openly and honestly. Tell them how much they mean to you and that their support is very important to you. After you tell them, give them some time to adjust to your news before pushing the issue. They will love you no matter what...so dont worry too much! Congrats on Coming out Though....Good LUck!
2007-06-11 08:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by helicopterjen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would say don't; if your sure you were born gay it doesn't mean you have to live the lifestlye. Fight your urges try to use your body in the manor God intended. I know it is hard just like it is hard for people not to steal or kill but you should resist. Besides you would probaly just hurt your parents and cause a rift between you and them.
2007-06-11 08:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, WHY shuold you? Make sure the time is right. Parents main concern is for your happiness and safety; are you seeing someone? Anyway, if you decide that it's time and you need them to know, I suggest just sitting them down, spitting it out, short and sweet, and be ready to discuss it as much as is needed. Be ready for some tears... Be supportive of them, and have some books/ literature on hand for them to reference once your gone...
2007-06-11 08:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just sit down and tell them the truth. The longer you wait I think the harder it will be. Once you tell them and come out your life will be so much easier. You will have a piece of mind. Wheather or not they will understand and support you right away they will come around you are their child.
2007-06-11 08:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by jcrucha44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is something that one is born with, its not your fault and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Approach them with love and respect. Just be honest and explain from the beginning how you know, what you know. Parents may find it hard to accept based on there upbringing, but I beleive most parents love is unconditional, even though they may seem dissappointed or be hurt. At least you wont be pretending or living a lie once you tell them though. Be you. Thats what God wants you to be... Yourself.
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2007-06-11 08:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might want to come out to a friend that you know will accept you. There are ways of "coming out" that minimize the "problems".
Unless you are sure your parents are understanding and supportive ... come out to those people who will be absolutely supportive of your choice.
2007-06-11 08:32:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋