Do you mind if people make judgement on you?

Question

for example, on the way you look, what you wear, how you speak, etc.

especially if the comment is negative and you don't really feel it is that bad.

Answer 1

yea kind of because it shows youre ignorant cause you may or may not be right. Thats why i dont judge anyone till i get to know them as a person. I dont presume to know anything about someone by the way they look. You never know what the real story is.

Constructive critism is tactful and involves your best interest at heart. You may not like what you hear but you realize is just the person wanting the best for you even if you dont agree. Their personal opinion may or may not be right for you but they think it is and usually it has some truth to it.

Then theres the other kind of criticism, i think other kinds dont really mean anything else, they are just used as a power tool and people think that it can effect others. Thats usually immature people or those who are not level headed and usually do it to hide their own insecurities and basically the rest is just to get on people nerves. So the second kind really dosent mean much at all. The first kind can be good for someone.

If you care about the other persons opinion and respect them it hurts more than if it were some random ja*ck*** or nobody. If is a regular person who dosent know you who makes a judgement i can always handle that and attribute it to ignorance or jealousy. I sit back and humor them because i know what position they are operating from.

Answer 2

Constructive criticisms today can change you to a better person tomorrow. However, sometimes, people tend to go over the limit whereby their judgement seems to be an insult for us. It depends on the situation on how the person make the judgement. If the tone is kinda harsh, well, we know that we can't tolerate that person's judgement anymore. But, if the tone is as soft as a cotton candy, well, we should try to improve to be the best in their eyes, right? But do not keep changing yourself for the sake of others. It is not the right way to change yourself by doing that.

Answer 3

As mentioned above, it's inevitable for people to be judged, and judge one another because of how society is structured today, with the media exploiting different aspects of the "perfect man" or the "perfect woman." Judgments are necessary to better oneself, and of course depending on who's making the judgment and whether or not it's constructive criticism, that's definitely going to matter.

Answer 4

Absolutely not. This is a right of everyone and this is normal for people. If you don't have an opinion about something then you aren't really involved in life. We all look at others and see what we like and don't like. If we feel close and comfortable with someone, we may comment either way about it. There is nothing wrong with this. I welcome criticism, it helps me improve.

Answer 5

You get used to it, because it happens and will continue to happen everywhere you go. If you care, which, to some degree you should, you will learn to dress, groom, speak, and compose yourself in the manner you want to be perceived. The way you look and act tells everyone around you about you, whether you want it to or not. Obviously, no one can know you till they get to know you, but first impressions are all most people have to go off of.

Answer 6

No one likes to be judged....especially when the one who's passing the judgment has no room to talk! I always keep this old saying in mind "those who matter do not judge; those who judge do not matter". The main reason why people do this is because they feel threatened by that person and feel the need to pass judgment to bring them down to their level. I don't play that game.

Answer 7

I think it is impossible not to makes judgements on people based on superficial things, especailly if you don't know them. I dislike being judged on intinsic things- for instance my accent, which I can't help, but if someone were to make a judgement based on the clothes I was wearing, I think this would be fair. The image we choose to portray e.g. clothes, make-up (or lack thereof), personal appearance is part of our elected identity, therefore people would only be judging us on an appearance or guise that we had chosen to exhibit- usually for a reason...

Answer 8

No. With most people I have a tacit reciprocal agreement. I'm an Australian, We don't care what anyone thinks about anything at anytime anywhere. Unless You are talking football at the Pub.
Cheers, Ashleigh

Answer 9

It depends on my 'state of mind" at that time.
Sometimes, I'm thankful because I saw the truth on what they said.
Other times, I get defensive and throw out their judgment.

Answer 10

Not really, although hearing my name and what people say about me is disturbing sometimes, I always end up with "They don't know me , screw 'em". If it's someone I am close to them I take matters to heart