Why do men always focus on the obvious?

Question

Are they unaware of the lighter side of life, the caring love one can feel and the divine highs of multiple orgasm. Everything with them seems so blunt, too coarse.

I blame thier mothers.

Answer 1

I don't focus on the obvious and am aware of the lighter side of life. However, the very thought of my mother explaining the divine highs of multiple orgasms is enough to send me into rehab. I prefer to think that my parents never had sex and that I was conceived by mail order, thank you.

Answer 2

We are hard wired to be crass an blunt. Problem solving is crucial for survival in early man and nurturing was for women to help the young live so the human race had a chance of survival. We can't help not being like women, but there is no excuse for a man to hit a woman, that s a whole different problem. I hope you are not being hurt, but just mad that men don't have the same amount of compassion.
The other side, and the odd side, is a woman can turn off her love for a man like a light switch, while it takes a man a minimum of a year to recover after a break up. That's the hard wiring I can't fiure out. So you got that going for you.

Answer 3

Why do women seem to think that men should be more like them?

Men and women are different. They always have been and always will be.

Instead of picking fault with each other, men and women should rejoice in thier differences.

Women do not understand how men work.
Men do not understand how women work.

Men are living in a different world.
The essence of being a man in male company is to be hard, strong and tough, coarse and vulgar. That is how men bond.

Every man spent the majority of his formative years in soley male company, just the way women did. The personaility grows to fill the shape of being a man or woman as the world around defines it.

I would also state that it depends on the man. Men can be caring and considerate and appreciate higher things than football and beer. But usually the world doesn't like that and a man loses his masculinity by showing his more sensitive side.

Especially in the eyes of other men and sometimes in the eyes of women.

Would you deliberately act in a way that makes your own sex think you are odd?

Would you go around swearing, drinking beer, watching football, wearing big boots, treating other women like crap and generally being an animal because a man wanted you to?
Knowing that you would be ostracised by other women because "That's her that acts like a bloke all the time".

That's what you are asking men to do by wanting them to show thier feminine side.

I am not saying that men should not be a little more sensitive and open to new things, but a little understanding would go far.

Or maybe not because most blokes are just asses. Or maybe that is my view, as a man, of other men because I only see the male personality they project in order to be "a man".

Answer 4

It appears that your experience of 'men' is limited, so let me tell you that while men do focus on the obvious aspects of a situation first, most men do not stop there, but they continue with subtler observations until they are reasonably sure that their response will be informed by adequate understanding. If their heuristics are sometimes embarrassingly simple, even crude, that is explained by men's frequent need to arrive at the timely response.

The orgasmic factor of many situations a man is in is a negligible concern. That's a grizzly sow coming at me, and I really don't give a damn whether she gets off several times or not. My response is, not surprisingly, governed by what I see as the crucial factors of distance and relative velocity, and whether I have a gun or not. These habits of thought are perhaps inappropriate in a fern bar, and there, you can reasonably criticize, the priority of my concerns were properly reversed. (I lay aside here questions of why a man would meet a grizzly sow in a fern bar. I don't want to know.)

Whether a decision is adequate is affected by the degree of resolution of the understanding had at the moment of decision. Men tend to judge the degree of understanding attained adequate for decision before women do; a few crucial dimensions are taken, and they suffice, for manly decisions. Sometimes they're laughably wrong.

But the same can be said of the excessively detailed understandings a woman seeks. Don't women recognize extraneous factors when they see them?

Answer 5

what a bizarre question!

Nope i've never had a multiple orgasm, that i think you might have to blame on nature.

Caring and loving, yep i've been in love and yes i am a pretty caring person.

Coarse and blunt, well you may say breasts and we may say ****, big deal.

You are blaming mothers for your views on males? You do realise you will no doubt be a mother at some stage in your life don't you?

Answer 6

I that case, I must be an exception, and most distinctive one. I always overlook the obvious, the more things become obvious the more it is likely for them to unnoticed in my eyes. All things eventually get absorbed into my perspective for all things emerging new upon the horizons of my constantly rolling mind. I see just a moment ago, I see no more now and the moment next will be the moment where all things would change into now.

In my world, things, however new and novel in appearance they might be, soon gel into forming a big jelly like lump that then I call my changing world. The most obvious is always in my eyes but I see that not, and only the things coming into my notice afresh however small they might be. I have been to many important places for many important businesses in my life along the paths of my journey into my hotly pursued destinations. I cannot help but notice people, things, palaces and situations around completely irrelevant to the main purpose of my journey.

I think I have overly healthy appetite for novelties, rarities, oddities and all things weird and wonderful. I grew bored quickly, and thus lose my interest into things that initially I held in my mind so endearingly. The scope of my observation is wide, but my eyes are always restless. I always look out for more, ever so more, mind boggling, surprising, shocking, awe-inspiring and amazing things in nature. And when I cannot find, I create. I make things up in the creative furnaces of my mind. I have vivid imagination and a mind for not only physical, but also metaphysical, and yet more for things completely illusionary in nature. This all then makes up to the dinner table of my observation as my normal daily ration.

The mere realistic world, in comparison to all this, is dull, drab and dreary. I consumed it all when I was just a teenager. I no longer see this world as it is, but the way it can best fitting to the purpose of my seeing; and you know now what that purpose is.

Answer 7

well obviously u've lived in a cave. it just goes to proove my point when any one says men are this way or women are this way dont have a clue. most women complain that they cant get men to simply talk about how they feel. u wanna blame our mothers wrong if anybodies fault its the women that aint a part of our family. those women just got make up their mind. and u act like women automatically know about multiple orgasms. wrong they dont. I know where the gspot is and most of the ppl i've had to explain it to are women.

Answer 8

Mothers don't teach their sons how to have sex!! At least, the law says they shouldn't!! LOL Women should show men what they want. If the man ain't interested enough to learn, find a different man. Some men love pleasuring women! It took me a few years to find that out but it's true!!!! Thank God for such awesome men!! LOL

Answer 9

hehehehhe Western culture based on cristhian-jewish developed culture.

Tantric concept brings love and respect to the Woman. It was said that woman is the temple of life and must have be praised.

Blame our Media, religion and Intelectuals. All blind by their own dogmas and creating many puppet clones of their poor ideias.

Answer 10

Well, first of all, not all men are the same. Just like all women are not the same. Second, as for myself, I enjoy bringing a woman to multiple orgasms. Thirdly, contact me and we will see what we can do about this for you... lol ...