Ive just plucked up the courage to start my driving lessons again my last instructor was a total asshole who if he wasnt having a go at me he was sending me personal sexually suggestive messages and pputting his hand on my leg i had to stop cos everytime i got in the car i was so nervous i just turned to jelly and made stupid mistakes i lost all my confidence ive got a lessson wensday with a female instructor this time im trying an automatic but im worried what if shes a total ***** or i **** up
2007-06-10 21:53:47 · 12 answers · asked by Alicia27 1 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
its just the fact he made me feel totally useless like i couldnt do it he even had a go at me once cos his girlfriend split up wit him .Even when i did things right he would have a go and it just totally destroyed my confidence my driving was really good and it just went totally downhill i try not to think about what he used to say but it sticks in my mind
2007-06-10 22:12:52 · update #1
hey dont worry to much.that bloke was a dick should have stopped having lessons with him immediatlly.and reported him.i used to be a driving instructer.not all of us are like that.im disabled now so have stopped doing it.i think youll find that woman will be ok.but if you pass test in automatic you will not be allowed to drive a manual car.atb.
2007-06-10 23:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable with the instructor , you will have problems with the lessons! Well done for finding the courage to resume lessons. I am two minds about resuming lessons myself as my hubby is extremely sexist when he gets behind the wheel. Also, when I had male instructors (not sexually ha ha) I felt that I wasn't learning as much as I did with a female! At least have a go on Wednesday and good luck!
2007-06-10 22:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by xenonvalkyrie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are paying and you are the boss. He / she may be the instructor, but everything besides the driving lesson should be at your "pleasure".
At anytime if you feel uncomfortable with the instructor, just change the instructor. PERIOD.
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I once took flying lessons. Me my firs instructor hit if off real good. I was advancing very quickly. But then he had to move to Florida and then I got some real losers for instructors. I was just not learning because one guy was just a yeller and another was a nervous wreak.
So don't blame yourself if you are not advancing because of bad instructors.
2007-06-10 22:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lover not a Fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were most unfortunate to have chosen a very bad instructor; they really aren't all like that. I had a male instructor and he was brilliant. Disassociate yourself with your past driving experiences and start your new course of lessons with a completely open mind and the will to succeed. If, however, you genuinly find this impossible to do after the first couple of lessons, be quite honest with the instructor and explain the reason for your nervousness; sharing this with her will probably be a weight off your mind and you'll find yourself able to move forward with success. Good luck!
2007-06-10 22:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by uknative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be brave!!! If this instructor is awful, report her to the school & make them give you another. You are paying for the lessons & you need to be comfortable w/ the person who is helping you learn. You don't need to be made to feel nervous by the person who should be helping you.
You can do anything you set your mind to do! Go Girl!
2007-06-10 21:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by SpaGirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to try your best to put your bad experience behind you and start a fresh with this new lady - might be worth taking a few minutes explaining to her that you have had a really bad experience before and this has made you very nervous. I'm sure she will completely understand and be very patient with you.
Well done on getting back behind the wheel - very brave!
2007-06-10 22:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by misslaura_porter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to drive so that you can hunt down your last instructor and run the git over!
Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine!
2007-06-10 23:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by newtothis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. I think you will find female instructors are more understanding and confidence building - so i'm told
2007-06-10 21:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Barbarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go girl you can do it!!!!
my fist driving instructor was doing that to me and putting his hand on my hand when changing gear and that this was with bsm to. so i changed and got this really old man he was so kind and helped me in every way. i passed my test first time.he never spoke to me like **** never shouted at me. you see if your going with a women she might be a bit of a cow but then again she might be nice. Gd luck x
2007-06-10 22:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by shell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I did my training I did handbook & they did take me on the line yet went to a extra secluded place to prepare then began with reasonably busy roads, then highways and so on. they are going to take you someplace devoid of lots site visitors & progressively introduce busier roads as you progression. do no longer complication... you would be positive :) they gained't assume you to be a professional, it incredibly is the place the instructor is offered in... to tutor you. attempt to no longer get worried, self belief is the main... think of roughly something else & you would be thinking why you have been ever worried. sturdy success :) & wish this enables.
2016-10-07 06:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋