What does that have to do with me?

Question

I had a great friend, he's a christian. We had good times , we talked a lot, in any topic, but some day he asked me about god, but i said, i don't believe in god, he doesn't exist. Anyway, so he dumped me and it's a long time that we haven't spoken. But what is my fault, i don't have faith in god, is that wrong, people can't force me to believe in something that i don't want to believe. What do you suggest, is it my fault?

Answer 1

It's not your fault at all. He apparently believes that they can't be around people who are not religious, that maybe they will influence him or something in a bad way.

It's too bad that he can't see beyond his religion and dropped your great friendship over something that is such a personal choice and has no real bearing on your friendship, especially if neither one of you brings up that topic on a regular basis.

You'll find other friends who aren't so particular. I'm atheist/agnostic myself, and I don't push it on people or tell them that unless they ask. If they don't like it, well that's their choice. I'm happy with my choices.

I don't think I'm an "evil" person, either: My husband and I both donate to charities because we want to help other people. (we are both atheists)

I just don't believe in God, the Devil, souls, ect.

I was raised in a religious family and had to attend church regularly until I was old enough to get a job: then I made sure I worked on Sundays.

Answer 2

I don't think that he did this because of you, but because his faith is an important issue. He must have been thinking about you for the long term and wanted a christain wife. You can't help the fact that you don't believe in God. He may not want to get any more involved with you because he knows that he would end up falling for you. A thing like this would be very hard on him, with his religous convictions. Maybe if you called him up and told him you would try to understand his religion, it might make a difference. But if you don't want to be pushed into believing in something you don't believe in, I still can understand. I'm sure giving you up was a hard thing for him to do. He was trying to follow his faith. He probably knew that if he stayed with you he would be trying to push his religion on you. God is a bigger part of his life than what you may be able to imagine.
I believe in God also, this is why I can understand where he is coming from. I would not want to be involved with someone who didn't believe in God because I would not want to lose my faith. I would want my husband to go to church with me if I ever get married. If I never marry because of this I will still be just as happy. It would be hard on me if my spouse didn't support me in my decision to be a christain. Because you don't believe in god he will not be able to feel supported in this. I would quit seeing my boyfriend if he didn't believe in god, even if I loved him very much.

Answer 3

No. Its his fault for being such a bible thumper.

Try not to worry about him too much. If he's gonna dump you like that at the drop of a hat, then he's no real friend and is not the type of person you thought he was.

Answer 4

This is his lose even more than it is your lose. He has to live with missing the times you shared as friends and knowing it was his fault for dumping you.
I have friends that are Christians, Pagans, Wiccans, Atheist, Buddhist, Hindus, I am cool with them all, and they are cool with me. Beliefs should never interfere with friendship.

Answer 5

it wasn't your fault. everyone is entitled to believe in God or the God for that matter. he just didn't have faith in himself..

i have tons of christian friends and none of them are pushy or left when i told them i wasn't a reborn christian..

Answer 6

salaam
it wasn't at all your fault,you have the right to say your beliefs .
I don't believe in God either.