Forced to do sexual things?

Question

This is very serious. I feel violoated . I am a male and I invited a guy over to my house.Well one thing led to another and we were being sexual (without intercourse)
The thing is, t his guy was very forceful to me...He was very strong and used alot of force to get me to do things I normally would not do.
I performed oral sex on him which I NEVER do...He was so forceful with this..
I feel violated in my own house. I really feel like I was sexually abused but I wasnt forced with violence just forced with his power

What should I do
I am not out but I have thought of talking to my dad about this matter
please help me

The guy hasnt talked to me and has ignored my attempts to communicate with him

He basically used me and forced me sexually

Answer 1

The way you describe it sounds like abuse to me. If you think your dad will be supportive then go for it. And don't try to contact that creep again. He probably realizes what he did was wrong and thats why he won't answer your calls. Depending on where you live and the laws there, you might have recourse to take action with the police.

Answer 2

First off let me start by saying that I am really sorry that something like this has happened to you. Unfourtanetly the statics of rape and sexual assualt are increasing at an unbelievably high rate every day. What you need to do is definitely inform your parents of this because they need to know for sure. You also need to go down to the police station and if you can file a report giving as much physical description as possible so that it is easier for the cops to try and hunt down that sick perv. After all of that you also need to pay a visit to the hospital. As you probably know when people have sexual intercourse whether that be oral, anal, etc there is a chance of contracting STD'S. Some of these are only uncomfortable and can usually be treated like Herpes, Gonnorhea, and Syphilis. However, there is also HIV and without getting a test for it soon enough and not doing exactly what your doctor tells you then it quickly transforms to AIDS which kills anyone who gets it. Again I regret very deeply that this happened to you and wish you the best of luck in getting this conflict resolved.

Answer 3

From what I've been hearing, this sort of thing is far more prevalent than we think.

Telling your dad about this is a judgment call I think only you can make. As for the police, I'm not so sure that's a good idea if you are over 18. After all, you DID invite him over, and this sexual encounter was initially consensual. You might be opening up a can of worms there that you'd wish you hadn't!

Whatever you decide to do, use this as a learning experience. We ALL must exercise caution when inviting strangers into our home, and having sex with someone you don't know is risky business. Be careful, or the next one could be a REAL psycho!

Answer 4

How recently did this happen? You might be able to press charges... talk to the police and see if they can get any forensic evidence. Even if they can't do anything they can still help you out.

Failing that, I still suggest that you talk to a counselor. Sexual abuse can be a very, very powerful thing, and it can haunt you for years (I know this b/c a similar thing happened to a friend). The counselor can help you with the abuse, and can also help you come out to your dad if you want.

If you think that you would be safe/ your dad would be accepting, you should talk to your dad, especially if you are under 18. It might be scary, but if he really loves you then he will be there for you because you just got raped, and you are his son. He might not even have a problem with you being gay.

Answer 5

If you are being force to do it, then you were the victim, and he had committed an offence of Outraging of Modesty.

Under Section 354 of Penal Code:- Whoever assaults or uses criminal force to any person, intending to outrage or knowing it to be likely that he will thereby outrage the modesty of that person, shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 2 years, or with fine, or with caning, or with any two of such punishments.

Take note this section mention nothing on the gender. Which meant male to male is also covered under this section. You should report this to the Police, don't let him get aways easily, as there may be other victim if no one dare to report against him.

Answer 6

well but did u like it at least?
or u just felt bad during the act?

coz if u did like it, u should b grateful to this guy coz although he used some non-orthodox way, hes shown u u can enjoy sex with bith men and women & thats one of the best things that can happen to a person...

sex is pleasure..pleasure is what keeps us alive...the more pleasure u can get out of life, the more ull enjoy life....

woody allen said he wished he was bi so he would have 50% more possibilities to score on satuarday nites out! ; )

if on the other hand, not only u didnt enjoy it, but u r 100% sure u didnt wanna do it, then u either kick this rapest ***, or go to the police...

while u try to figure it out, dont tell anything to ur father...
ull upset him 4 no reason.

in case ur younger than 18 and this guy instead is older than 18, go to the police immediately.

Answer 7

It is not your fault.I realy feel sorry for you.Not many males admit to being sexualy abused because stupid and ignorent society and culture views a male that was raped or phycologicaly or verbally forced to have sex is a victim of shame or a wek man.I disagree.Tell your dad and if hes not open minded tell a counsler and most importantily tell the police.Punch him in his eyes and nose tha run from him or kick him in his testicles and run next time that happens.I hate to admit it but i was fingered in school once and in a dressing room once.They were smaller and weaker but out numbered me and i didnt know who did it because my back was turned.THE WORLD CAN BE CRUEL.

Answer 8

Wow. that sounds pretty awful. no one should make you do something that you do not want to do. Whatever you do DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF! No one ever has a right to do that-even if you asked them into your house, had drinks with them, kissed them, messed around with them, etc......
Don't go out with him again! He may hurt you worse next time. It does not sound like you are safe with him.

Have you thought about calling a hot line like The Gay & Lesbian National Hot Line: 1.888.THE.GLNH (843.4564)?
There are also Male Sexual Assautl hotlines. I put one link below for you.

There are other support numbers you can call as well. Just Google your area and use words like date violence/ date rape/ gay and lesbian support groups. Then pick some agency you feel comfortable talking to and tell them your story. Let us know who you choose and if they were helpful or not. Good Luck.

Answer 9

You have some kind of problem with assertiveness. I don't know if this abuse if he didn't use violence or other means of forceful persuasion like black mail. If he did it against your wishes with some sort of force it may be rape (depending on the legislature in your country). Talk to a lawyer and a psychiatrist.

Answer 10

Don't tell your father. Just do not invite him come to your house anymore. Time will tell you that doesn't work for you or you will miss it later on. This is a special case to match up two character Dom and Sub. The only problem I see here is you never did it before. therefore you feel stranged